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The case for a slower childhood to help kids congruently meet their developmental milestones. Why we need to resist adultification amidst pressure for kids to think, speak, and act like mini-adults.

Here’s how social media and mobile internet use re-wired our social and emotional instincts to make us more primal, pre-social, irrational, inward, and inauthentic.

Many of today’s kids are being raised by the internet and its apps and algorithms are taking on parent-like roles. Here's how the internet is replacing our connections with companions and caregivers.

A lot has changed over the last few years when it comes to our use of screens, social media, and the internet. It turns out, there are significant costs associated with being online way too much.

What does a day on set look like? How do you focus on set? Laura and Michael give a primer on "how to stay in it" on set. We talk about emotional moments, warm-ups, what to pay attention to, how to stay out of the way of the crew. There's a ton of stuff to cover here, so hit us up with your thoughts and questions about set/filming stuff. Click on the microphone at theactorshelpline.com  

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Unpacking four reasons why struggle is necessary: Stress is required for evolution. Challenge is required for growth. Discomfort is required for adaptation. Frustration is required for resilience.

Reflections on a six-month fast from social media. I wanted to share the questions I'm asking myself after taking time away from addictive apps and algorithms.

About our guests:

Russell Brewer

https://researchers.adelaide.edu.au/profile/russell.brewer

Lennon Chang

https://www.deakin.edu.au/about-deakin/people/lennon-chang

Benoit Dupont

https://www.benoitdupont.net/en/

Steven Kemp

https://www.udg.edu/ca/directori/pagina-personal?ID=2003705

Rutger Leukfedt

https://www.universiteitleiden.nl/en/staffmembers/rutger-leukfeldt#tab-1

Katalin Parti,

https://liberalarts.vt.edu/departments-and-schools/department-of-sociology/faculty/katalin-parti.html

Bryce Westlake.

https://www.brycewestlake.com

Papers or resources mentioned in this episode:

Harari, Y. N. (2015). Sapiens. Harper.

https://www.ynharari.com/book/sapiens-2/

Other:

I edited this one on the road, apologies if the quality is not quite what you are used to.

The next episode will be at the start of next month. 

The case for a new direction when it comes to the way we approach our emotions. Emotional honesty as a pathway for becoming free.

Holding ourselves back from progress, leaning away from our strengths, freezing in the face of fear, reclaiming our worth, and taking ownership over our lives.

What if this happens? Or what if that happens? Well what if this? What if that? A deeper look into the way we think and react in times of stress. What to do when you have a case of the "What Ifs".

Sometimes our stress and anxiety drives our helping response. What to do when your anxiety drives you to intervene beyond reason, plus a few notes about resisting the anxious urge to solve it all.

Disappointment, dissatisfaction, and life regrets. Examining the brain's tendency to wander and long for a different reality. Navigating the struggle of wishing things were different than they are.

Rising rates of loneliness, unprecedented rates of separation and divorce, a drastic decline in friendships. We need to keep talking about social connection, how to stay in relationships, and how to strengthen our collective social health.

Many of us feel like we aren't good enough when we aren't doing enough. The state of constant chase keeps us chronically pursuing goals without ever feeling a sense of accomplishment. There's another way.

Tutors, grad student instructors, it's hard to launch into this teaching thing, right? I know it was for me and I still have to gird myself every time I enter the classroom! Today, I talk to Dr. Stacey Lawrence about how to teach from where you are. Get ready to laugh, learn, and realize you have all you need to succeed!

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Unraveling the control paradox— how we manage our fear of not having control by trying to gain more of it. How to release our need to be in control of outcomes and let go of our tendency to control others.

Keeping up with appearances is far from enjoyable. It’s exhausting to pretend like everything is fine all the time. It’s annoying to constantly perform as the person who has it all figured out. It’s frustrating to feel like we have to conform to achieve a sense of belonging. The burden of maintaining a facade of unwavering positivity, even when our true emotions and experiences don't align, can weigh heavily on us. Here's what we can do instead.

Read the full article here: Keeping up with appearances by Jake Ernst on Substack

This week, I'm talking about our tendency to take on other people's emotions. This can happen at work, in relationships, and with our close family members. At its extreme, this is a pattern known as emotional enmeshment. In this episode, I talk about how to build emotional autonomy, reclaim our own emotional identity, and curb our tendency to take on the emotions of everyone around us.

Read the full article here: Absorbing everyone else's emotions by Jake Ernst on Substack

Lately, I've thinking about how common it is to believe that busy is better. This week, I'm talking about how to break free from being busy and how to shift from chaos to calm. It's hard to let go of our need to be busy and drop the identity of "the busy bee". For many, it's just not easy to find stillness and take off the busy badge.

Read the full article here: Breaking free from being busy by Jake Ernst on Substack