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Do you ever feel like life would be easier if you could just control everything? Or, perhaps you'd say you're not controlling...as long as everything goes the way you want it to! Friend, I understand both of those concepts--too well! That's why I invited my friend, author Jennifer Dukes Lee on the show today to talk candidly about it. Jennifer offers some great insights that will encourage your heart if this is an area in which you are wrestling. Here are a few things we talk about today.

Why Do We Want to Control Everything?

• The connection between our desire for approval and control.
• How it can be very subtle.
• How high achieving, high capacity women may be more likely to have this challenge.
• How control keeps us from connection!
• Why being a 'control freak' is actually an asset in certain professions--but how it may not be an asset at home.
• How to have a mindset shift in this arena.
• Why being capable doesn't always equal being called.
• And so much ore!

Jennifer Dukes Lee is the author of several books mentioned in today's show including (Amazon affiliate links):

• Love Idol: https://amzn.to/34qPFs5
• It's All Under Control: https://amzn.to/3stBLOa
• It's All Under Control Bible Study: https://amzn.to/3ovXbIZ
• Growing Slow: https://amzn.to/3shDQfQ
• Find freebies Jennifer mentioned here: https://jenniferdukeslee.com/itsallundercontrol
• Connect with Jennifer at Jenniferdukeslee.com

If you enjoyed this episode and want more ideas to answer the question: Why do we want to control everything? Check out this episode of the podcast called How to Stop Being a Controlling Woman or this one on the connection between eating disorders and control.

You may also enjoy these posts from the archives: How a Control Freak Almost Ruined My Marriage and What to Do When You Feel Out of Control with Body Image Issues.

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I know all about battling control and so does today's guest, Shannon Popkin, author of the book, "Control Girl." Today, Shannon and I talk about all things related to how to stop being a controlling woman. We talk about: why women control, how we control, and what some of the antidotes are for control. If you're looking for help on how to stop being this kind of controlling woman, I hope you'll tune in to this delightful and informative conversation.

Here are some of the highlights from How to Stop Being a Controlling Woman:

• Shannon and I share our stories of trying to control our husband's clothing choices (and not in a helpful way!).
• We talk about where this whole struggle with control began, biblically, and how women have been wrestling control since the days of Eve.
• We talk about becoming aware of the things we are trying to control and then becoming realistic about what is within our control and what is outside of our control.
• Controlling our bodies, our food, our families, and other things can have a real (and damaging) impact on our lives. We discuss some of the effect of control.
• We end with some encouragement for moms who have a prodigal child, are trying to raise "healthy" daughters, and more.
• You may want to check out Heather's confession of being a controlling woman and how it affected her marriage in this blog post.

Mentioned in today's show:

Shannon's book, Control Girl - Find it here on Amazon (Amazon affiliate link). https://amzn.to/3oo2URc

Shannon's first episode with Heather on comparison. LIsten here. https://comparedtowho.me/podcast-quitting-the-comparison-girl-game-with-shannon-popkin/

Erin Davis's book, Grafitti for girls. (Amazon affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3rpbUYh

Get freebies from Shannon here: https://www.controlgirl.com

Connect with Shannon here: https://www.shannonpopkin.com or on Instagram or Facebook.

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