12. Obstacle to Opportunity
This is an episode for anyone who’s ready to look forward and not back! When doors in our lives close, we mourn the loss of what once was. Closed doors are hard. They should feel hard. Kristy leads a discussion on how to reframe our thinking to find other doors that can lead to new forms of opportunity, joy and beauty. These research-backed tools are especially helpful for navigating the unexpected changes of plans that life throws at us, and for the natural transitions we encounter along the way. Join us and get inspired to embrace the future with optimism and a determination to find happiness.
RESOURCES AND REFERENCES:
1. Harvard Business Review: To Get People to Embrace Change Emphasize What Will Stay the Same.
2. Identifying Opportunity in Adversity
3. ERL: Do you see problems as Obstacles or opportunities?
4. The Benefits of Adversity are Very, Very Real
5. Tough Mudder Obstacles
6. Tell Your Heart to Beat Again Lyrics by Hilary Weeks
CHAPTER MARKERS:
1:12- Opening scenario- When a door in your life closes
4:43- "When doors close we mourn the loss of what once was….closed doors are hard”
5:44- Kristy story: Not getting motel manager opportunity but something better
10:38- Angie story: Missing out on buttery yellow house but meeting BFF
15:47- Research backed tools to help us find the open door when one closes
15:56- Tool #1- Accept and embrace that the old door has closed
16:43- Continuity- An effective change leadership strategy (HBR)
17:45- Kristy story: Keeping things the same while in a 6-week hospital stay
19:33- Finding comfort in continuity while facing long term and short term changes
20:44- “In overcoming resistance to change…. communicate and appealing vision of change in combination with a vision of continuity” (HBR)
21:12- Angie story: Finding continuity during COVID-19 changes
22:34- Tool #2- Believe another door is going to open and determine to find it
22:57- “…offsetting opportunity in every adversity and every obstacle…” Robert Ringer's experiences
25:22- Angie story: How moving strengthened her confidence and changed her perspective on what she’s capable of doing.
27:25- Tough Mudder obstacles
29:00- “Obstacles don’t have to stop you…..” (Michael Jordan)
29:47- Tool #3- Find beauty in the transformation
30:02- Kristy story: Finding beauty in the transformation of her marital separation
31:36- Kristy story: Metal being re-shaped
32:24- Annihilation quote: What is indestructible and unbreakable in us?
33:23- Angie story: Transitioning from home to college
36:00- Benefits of closing doors