checking out

Explore " checking out" with insightful episodes like "Sexuality After Trauma", "Check In And Don't Check Out", "Break Away From Looking Away: The Sweet Spot Between Taking Too Much In & Checking Out", "SpaceX!! We Want to Go to Mars!! - Checking In Podcast #20" and "The STORIES of How LORI Got Into REPTILES!! - Checking In Podcast #18" from podcasts like ""GETSOME", "Safer Stronger Kids - The Podcast", "One Day You Finally Knew: For Folx Breaking Away", "Checking In" and "Checking In"" and more!

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Sexuality After Trauma

Today, I had the incredible opportunity to speak with the remarkable Marlee Liss. Marlee is a somatic educator, award-winning speaker, author, restorative justice advocate and lesbian Jewish feminist. Marlee made history in the justice system when her sexual assault case became the 1st in North America to conclude with restorative justice through the courts. Since then, she has coached hundreds of women and non-binary folk in healing shame and transforming trauma. I had the privilege of talking with Marlee about her story, what somatic education is and the positive impact that somatic healing can have for survivors of sexual assault and healing shame. Get ready for a thought-provoking and empowering conversation!

Show Notes

Intro:

[00:00:15] Michelle introduces Marlee Liss, restorative justice advocate, award winning speaker and somatic sex educator

[00:00:39] Marlee explains restorative justice and its focus on repair and healing

[00:01:19] Michelle discusses Marlee's groundbreaking case and its impact on her sense of self.

[00:02:00] Marlee's experience with sexual trauma and questioning her sexuality

[00:02:23] Michelle introduces somatic education and its connection to healing

[00:03:15] Marlee shares the importance feeling connected with one's body for self-care

[00:04:05] The significance of understanding our bodies' needs for healthy relationships

Start of Interview

[00:04:25] Michelle acknowledges Marlee's achievements and discusses restorative justice

[00:05:00] Marlee explains restorative justice as an approach prioritizing repair and healing

[00:06:06] Michelle asks about the somatic lens in relation to restorative justice

[00:07:00] Marlee explores the body's wisdom and the shift from judgment to recognizing function

[00:07:53] Marlee shares her journey as a dancer

[00:08:49] Exploring somatics as a means of processing trauma and healing

[00:10:25] Michelle discusses the challenges survivors face in intimate relationships

[00:11:39] Marlee reflects on her own experience with trauma, sexuality, and self-reflection

[00:12:14] The importance of building a loving relationship with oneself

[00:13:06] Marlee emphasizes the need to process trauma in a safe environment

[00:14:05] Marlee's exploration of her relationship to sexuality and boundaries

[00:15:04] Michelle highlights the societal conditioning and scripts around sexuality

[00:16:18] Marlee emphasizes the importance of relational healing and communication

[00:17:00] Michelle discusses the role of trauma-informed care in sexual relationships

[00:18:23] Marlee shares her journey towards liberation and authentic identity

[00:19:24] The significance of skillful care and trauma-informed interactions

[00:20:08] Michelle emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and having uncomfortable conversations

[00:20:54] Marlee: Talks about the discomfort of setting boundaries in the short term and the consequences of not setting boundaries in the long term.

[00:21:20] Michelle: Asks Marlee about the common reasons people seek somatic education.

[00:22:21] Marlee: Discusses the unkind conditions of Western society that are unkind to the body, such as capitalist urgency culture, burnout, vicarious trauma, and pressure to heal quickly.

[00:23:31] Marlee: Mentions the additional challenges of body shame, body image issues, disordered eating, and the impact of a culture of fat phobia and objectification.

[00:24:24] Michelle: Asks Marlee how to approach helping someone with a history of sexual trauma and body discomfort.

[00:24:49] Marlee: Emphasizes the collaborative and non-expert approach of somatic education, encouraging clients to tap into their body wisdom and recognizing the brilliance of the body's natural processes.

[00:25:37] Marlee: Suggests asking guiding questions to bring someone into their body, such as noticing sensations and exploring the wisdom of certain body movements.

[00:26:53] Michelle: Comments on the mindful aspect of the somatic approach and the importance of bringing awareness to the mind-body connection.

[00:28:19] Marlee: Defines dissociation as numbing or checking out, and explains the freeze response as a self-protective mechanism that can be observed in animals as well.

[00:31:14] Marlee: Defines glimmers as cues of safety and discusses their importance in the healing process.

[00:32:31] Marlee: Provides strategies for self-regulation during a trauma response, such as dialoguing with the body, orienting oneself, and using breath and other sensory cues.

[00:36:19] Marlee: Talks about her current projects, including a documentary and speaking engagements on topics like restorative justice, trauma-informed pleasure, and queer sex education.

[00:37:43] Marlee: Shares her contact information, including her Instagram handle, website, and newsletter.

[00:38:58] Marlee: Encourages listeners to reach out

[00:39:22] Michelle: Asks Marlee for a helpful message for someone who has experienced sexual trauma.

[00:40:26] Marlee: Expresses gratitude for the conversation and thanks the listeners.

Where to find Marlee Liss:

Marlee Liss's Website and Instagram

Don’t forget to subscribe to Marlee’s newsletter on her website for free resource guides to restorative justice, queer empowerment, and healing after trauma.

Institute for Somatic Education

This show was produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

Show ideas or questions? Email michelle@getsome.ca and follow me on Instagram @getsome_podcast

enJuly 13, 2023

Check In And Don't Check Out

Do you know that there is a parenting challenge that is so normalized, so expected, so talked about that there’s ever a chance that you would’ve known this stage before you even became a parent, and even before you had children, just accepted that this is a challenge you will face that you didn’t really give it much thought after that?

We have normalized the idea that parents will be sidelined, no longer relevant to their teenagers and even to their tweens. We have normalized it to the point where parents now take it for granted. They stop knocking. They think their child doesn't want them to knock, and instead they wait. They accept.

In this episode, we will be:

encouraging you to check in instead of checking out your teenager, your tween
guiding you to let them find their place in the world without interfering or controlling them
helping you to let them individuate while still being able to stay connected with you
making sure that our children or our teenagers have the freedom that they need

Got any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:

Website

Facebook Profile

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Podcast Produced by Livvi Music Media

Safer Stronger Kids - The Podcast

enMarch 27, 2023

Break Away From Looking Away: The Sweet Spot Between Taking Too Much In & Checking Out

When something terrible in the world happens that isn't directly happening to us, we have a choice. We can look away, deciding it's too much pain to take in and feel. Or, we can keep looking, deciding to let the pain of the world pierce our hearts and let it be a call to action.

If you're someone for whom taking in the pain makes it too much for you to get through your days with at least some moments of peace, you must find the middle way.

The middle way means avoiding the extremes in life. Life is always going to be full of polarities. Contrast and complement are crucial to living. No light without dark. No joy without pain.
We must practice the middle way if we're going to make it through this world; our horrible, gorgeous, profane, sacred, fucked up, perfect world.

We can't look away. But we can't let the looking destroy us.

In this episode, Jessica talks about ways that we can strike this balance, including choosing wisely how you get your information and how to get curious about what other food you're giving your head. She includes resources to help and reminds you that even the smallest donation still makes a difference toward alleviating suffering. She shares some things you can do to feel less helpless, hopeless, and immobilized. And also includes her belief that taking breaks can be a part of essential boundary setting; that it can refresh you and helps you to get back into the world with more generosity.

Links for helping Afghan refugees:

No One Left Behind: https://www.nooneleft.org
Chartering flights and helping with Special Immigration Visas (SIVs)

International Refugee Assistance Project: http://www.refugeerights.org
Providing legal resources for Afghan refugees

Together Rising: https://www.togetherrising.org
Presently giving donations to Women For Afghan Women (WAW) @womenforafghanwomen on IG, who are working around the clock in Kabul to provide emergency services and continue crucial programs for Afghan women, children, and families.

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The One Day You Finally Knew: For Women Breaking Away podcast is produced and edited by Jessica Chasnoff, a recovering perfectionist who is always on a learning curve. While she is a psychologist, this podcast is not a substitute for mental health services. If you're struggling with mental health concerns, please reach out to a professional near you.

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