In this episode of my How To Series, I cover how to understand boundaries and how to set them effectively. As usual, I find that understanding what is going on underneath it all to be the best guiding principle with respect to figuring out how to do anything. With setting boundaries, the first thing you need to know is what it is you need and why.
Once you figure out who you are, in any given situation — or generally, more importantly — you can then make more effective decisions. This also can help you disentangle from the needs of others when they do not need to be factored into your decision or way of setting up the boundaries.
In addition to clarifying your set up in order to make boundary set up natural and easy, I distinguish between the kind of ‘self care’ that actually harms other people, whereas good boundaries don’t hurt anyone at all. Come find out how!