head noise

In the last Head Noise episode you guys LOVED the lies exes told so I’m bringing I back for an even more cooked part 2!

And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions.

1. I'm 24, forever single, thriving and upset with men. ‘ve been single my whole life and honestly thrive. But I’m curious about what its’ like in a partnership and am open to a boyfriend but very rarely do I get genuinely excited by a guy. When I do I REALLY do. But every guy I’ve ever like has had another girl in their lives they choose over me. I feel like a second choice or someone’s back up. One guy literally said that I was his second choice once a few year ago lol. Am I doing something wrong? And How can I make it hurt less when I don’t feel chosen?
2. My dad and I have a good relationship when he’s in a good space, but when he’s in a bad place he can be a real arsehole Recently he and I got in a fight over text, and at the next family hang out I went to say hello to him and he gave me the most awkward side hug and barely talked to me. What do I do – I want a relationship with my dad but his behaviour is really childish and hurtful.

LINKS

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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

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First I have a life update about something TRULY shocking that happened to me over the weekend, and I go through your stories of things men have lied to you about!

Then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions. In today’s episode we’ve got two really opposite topics!

1. My husband and I are in out mid 20s and have been together since our late 20s. His family are very close with him. I have recently realised that I have always put his needs above mine – his personality has become my personality. I want to do so much more, experience the world and step outside my comfort zone. I want to put off having kids for a while and he doesn’t accept or understand it. I want change and he is so happy and content without change. We’re growing apart and I don’t know what to do.
2. I’ve cheated on my husband with someone I had a huge connection with. We’ve ended it now as we are both married and decided we didn’t want to leave our partners for each other. Now that it is fully ended I don’t feel like I need to tell my husband as our relationship has really improved. I would just be unburdening my conscience to ruin lives, when I’ve already shut down that cheating relationship and am moving forward with my life. How do I alleviate the feelings of guilt that are clouding my moving forward.

LINKS

• If you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com

• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
• Follow @alexispredez on IG  
• Follow @listnrentertainment on IG 
  
  

CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com

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It's Headnoise my beans and that means it’s time for me to answer your questions. I'm answering four of your questions this week ranging from an imbalance in sexual relationships in a partnership to trying to overcome the terrible relationship model parents set for one listener from childhood til now.

AND if you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com  

1. My current partner has had very limited sexual experience and our sex life is very average. Sexual compatibility is important to me and I don’t know the best way to proceed. He is a green flag in every other sense it’s just that we are at different experience and comfort levels sexually and I don’t just want to "cross my fingers: and hope it gets better. What should I do?
2. After listening to your episode on Limerence Vs Love (linked below) I am beginning to think I might be the object of limerence with someone. The person I’m dating obviously has stronger feelings than me and I was wondering what the best way is to let them down easy?
3. I’m worried that I’m my fiancé’s second choice. I’ve seen him in the past search her up on social media and it’s a niggling doubt that the only reason he is with me is because I was the safe choice after his tumultuous relationship with her.
4. Struggling in a relationship based on the model my parents set for me. I discovered my mum was cheating on my dad when I was a kid (saw the text messages) and withheld that from my dad – and I know the affair continues to this day. They have a terrible relationship. So all I’ve ever seen modelled is disfunction and hurt.

LINKS

• Listen to my episode on Limerance – Episode 302 Limerance Vs Love https://pod.fo/e/21cef1 .
• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
• Follow @alexispredez on IG  
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

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This is my HEAD NOISE episode where you send in your questions and I answer them!

In this episode you’ve asked for my advice on these questions.

1. I'm in my 20s and feel unsure of my direction and purpose. Why do many of us in our 20s experience such feelings of uncertainty?
2. My relationship with my ex-husband has left my in a flight or fight mode. I can feel myself finding myself again and all I crave is peace. I have an amazing new partner who is very patient and understanding HOWEVER because of my previous relationship I learned how to THRIVE during chaos and difficulty and now that my life is settling into a normal and more calm space. You’d think life is perfect but my partner has started to point out that I start fights for no reason or say mean things for no reason whatsoever. I know I’m doing it because it was how I survived in the chaos, so how do I thrive now that I’ve found my peace?
3. What are your thoughts on dating when you STILL have feelings for your ex?

LINKS:

• Listen to my episode with Jemma Sbeg from The Psychology of Your 20s https://bit.ly/dyfm-269 .
• Send YOUR Head Noise questions to info@dyfmpod.com
• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.