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EP 35: Becca Willey- While you are away..

In this episode of Beyond the 1st Response, Christy talks with Becca Willey, an army wife, mother of three, business owner, and board member of Naperville Salute, and organizations, that celebrate Veterans and First Responses raising money to give back to the veterans in the Chicagoland area.

18 Month Countdown 

Becca has been through this drill before, deployment, time apart, and back together. This time, deployment comes, 18 months long, and now three kids are at home. Just when you think you are ready, it hits, she was not as mentally prepared as she thought. Navigating new waters, with three other bodies, but she is not alone. 

Buddy Check

Buddy Check, how are you? “ Drowning but ok!” I pick up the phone and call, “ it’s not ok to be drowning.” We proceed to talk openly, this wouldn’t happen if buddy checks weren’t in place.

Grieving the loss of who he was 

When a first responder leaves for a shift, whether it be 12 hours, 48 hours, or 18 months, they come home a different person. Life circumstance changes every time you walk back into your front door and when you leave. There is a feeling that seems impossible to describe because you haven’t lost someone, they are coming home, however, it feels isolating. It’s called grief, you are grieving the person you knew, who you love, and who you will miss. Grieving, yes, because they are changing while they are gone. They don’t know what call, event, or discussion they have to make will change them, or even if they will realize it has changed them. You are grieving the loss of who you were as well. Don’t forget that, family is your biggest support system, and they are serving next to you from the home front.

When is the right time?

There is no right answer to knowing when the right time to tell family you are leaving. Or even if they would understand the length of time. Finding that tool earlier can help you and your family. Let the kids talk openly, and let them see your emotions. They will know it’s ok to let the tears fall, it’s ok to be angry at that moment. Because that is Processing in a healthy way. Sometimes, that is all you need is someone to sit with no judgment.

No Judgement

Give yourself grace, don’t judge yourself for feeling overwhelmed, confused, or angry. Forgive yourself, it’s ok to sit here taking in the new normal, the unknown, that is processing. Remember not to stay there, find yourself, You Be You, so that you can be there for yourself. 

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"This record is a grower, not a shower" This week we have special guest Will Nunziata from the amazing GodWeenEvan podcast to talk about Frank Orange's groundbreaking Alternative R&B album Channel ORANGE   But, do we like it? Listen and find out this week on Hear:30!

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After quite some time, we are going to cover a barrier to literacy again on The Lost Geographer. We learn about media illiteracy and why it's important to help the world come together. Understanding which sources to use and which to avoid, as well as using them to come to an educated conclusion will help you become more geographically and culturally literate, and will without a doubt make the world a more understanding place. Listen in to this episode to learn more!

Mentioned in this episode:

• Episode 16: Introduction to the Barriers to Literacy
• Episode 20: Fear as a Barrier to Literacy
• Episode 24: Venezuela
• Venezuela
• Russia Today (RT)
• FOX News
• MSNBC
• Al Jazeera
• British Broadcasting Company (BBC)
• North Korea
• Kim Jong Un
• BuzzFeed (don't click if you want real news)
• BuzzFeed video on "Manspreading" (watch if you want to see people whine about nothing)
• United States of America
• Model minority
• Why I left BuzzFeed (video)
• The Wall Street Journal
• New York Times
• Washington Post
• Der Spiegel
• Times of India
• Islam
• Islamic State
• Middle East and North Africa (MENA)
• Unemployment in the Middle East
• How a Danish Town Helped Young Muslims Turn Away from ISIS
• Aarhus, Denmark
• Iran
• Hijab
• Burka
• Niqab

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