divorced over 40

In our final episode with Daniel, we close this series by looking back at the beginning and saying out loud what most don’t admit. We don’t know how to navigate a divorce. No one goes into it a marriage thinking about this ending as an option. We don’t prep for the process, or the life that comes after divorce, it’s new territory. 

He also talks about dating after divorce and how that was for him. Giving some suggestions on what he would do differently, which is not date immediately after his divorce. He shares some personal experiences about it. He is also a big voice when it comes to speaking up about what works for you, and what doesn’t. Sharing and expressing yourself so that you get what you are missing. All this and more inside this episode.

My personal takeaway from Daniel’s conversation is that we all have the potential to be genuine when we speak it into existence. No matter how messy it can sometimes get, when we speak up about what works and what doesn’t, we can move forward in a way that compliments who we are.  

If you want to know more about Daniel and what he is up to, you can find him on Instagram at @daniel.herrold, or his website www.DanielHerrold.com.  He is also a co-founding member of a great community called Divorced over 40, which can be found locally across most of the United States, and more directly at www.Divorcedover40.com. 

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In this episode, Daniel talks about the importance of finding your tribe. Describe what that looks like, what qualities they should have to understand your situation, and how important it is for them to have been divorced. How having that common ground makes a difference. He talks about dating right after the divorce and how that is not the best idea, considering the healing process and what dating entails. 

This episode is about the pitfalls he himself fell into immediately after the divorce that he advises avoiding if you are fortunate enough to have a choice. He talks about how jumping into dating only prolonged the healing process for him. Emphasizing the importance of healing and the time it takes, how it varies from person to person based on his experience.  Pointing out that going out or avoiding the obvious will not move you forward any faster.

This episode is a friendly reminder that what we think will heal us, might not be what we need to heal us. 

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In this episode, Daniel shares how he discovered himself and what that process looked like for him. From living in a 600 sq. ft. apartment to driving a beat-up car with 180k miles on it. He speaks about the different phases one goes through in the beginning and how taking actions plays an important role. He shares how he invested more time with the people he loves and less time with those he didn't. 

After the divorce, he began to think of all the things he hadn’t done that he wished he had. The places he hadn’t seen and the projects he hadn’t pursued.

In talking about the process, we can see why Daniel had the unicorn divorce. He represents something in all of us that most do not exercise. The ability to communicate what we want, the time to think of how to achieve it, and the most important of all. Nurturing the communities that embrace the person who we want to be, not the person they think we should be.

Trust your process!

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In this episode, Daniel shares about his relationship with the ex during the divorce. How they agreed on things and how they communicated instead of lunging towards representation and pettiness. He reveals how they kept the same parenting styles, shared time with the kids together, and did it all against the advice of legally inclined relatives and advising friends. 

This episode is filled with hope and kindness, and it has their kid’s best interest guiding it, not the race to win against the ex. 

I think that if you are someone who is in it right now, about to pick an attorney, or just lost about how to be in the process. Daniel will shine some light for you on what worked for him. 

He had a Unicorn divorce.

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In this episode, Daniel speaks about what it was like living alone. The moment when the eerily quiet arrived and the feelings started to come in as he settled into his new apartment. He shares how he watched a lot of Netflix and did anything he could to not embrace the loneliness. He also shares what it was like when he realized all the responsibilities he would assume as a single dad, that he didn’t have before. From doing the accounting to making the meals, he had to learn 22 years of stuff he had never done before.

But the real gold of the episode is towards the end, where he talks about not guilting his children when it was his time to be alone with them. He shares how he communicated with his ex about it, and the realization he had just after that conversation. If you are a parent, you want to hear this. It’s an EPIC insight.

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Meet Daniel Herrold, father of 3 young women, and a divorce conversation active participant.  Daniel is a successful man, both on and off the divorce platform, and in this series of episodes, you are going to see what it was like for him to embrace the challenges that he faced during his divorce. From learning to cook for himself, the kids, to dating again. He walks us through the process of starting over from day one.

In this specific episode, he speaks about what the first six months were like. How the emotional theme of the process was shame and guilt, and how those emotions still linger in today’s world, years later. Daniel explains from a man’s perspective how divorce is viewed as a loss to men, and how we don’t like losing, and he explains how that made him feel. He gives you insight into a man's thought process. A valuable insight for those of you looking to understand. He also talks about who initiated his divorce and what that process was like.  How he knew the marriage wasn’t working, but the idea of divorce never...

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