marriage mistakes

Brendan & Mike discuss 7 common mistakes men are making in their marriages, and what they can do to fix them. Lots of tactical advice, hard hitting reminders and practical wisdom is shared in this one!

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INTRO: (00:50)

Mistake #1: Being indecisive. (05:58)

Mistake #2: Coasting and just going through the motions. (13:10)

Mistake #3: Having no backbone and not holding your wife accountable. (20:10)

Mistake #4: Believing the “happy wife, happy life” lie. (27:50)

Mistake #5: Treating her like your roommate or your bro. (36:20)

Mistake #6: Failing to spiritually shepherd your family. (41:06)

Mistake #7: Misunderstanding what it means to be a protector. (46:40)

Bonus Mistake: (54:10)

This is a hearty episode that will help you put an end to upset, frustration, resentment, old hurts–and so many arguments and conflicts that you have in your relationship— if you dig in and follow the steps I lay out.

If you find yourself feeling mad, resentful, frustrated, irritated or disappointed often in your marriage, a large part of it is likely due to your “Relationship Rulebook”.

When it comes to our relationships, We all have subconscious or semi-conscious ideas about how it should be, how a good partner is supposed to behave, how they should be, what they are supposed to be doing…and how we ourselves should be as a wife or partner.

These are your relationship rules,   I give many examples of what these look like in this episode.

Since most significant others will not always want to or be able to follow your rules, as long as you continue to subscribe to these rules, you will keep feeling all that frustration, disappointment, resentment, and anger. And you won't ever be able to enjoy your marriage, or love your partner as deeply as you will when you let them go.

Luckily, when you discover, examine, question, and release your rules’ grip on you, you will also release the unhappiness and make way for so much more connection, love and joy in your marriage.

In fact, the work I did done early in my second marriage dismantling my Relationship Rulebook was a large part of the reason that it was so much happier than my first one was.

Listen in now (with pen and paper ready for note taking!) and implement what I share here, and your marriage will start feeling more lighthearted, easy, and loving right away.

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Don’t you wish that there were some things that you would have known before you said ‘I Do?”. We are often so head over heels in love, that we ignore the obvious red flags that are right before our eyes. As we journey along in marriage, there are a lot of mistakes that we make. Some lead to divorce and some make our marriages stronger. Singles, this may help you as well in your journey towards marriage. Be blessed and feel free to share.

087  For most of us highly sensitive women, the ultimate marriage would be one that feels truly, lovingly, interdependent.

Where you and your significant other are mutually supportive, you face the daily challenges of living together with a sense of ally-ship, where you lean on each other, and love helping each other grow and evolve and overcome hard moments and old wounds, where you naturally lift each other up, and the daily to-dos get done with ease and collaboration…where you work through hard emotions together and you help each other feel connected and safe.

We all want this kind of relationship. But in our eagerness to have that, we often make the mistake that costs us our happiness in marriage–or even our marriage itself..

...the mistake of skipping over the KEY WORK  that will actually allow us to have that interdependent love we so desire.

And so we unconsciously find ourselves instead in an emotionally dependent relationship, instead–one that is full of struggles, disconnection, and more heartache than we ever asked for.

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• what I mean by emotional dependence, 
• if and where you may be falling into that (very normal in our modern world) trap, 
• why it’s taking you further from the marriage you really want, 
• why there’s no need for any shame or self-blame about this
• and most importantly, what you can do to reverse it and move your marriage toward the lovingly interdependent one you want!  (And YES, you have that power!)

Listen in to harness that huge influence over how your marriage goes, how loved, secure, and in love you feel, and how lovingly and supportively your partner relates to you.

And perk your ears for the big announcement I make that you’ll want to learn all about!

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