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Are you feeling worn thin, and have no time for your husband or yourself? Overwhelm with life has drained that spark you used to have? 

Are you finding that you feel a bit empty inside, and maybe even distant from your husband who you know truly loves you? But it’s a bit rough lately?

As a busy homeschool mom, it can be difficult to manage everything that's going on in life and make time for your marriage. But it's essential to nurture your relationship with your spouse in order to cultivate a healthy marriage. As Christian parents, we want to honor the Lord in the way we manage our marriage, and our self care, but sometimes it feels overwhelming.

This podcast episode dives into how busy overwhelmed moms can make time for their husbands and keep their relationships strong- no matter how hectic life gets.

We'll discuss 5 tips for setting aside quality time with your spouse, including putting away the phone, planning regular date nights, communicating regularly, making time for physical intimacy, and not forgetting about yourself.

Listen in as we chat about ways you can nurture your marriage even when you're pulled in a million different directions. Nurturing as a lifestyle, the Charlotte Mason way, extends to every family member, not just the kids. 

This podcast will provide practical advice for staying connected with your spouse while homeschooling those special kids, and living a busy overwhelming life,  so that both of you can feel supported and heard no matter what life throws at you!

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We've all done it. We've looked at what someone else has and think their life must be that much better than ours. We see another couple smiling at each other, sitting in that cute little restaurant while making up some fantasy about their romantic life while feeling sad because YOUR husband never does anything romantic. It's what we call looking at someone else's outsides and comparing them to our insides. Today we're going to look at the truth in that it's not better over there where you are looking and desiring what you are making up about what you see.

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What did you find out this past week about trusting yourself? It's ok if you realized that it's true; you don't trust yourself; most people don't. You will never build the romantic marital relationship you dream of if you don't trust yourself to do so. So what do you do now? Listen in to this week's podcast, where I show you three powerful ways to build self-trust in yourself and others.
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Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

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If God wanted us not to keep in touch with the opposite sex after marriage, He would have created a separate world for married couples. But since that is not the case we must learn to live together irrespective of our marital status.

We need to go out and hang out with our girlfriends and our husbands need some sanity from the chatters of the wife and children –they need to switch gears and so do women.

Men/husbands need to keep their ego pumped by their fellow men.  Women need to be lifted, built and encouraged by fellow sisters.

However, when it comes to associating with the opposite sex, there will be some limits; flirting will be cut to the minimum possible – this applies to both married couple and vice versa. The couple should avoid any encouragements to flirt in the same way as singles do.  This is a sign of commitment to the spouse and a the same time demanding the respect and treatment that comes with the new status.

If a spouse cannot control the flirts that are going on around him/her, the best way is to not participate in the exchanges, maybe between colleagues or other single friends.

It is important to remind your friends and colleagues that you have graduated to another level of flirting and sex talk: with your spouse exclusively; that you now get or give a VVIP treatment from one lover, your spouse.

Note: This does not mean that you stop talking to the opposite sex, working with them or even teaming up for business purposes; Your integrity will dictate the extent to which you can associate with the opposite sex. Again it is important to teach your spouse to trust you even in the company of other members of the opposite sex.

How do you do that? By being honest with your spouse all the time. Half-truths create a fertile ground for mistrust and strife.

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After being married for over ten years, you find out that the children you called your own blood, are not really your flesh and blood. How do you deal with a cheating spouse who also lies to you?

One of the worse scars a marriage can experience is infidelity. Spouses may feel violated and disrespected. However, a couple willing to keep their relationship thriving can survive any form of hurt and pain, if properly addressed and dealt with.   Are there exceptions to this principle?

What is your thought on sex toys? Why would you need another toy when your spouse is the best toy you will ever have? I think you don't need extras when you and your spouse have a lot to learn from each other.

Be yourself, respect them and avoid conflicts with them. That is all you have to do.
Avoid going over the top to impress them as this will eventually drain you.

After marrying my spouse I started having doubts as to whether I made the right choice. Is it normal to doubt your choices even when you are totally head-over-heels in love? 

Are all marriages made in heaven? If they are, then why do some marriages fail?
Let's explore this question for a moment...

There is always something to learn in life: even during Covid lockdown. Most of the lessons we learn inside the four walls of our homes. I have  learned my lessons from my family and their extended communities:
Patience with self and others
Love defined in a very new way
Understanding that everyone is as challenged as you are.
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1. Focus on yourself
2. Schedule your day
3. Share your skills with your children and with family
4. remember that project you never completed? Do it now
5. Device fun activities for the whole family
6. Grooming time is now
7. reach out to the elderly in the neighbourhood.

I recently received a question from a client who asked me, “ Is love a pre-requisite in marriage? I come from a culture where we have arranged marriages, yet we have far fewer divorces than in the west where people fall in love before they marry. How important then, is love in a relationship?”
It takes a whole village to make a marriage work. You also need the following pillars for marriage to last:
 Clear channels of communication
Expectations and responsibilities
Respect
Patience
Sobriety
Forgiveness 

I love you.
 You are my best friend.
 Today I give myself to you in marriage.
 I promise to encourage and inspire you,
 to laugh with you, and to comfort you
 in times of sorrow and struggle.
 I promise to love you in good times and in bad,
 when life seems easy and when it seems hard,
 when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.
 I promise to cherish you,
 and to always hold you in highest regard.
 These things I give to you today,
 and all the days of our life.



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(The 10 commandments of love (song by Moonglows)

The  Lovers’ Ten Commandments 

1.      Thou shall not love another as long as we live, I shall yours and you shall be mine.

2.      Thou shall stand by me through the good and the bad times,  In sickness and in health, in times of much wealth and in times of financial struggles, in times of childbearing and in times of parenting, in my youth years and in my old age. 

3.      Thou shall have faith in me and in everything I do. I shall support you in every way you need to succeed in life and you shall do the same for me.

4.      Thou shall love me with all thy heart, as I will do the same. We shall share our love with our children and be role models of an ideal couple for them.

5.      Thou shall take the happiness and the heartaches I  come with, for which complement each other. You are my strength and I am yours.

6.      Thou shall not flirt with others but with me. Thou shall not lust after others but after me.

7.      Thou shall not raise your voice in anger but instead take time out to cool down and makeup later.

8.      Thou shall remember the important dates in our relationship and observe them. We shall celebrate milestones in each other’s life together.

9.      Thou shall remember our date nights and honour them.

10. Thou shall be generous with compliments free of judgement.

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Traditionally we gift with Roses, jewellery, chocolate and candy accompanied by a poetic love card for Valentine’s Day celebration.

Everything can grow old Especially if you have been married for over 10 ten years. It becomes a case of “same old, same old.” It almost feels like you have run out of creative ways to say ‘ I love you’.
Our focus on this challenge is to bring Zest back into your love life as well. Here are some ideas:

• A custom-made or handmade love card 
• Wine and play evening: 
• how about a bonfire for just the two of you 
•  a paint and sip class ...

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Imagine a rose to represent your marriage relationship. The petals are the beautiful parts of the relationship, which both of you have worked hard to realize, your love, your children, your milestones etc.  The stems represent the timeline of your relationship: and stems have thorns.  They are inevitable.
The thorns in your relationship could be:

• Loss of jobs or career
• Sickness 
• Accidents or incapacitation 
• Death 

There are infections and parasites that can infect the rose and may affect its growth. These are external influences that we invite by own will. These pests and parasites could be:

• Cheating
• Gambling and addictions
• Financial recklessness among others

What are your thorns and how are you working with them? Can you identify your parasites and how do you eradicate them?

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Valentines Day is around the corner and we, ladies, wives, lovers and fiancees wish to treated specially on this day.  How about our men, lovers, husbands, fiances? 
This is a candid talk from a man who cares to, all ladies who wish to understand their husbands better - thanks to my sweetheart, Patrick.

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Aside with the chitchat -  we have things they wish our darling husbands knew:

• The emotions behind our behaviour
• The reason we ask many questions and opinions
• The strength and the sensitivity all explained

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Growing up, we learned to decipher non-verbal language from a very early age. If you were on the wrong, your mother only needed to give you ‘the look’ and you would recoil into your room. You could if your parents were happy or angry with you by just studying their facial formation or behaviour.  We are all experts in our own rights, of deciphering non-verbal communication and this expertise could go a long way in making our relationships stronger.

The challenge comes when you turn a blind eye to the many non-verbal cues your spouse is sending to you, yet you can decipher a stranger’s cues quite easily.  Is it selective decoding or have you become blinded by life such that you can’t see or understand your spouse? The aim of this podcast is to help you open your sensitivity to your spouse’s non-verbal behaviour.

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