girlcrush

Listen in as the ladies talk about how much they share with their close friends and compare how much is too much. Then had an impromptu game of FMK !

This week we chatted with author, illustrator, and activist Florence Given, aka “Floss”, about her new (very bisexual!) novel, GIRLCRUSH. Floss gained an online following leading up to her first book, “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty”, a non-fiction feminist primer, before transitioning to fiction and highlighting sexual fluidity in “Girlcrush”.

We talked about Floss’s bisexual journey, the biphobia and bi-erasure she’s experienced since coming out, the differences she’s encountered dating men v. women, how not wanting to play into toxic and gendered power dynamics in relationships can lead to being overly cautious, why she wanted to create a “messy” bisexual character who gets confused and makes mistakes, and the unexpected joys that have come with a queer identity. We also discussed what it’s like to be a social media influencer today, the difference between our digital self and our reality, parasocial relationships between creators and their fans, how to deal with online trolls and negativity, and the pleasant surprises that come with a public persona. Finally, we touched on consent, how to recognize and get out of an abusive relationship, and how to reclaim your own power and authenticity.

Follow Floss on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/florencegiven/

Visit Floss's website: https://www.florencegiven.com/

Buy GIRLCRUSH: https://bookshop.org/books/girlcrush/9781914240522

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Use my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastr

Rob is hosting a Bi+ trip to coastal Maine in June 2023! First 10 to book get $200 off: https://trips.trovatrip.com/trips/united-states-with-rob-cohen-jun-2023

Self Care and The Badassery Lifestyle

During this 10th episode of the Self Care Passport podcast, Janae Fletcher, self-care architect, quiet leader, personal and professional mentor, creator of the Self Care Passport process, and host interviews Samantha Parker and Kathy Rasmussen, Founders and Creators of Badassery Magazine. Janae, Samantha, and Kathy talk about business and how self-care plays an important role in sharing and creating their passion.

Show Notes:

• Introduction of guest Samantha and Kathy, Founders of Badassery Magazine.
• What is badassery? Living in Badassery is living true to yourself and helping bring others dreams to life.
• Kathy and Samantha´s Book: Badassery Style Community: A Step-by-Step Guide to Planning your Way to an Ultra Engaged community
• The magazine was originally published in print but that wasn´t serving them so they moved their magazine onto a new platform, Medium.
• The new platform makes their articles more searchable.
• It was a hard decision to switch from print to a digital platform which is a good decision in the long-term to share the message.
• Digital print allows Badassery to get their message further.
• It is easy to be passive about self-care and health, but essentially your body is the vessel you can go out and create in the world.
• Both Badassery women shifted their self-care perspective after going to Chicago to see Tony Robbins.
• Differentiating between self-medicating (to cover pain) and self-care can be difficult.
• When differentiating between types of self-care, it helps to understand your desires and motivation.
• Self-care shows up in their business.
• Self-care is balance and a process. Being ok with ¨the now¨ is a process of falling out of it and then coming back in.
• Samantha and Kathy are leading a trip to Bali in March of 2019
• There is a leverageable power within unstructured time used for networking, connection, and idea creation
• Samantha and Kathy put self-care stamps in their passports by being a tourist of their own town and giving themselves permission to shut off and disconnect.

3 Key Points:

1.     When you use self-care, it manifests not only in your life but also in your business.
2.     Differentiating between self-medicating and self-care is important in being effective.
3.     Self-care is a mix of balance and sticking with the process.

Tweetable Quotes:

- “Self-care is a balance and a process.” –Janae.

- “The message is the important part not how it looks.” –Samantha.

- “[Self-care] It is a daily thing but it becomes a little easier when you have the right tools.” –Kathy.

- “As we grow as humans, the business grows with us.” –Samantha.

Resources Mentioned:

• JanaeFletcher.com – Janae Fletcher website
• Self Care Passport –  Private Facebook group
• Badasserymag.com Connect and learn more about Samantha and Kathy
• Badassery Style Community Book
• Medium - Badassery Magazines new home.
• Let’s Go to BALI in March, 2019 with Badassery Magazine