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Episode 146 - You are into what? Kink shaming ! - In this Episode of Kinky Frame of Mind, Don and Syn talk about what is going on in their lives. Syn talks about her trip to Denver and Meow Wolf. Don talks about his recent rope classes and date with motorboat!  Then they discuss at topic on Redit that was sent to them about kink shaming people cause of what they are into.They discuss why this is an issue and discuss it happening to them. Then they talk about watching a person's behavior is more important to tell if there are issues. 

Gender is a social construct. Und dass wir in der heutigen Zeit nicht mehr den binären Geschlechterrollen folgen müssen, beweist Alice Erik Moe. Als Drag King Eric Big Clit hat Alice Erik die Drag Szene in Österreich maßgeblich beeinflusst und geprägt. Warum Mulan theoretisch ein Drag King ist und wie es war der erste ‚Mister Tuntenball‘ in Graz zu sein, erfahrt ihr hier im Podcast.

ERIC BIG CLIT

RYTA TALE

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DRAG KING
Der Drag King ist das Pendant zur Drag Queen. Meist verkleidet und schminkt sich eine Frau so, dass sie als Cis-Mann durchgehen könnte. Dabei ist es, wie auch bei Drag Queens, unabhängig von Genderidentität und sexueller Orientierung.

GENDERFLUID
Die Ausprägung ‚genderfluid‘ bewegt sich zwischen den Geschlechtern männlich-weiblich (oder weiteren).

MULAN
Der 1998 erschienene Disney-Film handelt von dem chinesischen Mädchen Fa Mulan, die durch ihren Einzug in den Krieg gegen die Hunnen ihrem Vater alle Ehre machen will. Sie verkleidet sich als männlicher Krieger und kämpft so für ihr Land.

TUNTENBALL GRAZ
Seit 1990 veranstalten die ‚RosaLila PantherInnen‘ fast jährlich den Grazer Tuntenball und feiern in dieser Nacht Diversität. Dabei darf der Bewerb zur ‚Miss Tuntenball‘ nicht fehlen. 2020 wurde mit Eric Big Clit der erste ‚Mister Tuntenball‘ gekürt.

PRIDE / REGENBOGENPARADE
Alljährlich finden in sehr vielen Städten der Welt Regenbogenparaden (auch Pride genannt) statt. Hier setzen alle Beteiligten ein Zeichen für die Akzeptanz von queeren Menschen und fordern gleiche Rechte für alle.

TRIFF DEINEN FEIND
2021 strahlte der österreichische Sender Puls4 insgesamt 5 Folgen der Serie ‚Triff deinen Feind‘ aus. Das Konzept beinhaltet ein Gespräch zwischen zwei Personen, die zu einem bestimmten Thema unterschiedliche Ansichten diskutieren. 

PUNK
Punk ist eine Jugendkultur die Mitte der 70er-Jahre in New York City und London entstanden ist. Im Zuge der Bewegung entwickelte sich auch die Musikrichtung ‚Punk-Rock‘.

NON-BINARY
Nicht-binär ist eine Sammelbezeichnung für Geschlechtsidentitäten, die sich nicht ausschließlich als männlich oder weiblich identifizieren. Es hat mit dem biologischen Geschlecht und mit der sexuellen Orientierung nichts zu tun. Auch die Verwendung der Pronomen bei non-binary Personen kann variieren. Viele verwenden im Englischen die Pronomen ‚they/them‘, was sich auf die deutsche Sprache oft leider schwer ummünzen lässt. Wenn man sich nicht sicher ist, welche Pronomen die jeweilige Person verwendet, hilft nur eins: nachfragen!

TRANSGENDER
Als Transgender, bezeichnet man Personen, deren Geschlechteridentität nicht oder nicht vollständig mit dem bei Geburt anhand der äußeren Merkmale im Geburtenregister eingetragene Geschlecht übereinstimmt oder die eine binäre Geschlechtszuordnung ablehnen.

QUEER
Queer ist ein Überbegriff für alle sexuellen Orientierungen oder Genderidentitäten, die sich außerhalb des heteronormativen Spektrums befinden.

COMING OUT
Bekennt sich eine Person privat oder öffentlich zur ihrer Genderidentität oder ihrer sexuellen Orientierung, so spricht man von einem ‚Coming Out‘.

BINDING
Unter Binding versteht man, wenn eine weibliche Person ihre Brüste so nach hinten klebt bzw. ablebt, dass der Busen möglichst versteckt ist und die Illusion entsteht, dass es sich um eine männliche Person handelt.

GENDERIDENTITÄT
Genderidentität oder Geschlechtsidentität beschreibt, ob man sich dem bei der Geburt zugeteiltem Geschlecht identifiziert oder nicht. Geläufige Genderidentitäten sind zum Beispiel ‚Mann‘, ‚Frau‘ oder ‚Non-Binary‘.

SEXUELLE ORIENTIERUNG
Sexuelle Orientierung erfasst die nachhaltigen Interessen einer Person bezüglich des Geschlechts bzw. der Geschlechtsidentität. Dazu zählen zum Beispiel ‚Heterosexualität‘, ‚Homosexualität‘ oder ‚Bisexualität‘.

AGENDER
Personen, die sich als Agender bezeichnen, haben kein Geschlecht. Es kann eine Form von Nicht-binärität aber auch die Tatsache, dass diese Person ausdrücklich kein Geschlecht besitzt sein.

PANSEXUALITÄT
Die altgriechische Vorsilbe ‚pan‘ heißt ‚gesamt‘ und bezeichnet somit eine sexuelle Orientierung, bei der Personen in ihrem Begehren keine Vorauswahl nach Geschlecht oder Geschlechtsidentität treffen.

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On this week's episode of Redefining Family, Jonathan has the pleasure of speaking with his old friend Jonathan Goldstein and his daughter Madi Goldstein.   At seventeen, Madi came out to Jonathan and his wife as transgender.  Since then, they have not only supported her, but have become advocates for her and the trans and queer communities.

Jonathan discusses the realization him and his wife had that Madi was struggling with her gender identity.  Madi explains that she felt a disconnect with her mind and body, which made her feel so very isolated.  With the support of her family, Madi is thriving and finally feels like she belongs.  Madi also talks about finding community and support online, and Jonathan discusses advice he has for parents of trans and queer children.

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More About The Goldsteins

Jonathan and his wife have been married for over 20 years and are the proud parents of two amazing kids. Madi who is 18 and Micah who is 16. In addition to parenting two amazing teenagers, Jonathan has been a youth group advisor to temple youth groups affiliated with the North American Federation of Temple Youth (NFTY) off and on since 1998. When he is not attending youth group events,  Jonathan can be found at his synagogue where he is a Cantorial Soloist. But, more often you can find him managing the Energy & Utility Practice at CG Infinity.

This week on Redefining Family Jonathan interviews author Jonathan Alexander.   Jonathan first talks about his struggles growing up in the deep south, especially once he decided he wanted to come out.  He turned 18 at the beginning of the AIDS epidemic and he tried to come out in college, however there was no real support or community for LGBTQ+ individuals. 

Jonathan then discusses how he ended up marrying a woman and the realizations they both came to about their relationship before the split.   Additionally, Jonathan talks about learning to love himself as a kid and his close relationship with his mother.

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About Jonathan Alexander

Jonathan Alexander is a writer living in Southern California where he is Chancellor’s Professor of English at the University of California, Irvine. He is the author, co-author, or editor of twenty-one books. His cultural journalism has been widely published, especially in the Los Angeles Review of Books (LARB) for which he is the Special Projects Editor. He is also the host of LARB’s “Writing Sex,” a YouTube series of short interviews with contemporary writers on sex and sexuality. (Previous guests include Garth Greenwell, Andre Aciman, and Dennis Cooper.) LARB founding editor Tom Lutz has called Alexander one of “our finest essayists.” He lives with his husband and cat, and when not writing, dabbles in watercolors and plays piano in a music ensemble with friends. For more about Jonathan Alexander and his books please visit www.thecreeptrilogy.com and www.the-blank-page.com.

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On this week's episode of Redefining Family, Jonathan starts the show by opening up about his time at The Men Having Babies Conference in San Fransisco.   Jonathan then has a wonderful conversation with Erick Matos, an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community and a public policy specialist with nearly a decade of experience in state and local government.

Erick opens up about what it was like growing up in a religious family in a small town, and when it was that he first realized that he was gay.  He talks about everything from the desire to be a good Christian son, to his first closeted relationship in college, to then finally deciding that he wanted to live authentically.

Erick also talks about the importance of having a close circle to support you, whether they are blood relatives or not.  And of course, how to show up for the ones you love.

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About Erick Matos

Erick Matos (he/him/his) is a public policy specialist with nearly a decade of experience in state and local government. He currently works for a public health insurance plan that provides affordable coverage to over 2 million low income Los Angeles County residents. He holds a Master’s Degree in Public Health, with a concentration in Health Services and Policy from the University of Southern California. Erick grew up in a religious family in Central California, having struggled internally for years before finally accepting his identity as a gay man. He lives in West Hollywood with his partner Jon and their beloved dog Niko. 

On this week's episode of "Redefining Family" Jonathan starts off the show by talking about how he felt like he came out later in life when he was in his 20's.  However, after talking to this week's guest Kathy Kiger, he realized that there are people that come out even later than he did, and wow, does Kathy have a story to tell.

Kathy grew up in Texas to a very religious family, and she felt as though religion was forced on her.  She felt like her whole life she was "pushing the gay down", not consciously acknowledging her true sexual preferences.  She then got married, had 4 kids, and one day she had an epiphany....she was a lesbian, and yes, she was fifty years old. 

Kathy discusses what it was like coming out to her family, and how to her surprise, several of her kids came out when she came out to them.  She then gets into what her current relationship with her ex husband and the rest of her family is like and how her life has changed for the better.

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About Kathy Kiger

Kathy Kiger is a copywriter in the holistic health space. She writes blogs, emails, and sales pages for nutritionists, dietitians, and other health professionals. Kathy has wandered the career path extensively over the years as a private flute teacher, public school educator, natural childbirth instructor, and nutritional therapist. 

Kathy was raised as an evangelical Christian and dutifully followed all the rules — from homeschooling her kids and baking her own bread to suppressing her sexual orientation for decades. 

After being married for almost 15 years, and then divorced for 10, Kathy finally had her “holy shit I’m a lesbian” day in early 2021. She is a single mom with 4 kids ages 15 - 23, many of whom are also queer.

Kathy has recently started the Better Late Than Straight blog and email digest where she shares her own insights as a late-blooming lesbian, along with resources, and the stories of other women who have embraced their queerness later in life.

https://www.betterlatethanstraight.com

On this week's  Redefining Family, Jonathan opens the episode with an update on his life, talking about finding a surrogate and unexpected twists and turns along the way.

Jonathan then brings on his amazing guest, Rev. Naomi Washington-Leapheart.  Naomi's list of accolades and accomplishments is long and ever so impressive.  However what's more impressive are Naomi's powerful messages , the way she came into her work and the beautiful life she lives today.  

We also discuss what it was like for Naomi to not just come out to her family, but to the public as well.  It was not easy, however Naomi has faced any hardship she has faced with love, wisdom and acceptance.

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About Rev. Naomi Washington-Leapheart

Naomi Washington-Leapheart, a daughter of Detroit, is an adjunct faculty member in the Theology and Religious Studies department at Villanova University.

Most recently, Naomi was the Faith Outreach Director at the National LGBTQ Task Force. Prior to working at the Task Force, she was the suburban community organizer for POWER, a multi-faith, multi-racial network of congregations in Metro Philadelphia. She also served as Co-Pastor and Minister of Music at the Wisdom’s Table at St. Peter’s United Church of Christ. She is affiliated with the Fellowship of Affirming Ministries and the United Church of Christ, and earned the Master of Divinity degree from Lancaster Theological Seminary in 2016.

Naomi’s work is included in the volume,”From Generation to Generation: A Commemorative Collection of African American Millennial Sermons from the Festival of Preachers 2010-2015, a rare and unique compilation of what the nation’s most promising young African-American ministers are thinking and proclaiming about the Christian faith (Chalice Press, 2015).

Naomi shares her life with her wife, Kentina, a chaplain and religious educator. Together, they are raising a curious, energetic, future Oscar-winning 5th grader, Sophia.

This week Jonathan opens the episode by talking about how he has always felt supported by his ancestors, but some people have showed up negatively in his past, so he has had to make some tough decisions.  That being said, he has no regrets.

ç  Having survived sexist violence and anti-lesbian disownment as a youth, Dr. Grant became a go-to resource on gender and sex among her peers and colleagues as a matter of survival.   Jamie is now a mom in a biracial parenting partnership, raising a white son (23) and a Black, mixed-race daughter (14).

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About Jamie 

Jaime Grant was the Policy Institute Director at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and the founding Executive Director of the Arcus Center for Social Justice Leadership. Currently she is the director of the research director for the National LGBTQ+ Women's Community Survey.  She holds a Ph.D. in women’s studies from the Union Institute. For six years she directed the Union Institute's Center for Women, the nation's only academic women's center dedicated to collaborations between scholars and activists. Her articles on transformational organizations and coalition work have been published in major academic journals and anthologies. Grant has offered a course in social movements at Georgetown University and Kalamazoo College and workshops on gender expression and sexuality at Whitman Walker’s Lesbian Services Program and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force's Creating Change Conference. She has served as a program designer and facilitator for the Ford Foundation’s signature leadership program, Leadership for a Changing World, at the Advocacy Institute.

On this week's episode of Redefining Family Jonathan had the pleasure of speaking with  photographer, activist and artist Zak Krevitt.  Zak opens up about his teen years, what it was like coming out to his family and his  introduction to West Hollywood nightlife when he was just a teen.  He then talks about the underground scenes he has been a part of within the LGBTQ+ community and his current work with the Web3 space where he works with Queer Artists as they try to build a digital museum dedicated to Queer Art and culture.

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About Zak

Zak Krevitt (b. 1991, Los Angeles) is a longtime advocate for LGBTQ+ communities. For over a decade, he has been working with, marching for, and fundraising alongside his queer community for a variety of related causes. Most recently he has began long distance cycling while shooting, in conjunction with fundraising efforts for HIV/AIDS. His work lives within this passion for queer advocacy, and represents his lived experiences both public and private. The work also deals heavily in concepts of transformation, post-humanism, power-exchange, anthropology, and the ability to create authenticity through photographic crystallization of reified desire. Krevitt is a Professor at the School of Visual Arts Department of Photo and Video in NYC under the guidance of Joseph Maida. He hopes to impart a spirit of activism, adventure, community and creative expansion into his students.

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On this very special episode of Redefining Family, Jonathan starts  by talking about his dear friend Julie, who sadly passed away. last year of cancer.  Julie was in love with EVERYTHING Golden Girls.  She went on a Golden Girls cruise and could reference countless episodes. 

Jonathan then goes on to interview Stan Zimmerman, one of the original writers of Golden Girls and countless other hit shows and films like Roseanne, The Gilmore Girls and A Very Brady Sequel (to name a few).  

Stan opens up about what it was like for him growing up, coming out and then becoming one of Hollywood's most beloved writers.  They also discuss why gay men connected to The Golden Girls so much and the family and life that Stan has created for himself within the LGBTQ+ community.  

This episode is for you Julie! 

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About Stan

Along with his writing partner James Berg, Stan's worked on many television series, including season one of The Golden Girls, Brothers, Fame, Hooperman, Something Wilder, Roseanne, Wanda at Large and the highly successful fifth season of Gilmore Girls. They penned the "Norman Mailer, I'm Pregnant" episode. Z&B (as they're also known) have 2 WGA nominations to their credit -- "Rose's Mother" from The Golden Girls and the other for "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", the infamous lesbian kiss episode of Roseanne.

He will also be mentoring writers at a castle in France in May 2022. Stan recently signed a deal with Indigo River to publish his book, "The Girls: From Golden to Gilmore". In it, he will tell stories about all the wonderful women he's worked with. And Roseanne.

In this episode Jonathan gives us a peek into his life outside of "Redefining Family" and his recent travels for work.  He then discusses his love for an old HBO show called "Oz,"  which was a fictional series that took place in a male prison.  This then leads into a wonderful conversation with Rev.  Tyler Sit, who has worked as a prison chaplain, among many other things.  Tyler is the son of a Chinese immigrant, and he discusses what it was like coming out to his family and how he became a pastor.  Tyler is the pastor at a church that is predominately people of color with many members also being a part of the LGBTQ+ community.  He discusses his unique journey and much more!

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About Tyler

Rev. Tyler Sit has had the immense pleasure of being the church planter of New City Church, a church led mostly by queer people of color. He is a lover of Minnesota, a United Methodist pastor, and the son of a Chinese immigrant. Tyler earned a BS in Communication Studies from Boston University and a Masters of Divinity from Candler School of Theology, and he has lived in four continents. He has formal training as a prison chaplain, community organizer, and social entrepreneur. When he is not at New City, you’ll find Tyler wandering around the Mississippi River.

New City has been featured in the New York Times, The Atlantic, Minnesota Public Radio, and more.

https://www.tylersit.com

In this episode Jonathan talks about the role that religion and going to church played in his life growing up.  For the most part, going to church was a positive experience because it brought him closer to his grandmother.  However that is not that case for everyone, as some may say, religion is complicated.  Jonathan then  speaks with  podcaster, presenter and content creator Sean Szeps and they discuss what it was like for him to grow up in the Roman Catholic Church and the effect it had on him coming out..   They also discuss the role religion plays in his life now and how he  raises his children today.

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About Sean

Sean Szeps is an American podcaster, presenter and content creator living in Australia. Previously the host of The Dad Kit and The Baby Bubble podcasts, Sean can currently be heard as the host of LISTNR’s Come Out Wherever You Are, a podcast dedicated to unpacking the coming out experiences of various members of the LGBTQI+ community.Sean lives in Sydney with his husband and twin toddlers, Stella and Cooper. He likes reality television, loves drag queens, and can’t imagine life without sour gummies and bold sunnies.

Sean Szeps Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/seanszeps/

Chris and Stephanie tackle a variety of uncomfortable moments - what not to ask to those coming out, offensive questions vs curious questions, workplace coming out, and our own experiences responding to these situations. Just the tip of the iceberg - give it a listen!

I love telling stories. I never thought my experiences coming out would resonate with so many people, but here we are.... starting a podcast. In this episode I'll share a little bit about the "why" behind Edugaytion 101 and what you can expect for future episodes, as well as a little bit about my own coming out story. Hope you enjoy. 

Je Prague Pride jen o boji za rovná práva nebo spíš oslava rozmanitosti života? To v aktuálním díle podcastu Tady Vodafone rozbereme s Janem Hegenbarthem. Vyrazil i letos do ulic pod duhovým praporem? Jak vnímá prostředí ve Vodafonu, který byl i letos partnerem LGBT festivalu? Jaký byl Honzův coming out a jakou podporu dnes můžou LGBT lidé v takové situaci dostat? Poslechněte si další letní díly našeho podcastu!  

On this episode, Sunetro and Farhad talk about how long distance relationship is a relative term when one lives in Mumbai. Are we always in a long distance relationship when we depend on online platforms for all the socializing needs? How do relationships evolve? What is the concept of 'space' in a relation?

Tune in to this episode to understand modern day love as it is today with Sunetro and Farhad.

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Who is straight enough? Does platonic non-sexual relationship exist? What happens when one hooks up with someone who hasn't come to terms with their sexuality? On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro talk about dating closeted or married people and what are its consequences.

Tune in to this episode to understand and analyze the complexities involved in the monogamous and exclusive relationships.

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On our Valentine's Special Episode, Farhad and Sunetro analyze the importance and the hype around Valentine's Day. Is it merely an extension of commercial consumption? Does it put unnecessary pressure on the partners to go out of their way and express love? Or does it really feel nice to acknowledge love on this day?

Tune in to find out which movies would they watch with their partners on this day and how far would they go to challenge it or be a part of the celebration!

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On this episode, Farhad and Sunetro discuss what it means to cheat someone when we are entering the age of open relationships. Is it emotional cheating or physical cheating? Do we feel possessive about our partners?

Tune in to this tete-a-tete where both the hosts talk about their experiences of cheating as well as being cheated on.

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