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Are you a nice guy? If so, you are probably codependent. In this episode Jude defines codependency, gives examples, and shares tips for how to stop being codependent.

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Our subject for today’s show is divorce. Divorce is far too prevalent in the world of law enforcement, and I have wanted to do a podcast episode about this subject for some time now.

I survived a brutal divorce that lasted over two years and wrote a book about it to help others going through a nasty divorce titled, “Divorced Dad: Kids are Forever, Wives are not.” This book is not full of venom or hate, it is a guide to help those, especially dads, who are navigating the sometimes shark-infested waters of divorce. I used the pen name of L.J. Burke because I was still employed as a cop and didn’t want to deal with the red tape of getting the book approved through the department. 

I felt it would be a good idea to bring on someone with a unique perspective on the subject, Kerrie Droban. Kerrie is also a divorce survivor who now helps others get through their parting of the ways with her family law practice and at one time was married to a homicide detective.

Kerrie Droban received a Master's degree from The Johns Hopkins University Writing Seminars and a Master of Fine Arts and Juris Doctorate from the University of Arizona.

In today’s episode we discuss:

·      The reasons for the high rate of divorce among first responders.

·      The warning signs of an impending divorce and sometimes ignoring them, listen to your gut feelings.

·      When should you think about marriage counseling? 

·      Best practices when asking your spouse for a divorce and breaking the news to your children.

·      When is it time to get a divorce lawyer and is it a good idea to share one?

·      Separation and moving out. Dos and don’ts to protect yourself and your kids.

·      Tips on how to soften the damage of divorce on children.

·      Avoid speaking poorly about your soon-to-be ex or their parents to your kids. 

·      When should you reconsider getting a divorce?

·      Self-care during a divorce and avoiding destructive behavior during the process.

·      Co-parenting best tips and practices

·      When should you start dating?

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Emily Cochran, an attorney who specializes in Complex Family Law Cases, discusses the breakthrough decision of the Kentucky Supreme Court in a case of parental interference, psychological abuse, multiple false allegations, and children's protective service stepping in to protect the child.   Emily is licensed as an attorney in Ohio and Kentucky.  If you would like to hire her to help with your case she can be contacted at emily@rittgers.com.

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Jude Sandvall is a single parent of three daughters and is helping men navigate the waters of divorce to create an amazing life for themselves and their children. 

Jude is an Integrative Wellness & Life Transformation Coach and Integrative NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner who uses cutting-edge approaches.

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Jude Sandvall is a single parent of three daughters and is helping men navigate the waters of divorce to create an amazing life for themselves and their children. 

Jude is an Integrative Wellness & Life Transformation Coach and Integrative NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner who uses cutting-edge approaches.

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My guests are Rebecca Giraud & Bob Greig from 'Only Mums and Only Dads'. Now, only mums and only dads support parents who are struggling to make the best decisions for their family during separation and divorce. Both Rebecca and Bob have helped many, many people through all types of separation and divorce. 

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My guests are Rebecca Giraud & Bob Greig from 'Only Mums and Only Dads'. Now, only mums and only dads support parents who are struggling to make the best decisions for their family during separation and divorce. Both Rebecca and Bob have helped many, many people through all types of separation and divorce. 

Find more information and resources here: http://saradavison.com/

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In this episode we open with an aggressive threat and end with a loving support. Chris really cements the importance of having actionable tools as opposed to thoughts or good spirits. He talks about how he grew up and how that influences how he parents. He mentions the value in being of service and how he creates that for himself and practices it in his philosophy. 

He talks about his ex and her new man and what that was like. How the idea of what he thought to do and what he actually did, which was to admit that he didn’t know what he was doing made the biggest difference. This episode is packed with lots of insights into how he managed some very difficult times and got through them.

If you are someone who has it dark and are not sure you will get out of it, this episode provides light at the end of the tunnel and gives you tools to build with. Let someone else's journey navigate when you have no direction or the strength to drive.

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In this episode we talk about tools. What Chris had and didn’t have available to him and we he could do to navigate himself away from being a victim of the drama. He talks about what acceptance is like and how investing in himself gave him strength. How details how he shaped it and in that process it provided him a loving perspective, which gave the day to day an easier way of living .  

It was noticing how powerless he was, putting one foot in front of the other, and praying for his ex to have great things that would lead him towards a solid foundation to stand on.  It was then, as a result of that stance where his road began to get better. 

In the end of the episode he shares about his little girl growing up and how that freaks him out, but he is aware that he can’t just say "no boys till your thirty"...

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Knock, knock.

Who’s there?

Mommy’s new boyfriend.

Mommy's new boyfr– wait. Whut??!! 

It’s our 40th show—the Ruby episode—and we are celebrating with a topic hand-selected by one of our OG PodSquad listeners! How in the world do you introduce your children to a new love interest?

Let’s get real. Dating after divorce is a bit of a minefield. And that’s on a good day. Throw in kids, however, and suddenly the landscape becomes shrouded in an I-don’t-know-what-the-hell-I’m-doing-mist. 

When to let your kids meet the person you’re dating is just the first complicated decision you’ll face. Should the new love of your life spend the night? What role should they play in your family life? And when do you tell your ex about the interloper into his or her child’s life? Most people would rather poke their eye out with a fork than call up the ex with THAT news. 

We have insight. We have experience. AND we have our first bona fide guest on the show this week! It’s a good one so pop in your ear buds and get ready to listen as we drop a little divorce drama on I Shouldn't Have Had Kids.

Links
Divorce Mag blog: How to introduce your children to your new special friend
Divorce Mag blog: Introducing your kids to a new partner
Portland Press Herald: Ex Etiquette
Website for a little sleuthing: People Check

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