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What do you do if you’re sick and tired of your partner’s behavior? Perhaps you used to be closer, but sometimes you find you simply don’t want to be around them or that things they do really wind you up. It can be hard to give your love. What do you do if you are co-parenting with a difficult ex but need to keep the peace for your children? Today I will share with you my 5 steps to loving through hard times. As let’s face it it’s far easier to love someone when they are fulfilling our relationships needs, showing us love and respect in the way we want to receive it. Whether that’s affection, words of admiration, through physical touch, giving us gifts or doing things for us. When they show us they for care and appreciate us, it feels good. Doesn’t it? Not so easy is loving someone when we feel they are not saying, doing and behaving how we wish they would. Sometimes this could be to a disagreement on a topic, like child rearing, finances, family interference, putting work or friends before the relationship or their actions… Get FREE e-books at www.purepeacecoaching.com

Are you too or your partner too busy with work for your marriage? Does your profession own you? Does work keep you away from quality time – or any time from your relationship and family? Do the demands of errands, meetings and emergencies keep you from catching your breath? If you answered yes to this you could be suffering from workaholism. In this episode I cover 7 tips to stop work from interfering with your marriage and family time. Nicola Beer – International Relationship & Divorce Coach nicola@purepeacecoaching.com www.purepeacecoaching.com

Like many of the individuals I work with, when I went through a break up 6 years ago, I felt lost, alone, confused and exhausted. I was stuck with no peace. Stuck with the same disempowering questions going round and round my in head: Why did they do that? Why me? Why now? What’s wrong with me? Will I ever be happy? Will I ever meet someone that loves me again? Will I survive financially? Then there are the questions about who, what and where you should be. Where the confusion over who you are and what makes you happy plays on your mind You get frustrated with yourself because you’re so unsure of what to do next. Sometimes you’re confused over whether the relationship ending was good or bad, confused over who you really are now, confused over what your place should be in the world. Lesson 5: When going through a break up and divorce you need to Rediscover your place in the world You do this by embarking on a journey of self-discovery and taking action. Through my experience stumbling along the hard way, I created 10 steps for others to follow after divorce. Helping those get great results months not years. Learn how you rediscover your place in the world in this episode. Nicola Beer International Relationship & Divorce Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com

Since working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and multiple marriages, I have learnt what successful rebuilders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, relationships and self-confidence, they don’t have to. As long as the betrayer follows some crucial steps to help their spouse heal and together the couple look at ways to improve and strengthen their marriage. in this episode I cover 6 things that are vital in recovery after affairs, my lessons from the 12 years I have been working with individuals with emotional distress and couples. I hope they are useful, from my heart to yours Nicola www.purepeacecoaching.com - Nicola Beer - International Relationship & Divorce Coach

During the training I learnt about the different types of relationship needs individuals have. I became aware that many individuals like I did, focused on giving their partner more of what they want and not what their partner needs. The problem with this was clear. When you do this you IGNORE your lover’s needs. Men and Women would find despite all their best efforts their partner failed to respond, reciprocate or appreciate. I noticed couples where it was obvious that they deeply loved and cared for one another just weren’t connecting. In training I became familiar with the work of many famous marriage counselors and their application of the 10 needs in marriage counseling. These 10 needs are pretty much universal. Typically Men’s top 5 needs are different to Women’s top 5. Although every couple has a unique blend of their needs and how they want the need to be met. In this episode discover Women’s top two needs and men’s top two needs and why this is important to know… Nicola Beer International Relationship & Divorce Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com

The Love You Have is Determined By YOU Before… Before I became UK certified in grief and loss, studied relationship coaching and emotional healing techniques - I didn’t love myself enough, or really at all for that matter… I rarely took time for me, it was work, work, work or running round after others. Often I would find it hard to accept compliments and gifts. Somehow I felt I don’t deserve it… All of this is blocking love from coming in. During… the training I learnt that loving yourself is only the first step. The second step is growing and nurturing the love you have so it can flourish. The third is letting go of things in the way of you experiencing true love. Inside this episode you will get my 3 STEP PROCESS which have been described as Transformational. These 3 steps are part of my exclusive VIP program GET THE LOVE YOU WANT! and for the first time I am sharing them with you. Nicola Beer International Relationship & Divorce Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com

Lesson 1 of 7 – Emotional Honesty & Expression Is Key – Overcoming Gridlock - - Before, I never use to say when I was upset or share my feelings. Mainly because I didn’t know how to share my feelings and bring up topics. During studying more about relationships I realized that successful couples in marriages, express themselves and that a solid relationship is based on emotional honesty. Working with couples, I recognized that not sharing is unhealthy as unresolved annoyances, anger, doubts, hurts, fester and leave you to build up resentment and frustration, which can lead to explosion, angry outbursts or further withdrawal and shut down. The shut down and emotional dishonesty leaves a couple grid locked unable to solve problems which can lead to separate lives and affairs. Here I explain what you can do if this is resonating with you and your partner. It’s from our lessons we can get true peace. Peace with the past, peace in the now and peace for our futures. Nicola Beer – Pure Peace – www.purepeacecoaching.com – International Marriage and Divorce Coach

Are you fixated on wanting to why your partner or ex did or didn’t do something? Relentlessly questioning why your partner or ex does or doesn’t do something can be frustrating, draining and leaving you feeling confused, disappointed and angry… I listen to individuals in my coaching frequently saying that they just don’t understand WHY their spouse did this or they cannot get WHY their ex would behave in such a vindictive way. Being Fixated and STUCK in a spiral of never ending Why thoughts is a nightmare. I know this, because I’ve been there… In this episode you will learn some tips to help you let go of the why fixation into PEACE Nicola Beer International Relationship & Divorce Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com for more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com

Ever wonder why talking about your relationship issues can sometimes make you feel more annoyed, fed up or isolated than before you started? At the center of many relationship problems is the Shame-Fear dynamic Once you recognize this and follow the steps to overcome it, you like thousands of others can solve previously unresolvable relationship problems. Inspired by the work of Love and Stonsy in their book: “How to save your marriage without talking about it.” I’ve added this principle to my marriage coaching packages and seen great results. I’m super excited to be sharing it with you. Let this be as helpful to you as it has been for the couples I’ve worked with… For further free e-support visit www.purepeacecoaching.com and down load your copies of Marriage Support “7 Secrets to Save Your Relationship” Divorce Support “10 Simple Steps you Can Take Now to Create Change after Divorce” Nicola Beer, International Marriage, Relationship & Divorce Coach Dubai, Middle East and Further Afield Via Skype nicola@purepeacecoaching.com www.purepeacecoaching.com

International Relationship and Divorce Coach Nicola Beer Interviews Jeffrey A. Landers, CDFA™, the creator of the Think Financially, Not Emotionally® brand of books, webinars, seminars and eLearning courses designed to educate, empower and support women (and their advisors) before, during and after divorce. His current Amazon best-selling books include, Divorce: Think Financially, Not Emotionally® – What Women Need To Know About Securing Their Financial Future Before, During, And After Divorce, DIVORCE Financial Planner For Women, Volume I and the newly released, A Woman’s Guide To Financial Security After Divorce – The Basics: Creating A Solid Foundation. He is also the founder of Bedrock Divorce Advisors, LLC, a divorce financial advisory firm that works exclusively with women throughout the United States. Jeff has also been extensively interviewed about the financial aspects of divorce for women by CBS and FOX Television News Nicola Beer is the producer and host of Divorce Talk and has more free resources (e-books, blogs and episodes) on her website. She helps couples save their marriage and prevent divorce or if divorce is happening helps guides individuals and their children through it. www.purepeacecoaching.com

This week I received an email from Marie, a lady in my 6 month coaching program who is devastated that her two teenagers don’t want to stay with her. This topic often comes up in my divorce coaching with parents questioning whether they should be concerned, worried their ex is bad mouthing them and whether to force their teenagers to stay or let them choose. Having worked with several teenagers during and after divorce, experiencing my parent’s divorce at 14 and feeling unwanted, depressed and lonely… It is important to distinguish between when a teenager is just being a teenager and when something deeper is bothering them and some attention or parent rebuilding needs to happen. In this episode I will cover this. Hope you like it. From my heart to yours Nicola P.S If you want more resources on supporting children through divorce click here to get your free e-book Parenting Through Divorce – Avoid the 3 Common Pitfalls most Parents Make http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/help-childrenwithdivorce/ Nicola Beer, International Marriage, Relationship & Divorce Coach Dubai, Middle East and Further Afield Via Skype nicola@purepeacecoaching.com www.purepeacecoaching.com Marriage counseling; divorce; marriage advice; relationships; co-parenting single parents; life coaching; teenagers; relationship advice; infidelity; affairs; marital support; Dubai; life coaching; breakup; divorce law; marriage counseling, divorce support, self-help, expat, expats, professionals, dating, Saudi Arabia, Hong Kong, Singapore, London New York, US, UK, India, Australia, South Africa,