coping with death

This week's Decent Fucking Human is Tonje Wyn-Jones. Her fucked up story is about the death of her 18-month old daughter from SIDS. 

Tonje was on a business trip when she got “the call no mother wants to get.” It was her brother, and all he would say is that she had to come home. She hung up and called her husband, and he told her their 18-month old daughter had died unexpectedly overnight. 

She had to get home. She was in another part of the country, she was alone, and she had to get home. It was the only thing she could do, and it wasn’t as easy as just going home. She was hours away from the airport, and once there, she had to figure out how to get a flight. It was there when she was desperately trying to get home that she heard herself say “my daughter just died.” 

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This episode features a series of interviews from community members in Southern California who deal with death regularly. Rev. Greg Coppock, pastor at Sunrise Christian Fellowship in Fallbrook, CA and former San Diego Sheriff Chaplain; Dr. Lillian Harvey Banchik, retired trauma surgeon; Rev. Cate Luehr, Children's Hospital Los Angeles Chaplain and ELCA pastor; Dr. Nilesh Vora, Oncologist, Hematologist, and Palliative Care Physician at Long Beach Memorial Hospital, share their insights regarding death, as well as provide advice for people dealing with death.

Topics in this episode include:

1) Talking to children about death

2) Professionals coping with death

3) The impact of death on the lives of the living, including caregivers

Welcome back to the conclusion of our special two-part interview with retired Death Investigator and author, Barbara Butcher of the New York City Medical Examiner's Office. 

Barbara Butcher spent 23 years at the New York City Office of Chief Medical Examiner as a death investigator, director of the Forensic Sciences Training Program, and chief of staff. There she investigated more than 5500 deaths, 680 of them homicides. She worked mass disasters, including 9/11, the 2004 tsunami in Thailand, the London Underground bombing, and the crash of Flight 587.

During this interview, Barbara opens up and lets us into the life of a death investigator being confronted with death and profound sadness on a daily basis and the toll it took on her physical and mental health. 

We also have a candid talk about alcoholism and her “rock bottom.” Barbara also shares her recovery from this deadly disease and the good that came from it.
 
 I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did.

In today’s episode we discuss:

·      Tools of her trade as a death investigator. 

·      The relationship she had with the cops and how they worked together to solve the crime.

·      How the time of death gets determined in real life. Spoiler alert, not like what you see on T.V. or the movies.

·      Advise for rookie death investigators or someone thinking about this job as a future career.

·      Testifying in court. 

·      What she misses the most about the job. 

·      Faith in a higher power after being subjected to so much death and profound sadness.

·      Why she wrote her book, “What the Dead Know” and why it is so popular.

·      Her writing process.

·      “You don’t have that much time. Be kind.”

Visit Barbara at her website!
Purchase her book, What the Dead Know: Learning About Life as a New York City Death Investigator
Check out Weekends at Bellevue: Nine Years on the Night Shift at the Psych ER and When Breath Becomes Air

Check out Field Training (Brew City Blues Book 1)!!
Enjoy the Cops and Writers book series.
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Today is episode one of a special two-part interview with retired Death Investigator and Author, Barbara Butcher of the New York City Medical Examiner's Office. 

Barbara Butcher spent 23 years at the New York City Office of Chief Medical Examiner as a death investigator, director of the Forensic Sciences Training Program, and chief of staff. There she investigated more than 5500 deaths, 680 of them homicides. She worked mass disasters including 9/11, the 2004 tsunami in Thailand, the London Underground bombing, and the crash of Flight 587.

During this interview, Barbara opens up and lets us into the life of a death investigator being confronted with death and profound sadness on a daily basis and the toll it took on her physical and mental health. 

We also have a candid talk about alcoholism and her “rock bottom.” Barbara also shares her recovery from this deadly disease and the good that came from it.
 
 I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did.

 In today’s episode we discuss:

·      Her interview on the James Altucher Show Podcast and his notion that New York is dead, spoiler alert. She doesn’t think so! 

·      Her honesty and willingness to be vulnerable with her new book and this interview.

·      Growing up in New York being the oldest of nine kids and her dad being on the New York Police Department rising to the rank of Deputy Inspector.

·      Ghosts or other paranormal feelings being involved in 5,500 death investigations.

·      Myths and misconceptions regarding alcoholism. 

·      Barbara hitting rock bottom with her drinking and rising from the ashes. 

·      How Barbara got the job with the New York Medical Examiner’s Office as a death investigator and the training involved in her job.

·      Her first time going to a death investigation solo.

·      The job of the death investigator.

Visit Barbara at her website!
Purchase her book, What the Dead Know: Learning About Life as a New York City Death Investigator
Check out Weekends at Bellevue: Nine Years on the Night Shift at the Psych ER and When Breath Becomes Air

Check out Field Training (Brew City Blues Book 1)!!
Enjoy the Cops and Writers book series.
Please visit the Cops and Writers website.

Only for Cops and Writers Podcast listeners! Get 50% off the audiobook version of the F.B.I. K-9 thriller, Avenging Adam by Jodi Burnett. Use code, https://jodi-burnett.com/copsandwriters/

The Greatest Woman Who Ever Lived Has Passed

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I struggled for days about making this video, I did it to help me cope with my grandma's death. I'll be conducting the funeral, and I need to be prepared. Also, and most importantly, I want everyone to know who she was. Thank you for watching...

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Harold Finch Gives a Powerful Lesson on How to Use Mindfulness To Cope With Multiple Deaths

Yes, Harold Finch lost his mother, his uncle, and his grandmother within 18 months of each other. And, he invites us into his painful grief journey and how he eventually tapped into his innate resilience to achieving healing and growth.

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• One useful grief coping technique is staying busy 
• Examine and embrace your emotions 
•  You are in ultimate control of your thoughts
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Makiki-kiki sa atin si Attorney!

National nurse-lecturer and associate provincial fiscal of the Department of Justice Atty. Deirdree Culhi, RN graces this project and shares how she dealt with the shocking and unexpected death of a spouse while touring the provinces conducting nursing lectures. She shares intimate details about how she faced the prospect of raising two very young children on her own and grappled with the daunting burden of moving on. "I spent one Valentine's Day at the mall looking at couples", she shares at one point. The kiki ends with laughter as she does not back down from Geoff's 'stimulating' rapid-fire questions -  si Ma'am Didi pa ba?  

Did she find love after death?

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*watch the video tribute on youtube*

the infectiously kind and always positive alex penny passed away unexpectedly this past friday, just a month shy of his 33rd birthday. he had such a bright future ahead of him.

his smile moved mountains. his laughter was contagious. his spirit will live on in all who knew him. his presence will always be felt and honored here in the attic. big love, big al.

my sincerest sympathies and love to alex's family, colleagues, and friends.

obituary for a.p.