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    Explore " fragility" with insightful episodes like "EP56 | Mastering the Art of Leading on Eggshells", "Legucka: In the long perspective Putin doesn't guarantee the stability of the regime", "Η Βικτώρια, το τραύμα και το θαύμα μιας νέας αρχής", "843 - How Feeling Melancholy Can Boost Your Creativity with Susan Cain" and "Jan 6th - A Collection of Stories and Laments" from podcasts like ""Being in the Arena", "The Political Periscope", "ΙΩΑΝΝΑ, με την Ιωάννα Παλιοσπύρου", "The James Altucher Show" and "The Arise Podcast"" and more!

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    Legucka: In the long perspective Putin doesn't guarantee the stability of the regime

    Legucka: In the long perspective Putin doesn't guarantee the stability of the regime

    Prof. Agnieszka Legucka, analyst of the Polish Institute of International Affairs speaks about the recent mutiny in Russia led by Prigozhin and its implications for Putin's regime. The rebellion weakened Putin's position within the elite and highlighted the system's fragility. She also touches on the potential threat posed for Poland by Wagner soldiers in Belarus and the importance of the upcoming NATO summit in sending strong signals to Russian Federation.

    The interview was conducted on 6th July 2023 in Warsaw by Piotr Mateusz Bobołowicz. 

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    Η Βικτώρια, το τραύμα και το θαύμα μιας νέας αρχής

    Η Βικτώρια, το τραύμα και το θαύμα μιας νέας αρχής

    Η Βικτώρια Αντώνοβα εξαιτίας μιας έκρηξης που συνέβη στο σπίτι της, όταν ήταν 14 ετών, βρέθηκε με εγκαύματα τρίτου βαθμού να δίνει μάχη ακόμη και για την επιβίωσή της. Πέρασε τα χρόνια της εφηβείας με πολλά χειρουργεία και κλεισμένη στο σπίτι της σε βαθιά κατάθλιψη. Στα 19 της αποφάσισε να διεκδικήσει και πάλι το δικαίωμα στη ζωή, ασχολήθηκε με τον χορό και εξηγεί στην Ιωάννα Παλιοσπύρου πώς από το τραυματικό παρελθόν σήμερα ετοιμάζεται για μια παράσταση στο εξωτερικό με τον τίτλο “Fragility”.

    843 - How Feeling Melancholy Can Boost Your Creativity with Susan Cain

    843 - How Feeling Melancholy Can Boost Your Creativity with Susan Cain

    Are you the person that has to feel happy all the time? Were you ashamed of yourself if you were feeling down and melancholy? Or are you the person that has to pick back up every time you feel down?

    Well, a study has shown that it's okay, and sometimes it's better to feel melancholy than feel positive!

    I invited one of my favorite authors, Susan Cain, the author of the bestsellers Quiet Journal, Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts, and Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, on to talk about her new book, Bittersweet, How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole.

    In the episode, we talked about why people are more drawn to melancholy music, the differences between sadness and melancholy, and the benefits of feeling melancholy that including elevating your creativity. We also talked about ways to cultivate the feeling of melancholy!

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    Jan 6th - A Collection of Stories and Laments

    Jan 6th - A Collection of Stories and Laments

    We have a special bonus episode today as we remember one year ago and the Jan 6th (2021) insurrection at the capitol. We’ve asked former guests, friends and colleagues what they remember about this day? What this event meant to them? How they are feeling a year later. 

    Hearing the words, stories and tears from each of the folks who’ve taken the time to lend their voice to this project has been a powerful lament. Maggie has felt them deeply within her body. 

    So because of this was a traumatic event and these are stories recounting trauma responses, you the listener may also experience mild to significant discomfort. Please consider good self care, be mindful of yourself and taking breaks as needed. 

    Here is the number for a national mental health care hotline, if you need to talk to someone

    1-800-273-8255

    Maggie start us off by reading an excerpt from her journal:

    "Jan 6, 2021 Honestly I’ve got too many words and thoughts for what has transpired today. Trump supporters, radicalized and encouraged by Trump, rioted, broke into the US Capitol and sought to stop the counting of the electoral votes claiming election fraud. “An Election was stolen,” Trump said. 4 Dead. Many arrested. I’m completely shocked at the scary and dangerous level of these “nationalists.” Really, it’s the stuff we hear about happening in other countries. This is the world we brought our children into? Wow. I want to have hope in our government but I clearly cannot. I want to see change led by the church, but I do not. 

    "Where are you God and what are you up to? Your endless patience, long suffering and waiting for someone to partner with… I just don’t think humankind has got enough for you to work with right now. [And yet] even as I write this I know it to not be true. [Once] again I’m looking in the wrong place. 

    "God show me. I know in my head you are good and you are near. I can’t feel you. I can’t see you. Help me. I want you to make all things new. Have you started? I know you’re doing things in my family and in me… but what is [happening in] the big picture? Where is the grand finale, the great reversal, the coming of your upside-down kingdom?

    "These are strange and wild times. Division is palpable. I can feel myself want to withdraw inward, to hole up and focus on “just my little world,” but I know this is not the way. 

    Maggie said she remembers in the days and months following that day, the haunting and disturbing images on the news and in social media. "I felt sick, disgust, anxious and afraid. Truly afraid for the uncertain times ahead."

    She says  some of these feels continue even into this morning reading the news regarding the investigation that there is “significant testimony” that Trump’s own daughter asked him to intervene and stop what was happening at the capitol and he refused. "The disgust and  fear around how much evil was at work that day is scary, even a year later."

     

     

    Written Statement (No Audio Available):

    Though I wasn't in front of the news last January 6, the tension in the air was palpable. As the day unfolded, I found myself in shock & disbelief as the nation's Capitol was overrun by What appeared to be primally driven, animistic behavior. There was nothing I could scrape together in my

    Mind to make sense of the behavior. I was not aware these events were to take place. I attempted to make sense of the whole in shock, anguish, and disgust. The right was blaming the left. Groups claiming a "few bad apples" ruined the intended peaceful rally. I do not believe that small collective accurately represent entire organizations or people groups.

        Nevertheless, I was horrified as I continued to read about gallows, a noose, and defecation. How do we turn a blind eye to something so horrific? I find myself in an interesting place. The masses of my friends have chosen to spend the last number of years learning, growing, understanding, and attempting to change this nation's shameful history of racial exploitation and misogynistic white structures. 

    Being white, it would be remiss for me not to name the times I have felt I am not a part of this. And yet, if I'm honest, heartbreakingly, I am. There are no two ways about it. We all are. 

     At times I have quietly listened as the events and ramifications of that day have been discussed; other times, I have not been so quiet. For me, nausea and sadness, coupled with anger, caused questions to roll over and over in my mind. How in the world are the events of that day be considered a step toward making America great again, and not a permanent stain on who we are, And how far we have to go?

     

    Written Statement #2 (audio available):

    January 6, 2021 I found myself at home, just a regular old pandemic living type of day. I bathed my kids, nursed my "baby" for the last time, I baked a loaf of sourdough bread, all while trying not to draw my kids attention to the constant news that was playing in the background.

    As I watched both the news covering the insurrection at the capital and the footage of the Trump rallies nearby I would jump back-and-forth between the two events and also to commentary from several major news networks. My body was tense, I remember feeling torn and anxious and worried and almost displaced from reality. Something in me needed to SAY something or DO something especially because many around me or not or were downplaying what we were watching unfold.

    I took to my Facebook page and wrote the status update "This is terrorism, white privilege, idol worship, and insurrection on full display. To not denounce it is harmful."

    As I look at it now and recount the comments posted in reply. I look at the 'reactions' chosen by people and I wonder did they use the angry face because they were angry at what was happening, or at me for calling it like I was seeing it. I look back at those reactions a year later and I still am not certain. I remember learning about the term "terrorism" and the complicated nature of the word itself. Using it to describe what happened on January 6, I learned, could have serious ramifications for BIPOC individuals and even on legistaltion. I’m so thankful for the folks who took time to teach about this, and also glad I recorded my learning in the comments because I can revisit how important that type of leraning was and is. I also didn't just dirty delete something, the folks in the thread to follow along as my understanding developed and changed. As I learned that using the word terrorism for this type of event can be harmful, even if at the time it was the most accurate word I had for what I was watching, people in the comments learned with me. I also see now that my gut reaction of calling this "white nationalism" or an "insurrection" were accurate.

    I lost friends because of that thread, some in person and some online friends. But, I don’t regret calling it what it was. In fact I’m really grateful for the people who also did the same, when I asked my friends what they were doing or remember from this day a year ago one said, "I remember feeling terrible about the event but I felt equally terrible about my Christian peers saying nothing." That struck me and upon reflection I’m glad my instincts were to cry out even if it wasn’t an actionable step and especially because it led me to a deeper understanding.

    I recall jumping into text threads and asking others “are you seeing this to?” “What are we watching unfold?” And the sad part is our guts were right. I remember the prophetic voices in my life years prior predicting it would all go this way. Who then were there giving accurate insights into what was happening, never saying "I told you so," but instead helping us process, think about what we could do to keep POC around us safe, anticipating what else might come next. What a sacred and devastating place to be.

    Now a year later it is not lost on me that January 6 is the 12th day of Christmas where some celebrate the day of epiphany. One year later I find myself in this tension again celebrating and mourning, questioning and wondering. Reading the updates about what Congress is unearthing around this event, wishing and hoping we could know the full truth of what actually went down and realizing we may never know except for what we saw with our own eyes… And even that feels complicated because everybody’s lived experience and perception is their own reality and everyone saw it so differently. I still find myself anxious and in knots when thinking about what happened and what has or has not happened since. The tension is palpable and the devastation unresolved.

     

    Written Statement (no audio):

    "Just saw some pictures from January 6th. Got physically sick. I am not going to do a recording, As a survivor of 48 years with malignantly narcissistic men...it was very familiar nightmare I watched unfold that day. And, the consequent gas lighting of too many. Blatant abuse. And, even then people would keep him in office. Its is beyond words for me. Heart sick." 

     

    Remember January 6th 2021 –

    Deanna Gemmer, Director of Community Development, Summit Ave Church

    At work, writing on social media about the feast of epiphany. But also I kinda kept check twitter – had been intentional about adding voices from POC to news feed as I had been learning about my own blind spots and ignorance. These folks were warning of violence.

    At one point I switched on live news coverage and couldn’t stop watching. It felt like a foreign country, except it wasn’t. The hardest part for me was seeing symbols of Christianity – like crosses, used as part of the riot. I was angry, I was hurting, I made a point to publicly condemn the violent actions as a faith leader in my community.

    In the year since I have watched as Republican leaders around this country work not only to strategically dismantle voting rights, but also bully, intimidate, and harass local election workers – and in some places take over the administration of these professional and non-partisan offices. I wonder often, what will elections look like in this country this fall.

    And as I think about that, I wonder – what would I do if I thought the election had been stolen? If I saw evidence and heard from trusted leaders that indeed, the wrong person was declared the winner. What would my anger cause me to do?

    This fall I watched the HBO documentary – Four Hours at the Capitol. Watching the footage and hearing the first-hand accounts of the fear, of people calling loved ones to say goodbye, of officers being dragged into crowds and beaten…it just didn’t feel real. And yet it was – we lived it. And we are still living the consequences.

    When it comes to our American system of government, I am very scared that we are losing our democracy. As a pastor and as student of history, I know empires rise and empires fall. And as someone called to participate in the kindom of God, which is antithetical to everything empire, I want this one I live in to crumble. Despite the myths we share and perpetuate, this nation was built on stolen land by enslaved peoples – so maybe it does need to die so something new and better can rise in its place. But I’m afraid for my own family, my own way of life, and particularly afraid for the poor and marginalized should American democracy come crashing down. So I constantly live in the tension of fear and trust.

    Like the writer in Ecclesiastes says, there is a time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build. What time are we in?

    NOTES (MARISA Wandeler):

    My voice is sacred and it’s tied to how I feel about Jan 6th. Most of my traumatic story centers around not having a voice to advocate for myself or be seen by people who were supposed to love and treasure me. My healing journey has been about empowering my voice. So my literal voice just doesn’t want to give Jan 6th the pleasure of my voice or any kind of rebuttal.

    The whole event was essentially about shutting down the voices of people like me and anyone who doesn’t elevate white supremacy. I’m not welcome at that table and never will be simply because of the color of skin and my ancestry.

    Jan 6th wasn’t a new thing to feel, it was just a public display of what I already know, feel, and live with every day.

    How did I feel on that day?

    Simply, the same. Of course. I felt the same as I do any day—- deeply disappointed.

     

    Thank you from Danielle for Rebecca Wheeler Walston, Jimmy McGee, Impact, Sam Lee, Linda Royster, Dan Allender, Kali Jensen, so many more - Kristi Repp - Maggie, my kids, my husband. Thank you.

    FAR OUT #113 ~ Meeting Your Edge: Anti-Fragility and the Hero Archetype

    FAR OUT #113 ~ Meeting Your Edge: Anti-Fragility and the Hero Archetype

    Featured image is of our friend Mike enjoying the view from Cloud's Rest in Yosemite during our 2019 Yosemite Retreat. We're currently accepting applications for our 2021 retreat. 

    Listen and explore:

    • Alasdair gets shingles in the truck camper
    • What 2020 ended up looking like for Alasdair and Julie-Roxane
    • Being robust vs. being antifragile
    • The Hero's stance toward the unknown and why it's worth studying
    • The two faces of the unknown and how our attitude toward what we don't influences how we experience it
    • What's your training ground? Finding arenas where you can meet your edge and practice with the unknown
    • The role of elders in helping us face the unknown
    • What the Oracle of Delphi's message "Know Thyself" means to us

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    • Intro music: "Complicate ya" by Otis McDonald
    • Outro music: "Running with wise fools" written & performed by Krackatoa (www.krackatoa.com)

    Supporting Sacrificial Love: Learning How to Fight a Pandemic from the Army's Chief of Chaplains / Major General Thomas Solhjem

    Supporting Sacrificial Love: Learning How to Fight a Pandemic from the Army's Chief of Chaplains / Major General Thomas Solhjem

    Matt Croasmun interviews the U.S. Army Chief of Chaplains: Major General Thomas Solhjem about whatever transferable wisdom we might apply from armed conflict to our war with Covid-19. They discuss how to cultivate courage, human fragility and loss of control, stories of bravery and love when life is on the line, and how to support the spiritual lives of the men and women of the armed forces.

    Chaplain (Major General) Thomas L. Solhjem is the Army’s 25th Chief of Chaplains. He leads the Chaplain Corps in providing religious support to the Army’s Soldiers, their Families, and Civilians.

    The views that Major General Thomas Solhjem discusses in this interview are his own and do not represent the United States Department of Defense or the United States Army, which have permitted his appearance on this podcast episode.

    Not A Flower

    Not A Flower

    View the original blog post: http://roseannamwhite.blogspot.com/2018/12/thoughtful-about-not-flower.html

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    Fragile, Complex Systems

    Fragile, Complex Systems

    In 1929 a plague struck Florida resulting in an overwhelming government response.  The consequences were not only agricultural but financial as banks, heavily exposed to the Sunshine State's horticulture sector, approached insolvency.  Bank stability, Federal Reserve responses and a suitcase stuffed with six million dollars are all part of the thrilling story.  But so is the notion of bureaucratic delay, wild swings from hope to despair (and back), contemporary titans of industry offering reassuring words, and the impotence of human effort against the monstrous chaos of a complex system reverting back towards simplicity.

    In today's day, the US Treasury bond market was warning for the better part of two years that the monetary, financial and economic - to say nothing of the political and social - facets of our system were fragile.  Weak.  Already enervated by six years of political upheaval and a dozen years of monetary disorder.  The virus was the banana peel upon the wall that Humpty Dumpty was dancing on.

    The United States and European Union GDP estimates for the first quarter corroborate the bond market's opinion.  Though the virus, and the government response to it, only took hold in the final month of the quarter (with exceptions of course, Italy for example) the result was catastrophic nonetheless.  In other words, the US and EU economies were already stumbling about the street, late at night after a 12-year bender when Corona stepped out from the shadowy alleyway with a billy club and an appetite for mayhem.

    1929 Florida Plague as Parable
    Bond Markets Dismiss Fed
    Q1 US GDP
    Q1 EU GDP

    Jeff Snider, Head of Global Research at Alhambra Investments and Officer of the Offshore with Emil Kalinowski, Getting His Pump On.  Artwork by the Caravaggio of caricature, David Parkins.

    Season 1, Episode 27: Korean American Clinical Psychologist Gloria Huh on race, grief, trauma and pathways toward healing.

    Season 1, Episode 27: Korean American Clinical Psychologist Gloria Huh on race, grief, trauma and pathways toward healing.

    Gloria Huh, Korean American Clinical Psychologist

    Maggie was unable to record due to illness.

    Danielle chats with her friend and colleague Gloria Huh. She is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice working with oppressed groups, she’s a trauma therapist and teaches university-level courses on intergenerational trauma and diversity.

    Gloria, who lives and practices in Seattle, has not had “that much” disruption because of COVID which has led to deep sense of gratitude and also urgency to provide for her clients who are directly affected. She said it’s been a lot of “holding space” for them, helping people to not push themselves to be productive or to overextend themselves but instead to encourage them to be mindful and more patient with themselves. Smile! Joke around! Gloria tends to be introverted so the shift to working on tele-health has allowed her to connected with her introspective space. She’s able to jam on her guitar or go for a walk and “cry it out” in between sessions which allows her to be more connected to herself making her stronger for others and not get burned out.

    Danielle says she loves that Gloria is telling her clients to not try to be over-productive in this time. Danielle has had people give her suggestions for online courses for her kids to take if they are “bored” at home. And while she believes her kids are bored, they simply don’t have the energy for more classes right now.

    Many of Gloria’s clients say to her, “What do I do? What do I do?” And she just tells them, “You just need to stay and build a tolerance for the silence. And your body will start adjust and it will be good for your body. We’re not meant to always be at a fast pace.” It’s about being able to stay in the silence, to let out your grief, to be present and themselves in the midst of COVID.

    Danielle and Gloria met through the Allender Center, they both took level 1 and 2 certificate training in Trauma Care. [They had the best group, did you hear that Jen?] Their training focused on trauma and how it impacts our bodies and each other.

    Gloria’s work is with oppressed groups and people of color and during COVID she is finding there are a lot more nuances; a lot her clients feel guilt for being sad and their trauma work is on hold. Talking about their childhood emotional pain feels wrong to talk about right now in the middle of a world-wide crisis. She gets them to a place where they can name the fact that they are deflecting from engaging their work in this moment; that the collective trauma somehow overshadows their micro-trauma and family of origin works.

    There’s been so much racism exposed and highlight during COVID. Gloria has noticed that her clients do not bring it up on their own and that she asks how it is impacting them. She has many Asian American clients that tell about the discrimination and bullying that is happening right now and is being reported on the news is triggering for them because it is so closely related to their own trauma growing up. “They feel invisible and it requires for me to name so that we can bring to the surface and say ‘hey I see you. I know this is hurting you right now.’” Her clients don’t feel they can bring the racism up for fear of being invalidated, even though they know it’s a safe place to talk about it with her. She Gloria makes sure bring it up to provide a space for them to talk about.

    Danielle says what Gloria is doing is both holding space for silence so grief can emerge and also holding the tension to name certain things that may lead to even more grief.

    Gloria’s clients say to her, “You want me to cry!” And she is like, “YES!” It is because the more we look at the details, the pain and the denial, the more you can move towards healing. Grief is a consistent theme with most of her clients and she prepares them even in their initial consultation. Gloria admits she’s an anxious person given her background. She is a second-generation, growing up with immigrant parents who did not know the system. She was thrown in to a predominantly white community and she didn’t know the rules and it created a lot of anxiety for her. So with this in mind, she wants to provide a space where her clients know what to expect and thereby reduces some of their fear and anxiety. Many of them have never had therapy before so she works hard to relieve them of misconceptions and provide structure for a good experience. “Hey, These are things we’re going to talk about… This is what’s going to happen: You’re going to feel worse before you feel better, but trust me in the end it will be so much better. And these are things you will feel… In the beginning there will be a lot of grief, you will feel even more down than you thought you were, and way more anxious.” She asks them straight up: If you can take it, let’s do the work! We can set the pace together.

    When clients come some are ambivalent in the beginning (meaning they feel two competing emotions) and so Gloria spends a lot of time upfront going over psycho-education on emotional awareness and understanding your fear response… But the work is always an intentional progressing in the way of more grief that will allow them to make more changes.

    Danielle says part of the busyness of life and in being productive is an escape from dealing with the anxiety. Anxiety is already present and what was already there is now coming out. There’s a kindness to slowing things down.

    Gloria has intentionally set out to have a multicultural practice that is socially justice focused in order to dialogue about diversity issues and oppression. She has done this so that she could do some of her own healing, with the help of her colleagues, to name her own trauma from being predominantly white spaces where she’s felt unsafe. She has built a tolerance over time. She has learned the hard way to articulate and study her ass off and it’s come at a cost: she’s had high anxiety and it’s affected her body.

    Danielle asks how Social Justice enters Gloria’s work, through the classes and courses she teaches? Gloria has to keep her limitations and strengths in mind as she pursues social justice work. Social Justice to her is righting wrong. So anywhere in your community or personal work that you are righting wrong, it’s empowering and increases social justice. Many of her clients don’t even really know racial trauma. They blame themselves, thinking they are the problem. Gloria helps her clients to put the responsibility where it is due, on the oppressive forces, and that relieves them from shame. It gives them freedom and thriving in their own lives. Danielle believes that what Gloria is going is really practical.

    Gloria say there is “so much harm done by naming social justice as a progressive movement and having no intention to actually follow through. There is such hypocrisy in even using that word.” She takes a rather conservative approach to social justice and makes sure to pay attention to clients who may have fragility around racial work.

    In regards to fragility, as a clinician, here are the markers she looks for:

    1. ASSUMPTION OF TRUST: A clinician should never assume that a client trusts them, because you have not earned it. You are a stranger. “That is privilege to think that just because you have your badge that you can say you are trust-worthy.” There needs to be HUMILITY: If the clinician is too comfortable, too all knowing, it assumes that they believe themselves to be trustworthy without having done the work.
    2. GO SLOW: If someone is wanting to diagnose you a label quickly, to type-cast you… than you are just a number and they are trying to follow some specific manual or script and they don’t really care about you.
    3. NOT MENTIONING CULTURE: If culture is not brought up in the space that is a problem. Even with people of the same ethnicity they will have very different experiences and assumptions. Assumptions need to be explicitly talked about. Whether the same or different, there needs to be naming.

    Clients have intersecting identities, you can’t assume sexual orientation or gender identities. Gloria says the goal is not to put them in a box, my goal is to understand them and make the known, so they can understand themselves better.”

    Gloria says, “I love complexity. I love going deep."

    Danielle says it’s clear that “You really want to know who they are. You’re curious. And there’s a commitment there.

    Gloria notes that body language is so important, especially from a cultural standpoint. There is so much “said” non-verbally with unspoken things as subtle as eye contact and smiling. Without knowing the cultural context one could miss a lot about a person. In order to engage someone deeply you have to know the narrative behind, the nuances of culture.

    Danielle shared about how at a friends house she would burst into the conversation when things were getting exciting and her friend pulled her aside and asked her why she is always interrupting. She realized that with her own family everyone is talking at the same time and it doesn’t feel like anyone is interrupting it’s just the way they all engage each other in this settling when things are happy and exciting. There’s a certain amount of shared excitement and joy.  It was then that she realized in that moment at her friends house she wasn’t interrupting she was trying to show that this is a good joyful moment and that is how she participates. It’s the context and perspective for why Danielle acts that way in those moments.

    This is what Danielle believes Gloria is trying to offer her clients: perspective. The intention behind it is so loving but looking at it from another lens, the context matters.

    Danielle shifts the conversation to COVID. The president has called it the “Chinese Virus” and there are so many acts against people with Asian ethnicities. The death rate among African Americans us much higher. In Washington state, 17% infected with COVID are Latino, compared Latinos only representing 8-10% of the population. The question is how do we make sense of that. Access to health, where they are exposed…

    Danielle says “It’s important to know particular stories about ourselves so we can know particular stories about other people. And we don’t make assumptions.” The coronavirus has really exposed it.

    Gloria says the way the nation is responding to race in the midst of people dying, trying to downplay it’s significance… “there is something so familiar about that.” There’s a movement towards blaming and trying to fix “the bigger problem.”

    Danielle asks what she would do if some of these high level government officials came into her office. She said that she does have some majority privileged clients in her practice and she always starts with a conversation at the start: “Privilege is going to be named. Are you open to conversation? Can you look at it with some humility and also not shaming? To bring curiosity to the way you’ve grown up in our society…” Gloria says trust building happens before there can be naming. But once naming has happened she empowers them to leverage their privilege to help others. To let go of the false narrative of them earning their privilege in order to be allies for others.

    How do you naming without shame?

    Gloria quotes Brene Brown saying that shames breeds in secret.

    Her gut sense shows her while she’s in a session when she feels that internal cringe to not want to talk about something. That’s the give away that it’s something that needs to be talked about. It might be uncomfortable and they might get defensive…. They may try to pretend they didn’t say it… She focuses on how much she likes them as a person and it builds curiosity for them. There is intimacy, vulnerability and trust in those [client-clinician] spaces that they have the capacity to go there and repair rupture should that occur.

    Naming shame is one of the most scary things for her clients but it’s also the most powerful. Once they start naming there is affect change the next session: they are already freer. It’s a difficult process. There is unconscious emotion in the room. And she brings her own trepidation in those spaces from her own stories.

    Danielle is eating ice cream while recording.

    Gloria says she is still a work in progress and it doesn’t always work with her —sometimes they can’t meet her where she wants to go and sometimes it’s not a good fit. The focus is family of origins, trauma, diversity stuff. But if there is help rejecting and deflection of responsibility makes its really hard to do the work.


    Gloria is listening to Esther Perel

    Gloria is reading “When Rabbit Howls” by Truddi Chase

    Gloria is inspired by Fred Rogers

     

    Connect with Gloria Huh:

    Email gloria@interconnectionshealing.com

    www.interconnectionshealing.com

    First Cup of Coffee - May 3, 2019

    First Cup of Coffee - May 3, 2019

    Today I'm telling my own story of having my newbie writer dreams stomped upon by someone thoughtlessly cruel. Also some stuff on process, finding the right POV, and THE FATE OF THE TALA. 

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    MK EP 14: Diary of A Minority Korner Teenage Dream w/Special Guest Anthony Williams (Diary of A Teenage Girl, Raven Simone, Chris Brown, Kim Davis, Rowan Blanchard, Marvel Comics & Diversity, Sexual Racism vs. Racism in the LGBT Community, Deconalize Your

    MK EP 14: Diary of A Minority Korner Teenage Dream w/Special Guest Anthony Williams (Diary of A Teenage Girl, Raven Simone, Chris Brown, Kim Davis, Rowan Blanchard, Marvel Comics & Diversity, Sexual Racism vs. Racism in the LGBT Community, Deconalize Your

    The teenage dream episodes continue, with an episode full of teenage dreamyness! But first Nnekay's in need of a corn chip intervention, and gives hair tips that may lead to suffocation. We need to talk about Raven Simone, Chris Brown has "love" for the LGBT community, and we continue the conversation: can you separate the art from the artist? But most of all we need to talk about teenage dream Rowan Blanchard of 'Girl Meets World', the first member of the Minority Korner Party Korner!  It's time to Marvel at the Marvel Korner because they are diversifying their roster, and the people behind the scenes. Taylor Swift is still basic. Australia did a study that asks: Is sexual racism different than actual racism...? They're probably the same thing but let's look. Plus actor/activist Anthony Williams of hit film 'The Diary of a Teenage Girl' stops by the Korner. Teen sexual awakening, subtle racism, white fragility, activism through social media, and more, we talk about it all with Anthony! And then Nnekay disappears and you wont believe where James finds her. 

     

    ARTICLES FOR REFERENCE:

     

    MARVEL:

    http://www.colorlines.com/articles/native-american-marvel-character-red-wolf-will-star-new-series

     

    http://www.colorlines.com/articles/marvels-newest-superhero-black-genius-preteen-moon-girl

     

    http://www.colorlines.com/articles/bye-bruce-banner-new-hulk-will-be-korean-american

     

    CHRIS BROWN:

    http://www.newnownext.com/chris-brown-tweets-love-and-respect-for-lgbt-community-after-alleged-gay-pride-appearance-no-show/09/2015/?fb_ref=fbshare_web 

     

    SEXUAL RACISM VS... RACISM:

    http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/09/09/no-blacks-is-not-a-sexual-preference-it-s-racism.html 

     

     

    MK EP 02: Electric Boogaloo, Back in the Habit! (Charleston Massacre, the Confederate Flag, Madonna, Big Brother 17, Juneteenth, the GOP, Janet Jackson Interludes, and James' Bday!)

    MK EP 02: Electric Boogaloo, Back in the Habit! (Charleston Massacre, the Confederate Flag, Madonna, Big Brother 17, Juneteenth, the GOP, Janet Jackson Interludes, and James' Bday!)

    You're still here! You're back for episode dos! It's been a crazy week in America, and Nnekay and James dive in on this very special episode of Minority Korner.  Hear those 'P's pop' as we still battle sound issues. We talk about Charleston, the Confedrate flag, and GOP responses and reactions. A call to action for white people to join the fight for equality! Did you see that new Madonna video? Let's discuss! Janet Jackson is on her way back, and we hope with even more ridiculous interludes. And what's going on in the Big Brother house this year? All told, debated, and analyzed from the perspective of these two minorities. Plus it's James' birthday, bye bye 20's, and Nnekay sips some wine... loudly. 

    ARTICLES FOR REFERENCE

    Remembering the Victims of Charleston: http://www.buzzfeed.com/jessicasimeone/these-are-the-victims-of-the-charleston-church-shooting#.nqxX3GbJw4

    White Fragility: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/white-fragility-why-its-so-hard-to-talk-to-white-people-about-racism-twlm/

    Hillary Clinton Calling for 'common sense' gun laws: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/20/hillary-clinton-charleston-shooting-guns_n_7627930.html?ir=Black+Voices&ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000047

    Sign the petition to help bring the Conferdate flag down in South Carolina: http://petitions.moveon.org/sign/remove-the-confederate-3?source=s.fb&r_by=10838012

    11 Ways White America Avoids Taking Responosibility for It's Racism: http://www.alternet.org/news-amp-politics/11-ways-white-america-avoids-taking-responsibility-its-racism

    Gun sales rise in America since 2009 hmmmm: http://finance.yahoo.com/news/smith-wesson-nails-obama-did-115655106.html

    Allies the tiem for scilence has expired: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rev-denise-anderson/charleston-shooting-allies_b_7616708.html

    The Confederate Flag is More Racists than you think:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/22/confederate-flag-racist_n_7639788.html?utm_hp_ref=black-voices

    THE GOP REACTS TO CHARLESTON... SORT OF: 

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/leslie-watson-malachi/yes-seriously-its-about-r_b_7624160.html?utm_hp_ref=black-voices

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/19/jeb-bush-charleston_n_7621438.html

    Caucasian Heritage Day In Utah... seriously: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/19/baseball-caucasian-heritage-night_n_7625306.html

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