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#23: Bad habits, we’ve all got em. But since Eran and I never lived together before getting married, there were definitely a few surprises once we actually moved in! She is messy, and he is really NOT. He does THIS and it drives me CRAZY. So, how do we deal with each others annoying and bad habits? Today we’re telling you all about it, and how learning to live with each others quirks, only made us stronger as a couple. 

#22: Success is a word we hear a lot, and it’s a dream for most. Making lots of money, buying that big house, driving your dream car, and having kids….? Yeah eventually… Well we got married at 21, with no money, no home and as most people would say with “no success”. Today we’re doing a deep dive into how having kids young impacted our business, balancing work and parenting as well as Haley dealing with working “mom guilt”. 

Happy New Year from Justin and Jennifer! We're talking about facing the new while remembering the old as we head into 2024. Join us in the conversation and follow us on Instagram at @justinandjenniferreimer.

#21: Today we’re doing a deep dive into everything about our crazy Bukharian culture. We’re telling you how we grew up, rules round dating, our religious values and what our FOB parents expected of us! We have such rich culture of amazing values, LOTS of food, and lots of unspoken rules haha. Let’s have a laugh together while we tell you all about it!

#20: So did you know just HOW rocky of a relationship we had at the start? Dating long distance was no joke, and Haley being the logical person she is was in a constant battle of Head VS Heart. Our journey though has really made us so much stronger as a couple and today we’re telling you all about how Eran really WON the dating game. I mean getting a girl who rejected you multiple times to marry you? ICON. And here is how he did it. 

#19: We’re officially back and so excited to kickstart SEASON 2! Where have we been you ask? Well today’s episode we’ve giving you all the deets on what’s been going on the last few months, and we’ve got A LOT to tell you! We missed you all and can’t wait to chat again with you, our besties.

Join in on a unique episode that involved some stretching of plans to happen in this busy holiday season. Learn how being flexible in your relationship is helpful in different ways. And Happy Holidays!

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Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!

From how to start the conversation about your boundaries (and finances!) to tips on keeping the spark alive, this week’s quickie has everything you need to know before you move in with your partner and tips for making the transition as smooth as possible.

Tune in as we chat about:

• Creating goals for your relationship
• How to protect yourself and the legal agreements you might need
• An easy guide to tackling finances
• Why communication and setting boundaries are key
• How to make your design styles mesh
• Respecting routines and making new ones
• The positive side of healthy conflict
• How to keep your sex life alive
• Prioritizing YOU time 

We hope this episode helps you decide if you’re ready to move in with your partner and makes the transition a little smoother. Good luck to all the love birds ready to make their nest together, you got this!

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Social Anxiety? Stage Fright? How does it happen when Nick and I are infront of others something always goes wrong. Nick starts chocking on air?! Jaimee voice goes up even higher?! Join us as we talk about some funny stories.

We dig a bit into some relationship thoughts, we are definitely not experts but we are enjoying this ride!

We couldn't end this podcast without an Adventure Story Time.  River snakes, Alligators or just jaimee's imaginination from the trash shoot like from Star Wars. Find out from this story!

We hope you have fun on out podcast as Nick and I love making them! 

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In July of 2018, Danielle Silverstein and her husband Adam were going through a rough patch in their marriage. The stress of raising three young children, along with other issues, had the couple contemplating divorce. But instead of heading to court, the couple decided to start a podcast to talk openly about their struggles with friends, family, and strangers. Two years later, Danielle and Adam’s marriage is back on track, and their podcast Marriage and Martinis has over two million downloads. Fans of the popular podcast (and hilarious Instagram account) include actors Jennifer Garner, Jamie Lynn Siegler, and Katherine Heigel.

In today's episode Angela talks about the concept of differentiation. Differentiation refers to our ability to develop and evolve psychologically, on our own and in relationships with others. In relationships we need to maintain our sense of self while also getting close to another person without losing our identity. Differentiation means we are neither emotionally fused nor are we completely separate from each either; we know who we are and we can tolerate our partner being different from us. We can be our self within the structure of an intimate relationship. The higher the level of differentiation in the couple, the more mature and successful the relationship. 

Angela discusses the signs that show that you are in a relationship where one or both partners are poorly differentiated. Or maybe you are in a relationship that shows  high levels of differentiation?

Being locked up and thrown more closely together as a couple has been quite challenging for lots of couples during the pandemic. One indicator of a relationship that is mature and able to survive a lot of strain and stress in the relationship is the level of differentiation. Arguably a high level of differentiation in both partners is the number one indicator of a successful relationship. 

In a nutshell differentiation is the process by which we become more uniquely ourselves by maintaining ourselves in relationship with those we love. 

There are two forces that pull us in a different direction in every relationship:

• Our need for togetherness. The pull to be loved and belong, to be part of a group. In this polarity, we might choose to minimize our personal preferences or dull our traits in order to be loved by our partner.
• Autonomy/individuality. The pull to be myself and to follow my own directives. The need to create our own unique identify. 

Differentiation is higher order to togetherness and autonomy. In relationships we need both. In today’s society independence is prized above all. It is seen as as strength. Therefore there is often confusion about this in relationships. Surely, if I am more independent that’s a good thing? Independence is a very valuable but relationships also require interdependence. We all have a need to be cared for and loved.

Signs that there are low levels of differentiation in the relationship include

• An excessive need for harmony and the complete avoidance of conflict.
• Constant fighting as both partners can only see their own position as valid. 
• Distancing yourself from your partner based on the belief that nothing can be resolved.
• Leading separate lives.
• Spilling over into each other. One or both partners feel responsible for the feelings of the other.

Signs of high levels of differentiation in a couples

• Having a strong sense of self.
• Being able to distinguish between feeling and thought.
• Knowing your own position while tolerating that of others.
• Solid self but permeable to others. You can take on different perspectives without ‘losing yourself’.
• Being able to connect with your partner without fear of being taken over by their emotion.
• Being able to have mutuality in the relationship: following your own path for growth as well as being concerned about your partner’s wellbeing and growth.

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Myles & Dee define what sexual immorality is and talk about how to pursue holiness while breaking the bondage of sexual sin, addiction to pornography and more. They also answer questions submitted on Instagram & TikTok. Join them live every Thursday Night at 9pm Central on Instagram @thefreedomhouse