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Do you ever feel like you’re constantly seeking approval from others? Like you’re on a roller-coaster ride where your self-worth rises and falls based on other people’s opinions? 🎢😱 Then it’s high time we talked about validation, my friends! 

In this week’s episode of the Let’s Talk About Mental Health podcast, I’m exploring validation: what it is, why we crave it, and how it shapes our mental health. I’ll explain the difference between external validation and self-validation and, more importantly, how we can strike a healthy balance between the two for the sake of your wellbeing! ⚖️💪🧠

So, let’s talk about validation!

Once you’ve listened, I’d love to hear your thoughts about validation. How do you manage it thoughtfully? What strategies have worked for you? Share your experiences in the comments or head to www.instagram.com/ltamentalhealth. 

If you’re new here… hi and welcome! 👋😃 I’m Jeremy Godwin and I teach people how to look after their mental health. I release new podcast episodes and videos every Sunday, plus I share daily tips on Instagram @ltamentalhealth and @itsjeremygodwin. I also write books about improving your mental health; find out more at www.ltamh.com 🙂

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Read the episode transcript:

English: http://letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/?p=10704 

Spanish: http://letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/?p=10708 

Portuguese: http://letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/?p=10706 

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About Let’s Talk About Mental Health:

Let's Talk About Mental Health is the weekly podcast that helps you look after your mental health, with simple ideas that draw on both quality research and the experience of writer and host Jeremy Godwin. This is a mental health podcast about more than just talk; each episode focuses on practical things you can do every single day to improve your mental health and take control of your wellbeing. Jeremy offers mental health tips that are straightforward and easy-to-digest, so you can take better care of yourself while also building your general mental health awareness. Discover the podcast all about improving your mental health and join listeners in over 170 countries worldwide. 

Let's Talk About Mental Health. Because the more we talk about it, the easier it gets!

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Anger is a core human emotion. Newborns express instinctual cries of protest, and many a mythological god has wreaked archetypal havoc. Cultural norms around anger range from keeping a stiff upper lip to highly extraverted forms of expression. There are overall differences in how men and women tend to express anger; differences in temperament as well as situational stressors contribute to the intensity and frequency of angry feelings. Anger, like other emotions, is a source of information: it tells us when we feel violated in some way, and is linked to self-preservation. If fiery feelings can be understood first as a call to containment and self-reflection rather than reaction, it can fuel strategic thinking, emotional maturation and productive action.

 

Dream

I was in a national forest alone, wandering around. I spotted a giant bird lying face down in a clearing. It had dark purple feathers on its back, and I knew I should try to collect some, since that is what my sister would do. I reached over and quickly pulled a handful out. I got three purple feathers. The bird turned out to actually be alive. It jumped up and I jumped back in fear, dropping the feathers on the ground. There were three people in the distance, that I couldn’t visually see but I understood them to be my classmates. They exclaimed, “she is so crazy to do that.” I wanted to get the feathers back, but I was too afraid and ashamed to get them. 

 

References

Lerner, Harriet. The Dance of Anger (Amazon). 

Winnicott, Donald Hate in the Counter-Transference.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov › pmc › articles › PMC3330380