hyper independence

Independence is highly regarded as an admirable personality trait - we are obsessed with people who are self made, who solo travel, pay their own bills and don't seem to need anyone. However, our sense of independence can become problematic when we approach the point of hyper-independency. Hyper-independence refers to an excessive sense of self sufficiency and self reliance, in which we deny the help of others, prefer doing things on our own and avoid emotional vulnerability. Researchers have since suggested that this kind of behaviour may actually be a trauma response, whereby we push others away to protect ourselves from being hurt due to past experiences. In today's episode we break down the psychology of hyper-independence, specifically its origins in childhood emotional neglect and being forced to grow up too soon. We examine the major indicators of hyper-independence, the links to codependency, as well as the consequences this can have for our love lives and careers, whilst also exploring how we can heal. Listen now. 

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Ever find yourself saying “I don’t need a man” or “it’s easier if I do everything myself”? Maybe you hate relying on people, or maybe you feel uncomfortable asking for help. Maybe your career takes over your life in a cycle of never-ending overachieving, over succeeding and a need for more. Or maybe, just maybe, you are used to doing live yourself but there is something underneath it that wishes you could do it with someone else? In part 2 of our 3 part Daddy Issues episode, Louise sits down again with Stephanie Therapy to go deeper into the Father Wound. They discuss how the Father Wound can be deeply connected to strong, hyper independent women, but those who often silently crave intimacy. The pair discuss:  ⠀ Hyper independence, overworking and overachieving as a coping mechanism ⠀ Relying on others  / relying on men  ⠀ The development of core beliefs in childhood ⠀ Why we date people like Mom or Dad (trauma reenactment) And more.  –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⭐ Want to get more of your therapy fix? Want to 4 - 6 bonus episodes a month for just $3? ⭐ Get access to The House & OPENHOUSE's weekly premium content as well as asking our therapists anything + get access to our our community area for more love and support ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball⠀ Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__⠀ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife⠀ Connect with Stephanie on Instagram: @stephanietherapy⠀ Connect with Stephanie on TikTok: @loveandtherapy ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  Music Sources⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices