You Can Have It All in a Relationship, Just Not All at Once
S4 Episode 9: You Can Have It All in a Relationship, Just Not All at Once
Episode Summary
Believing you can have it all in a relationship is realistic, as long as you accept that it will probably not happen at the same time. There will be points in a romantic relationship where certain priorities the couple has identified take precedence over others. Whether it is romance, sex, financial security, family, travel, hobbies or sleep, there will never be enough hours in the day to fully satisfy all of the daily responsibilities that come with life.
The important thing is being on the same page as your partner. If the two of you have built a strong foundation of respect, communication, trust and acceptance in your relationship, it will be easier to plan and work together to meet your personal and relationship goals. Working cooperatively can help you achieve your relationship wants and needs in a more efficient manner.
Each life stage offers the chance to shift your attention. Just make sure that if you focus on building financial security, you do not completely ignore your familial responsibilities. Shifting a focus is not the same as neglecting your partner’s wants and needs. Balance and realistic expectations are what keep a relationship from imploding.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when men’s refusal to ask for help can end up creating bigger issues down the line.
Show Notes
In our society there’s a commonly held belief that you can have it all. Yes, you can have it all in a relationship, just not all at once. It’s going to come at different points in a relationship, and there’s a time and place for everything.
It takes time to construct the life you really want, and that’s where the foundation of your relationship comes in. A strong foundation sets the tone to build what you envision for your future. But keep in mind that different parts of your relationship will be stronger than others depending on the current stage you are in.
Agreeing to focus on an aspect of your life with your partner can help you flourish in that area, whether that’s intimacy, quality time, or focusing on your kids. Nothing can be perfect all of the time, but if you make a part of your lives a priority together, you can make the most of it. Balance is key in a relationship, and with balance comes compromise.
You may feel under pressure to accomplish certain things in your life, so you put unrealistic expectations on yourself. As a result, you feel dissatisfied with where you are in life. If this resonates with you, something has to give. Otherwise, you put your relationship in jeopardy to explode.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When men’s stubbornness stops them from asking for help fixing things. Some men feel like they should know how to fix something just because they are men. They don’t want to show weakness, or they can become blinded to the fact that other courses of action – like finding an expert or hiring help – could be a better option.
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