nonmonogamy

Panelists from our live December show in Chicago talk about aspects of nonmonogamy: communication skills; low-risk ways to begin; what not to do; and the poly community. This lively and thoughtful  conversation deeply considers what it takes to open up your relationship. Plus questions from the audience.

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• Goddess Erica—Tantric doula and empowerment coach
• Elmo Painter-Edington—sex-positive somatic therapist and empowerment coach 
• Jake Penrod—therapist specializing in all things queer and kinky 

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Karen Yates—somatic sex educator, intuitive, and healer

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The last year has been one of massive transformation, both in my professional and personal life. I changed my business model and let go of my overachieving tendencies. I also left a long-term relationship and went on to explore my sexuality. Tune in to this episode to hear the insights I’ve gathered in 2023 and reflect on how you have also progressed in the past 12 months. 

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Episode 151 - Is she to old for me? In this episode of Kinky Frame of Mind, Donand Syn talk about their happenings. Don talks about his date with Sour Patch. They talk about BT's birthday then preparing for the pool party. This weeks questions are about a partner with surgical scars and how to address it. Then they have a question about someone attracted to someone a lot older and how to proceed with it. 

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In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Do asexual folks have sex? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation?

In honor of International Asexuality Day (April 6th), we revisit a conversation between Effy, Jacqueline, and journalist, editor, and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, Angela Chen. The three talk about the asexuality spectrum, its role in identity politics, and why Angela’s book helps those of any sexual orientation understand the role of sexuality in society and in their lives.

To learn more about Angela Chen, follow her on Twitter @chengela, on Instagram at @angelaetcetera, or via her website: angelachen.org.

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Pornography has been the primary blame for many relationship problems. Fingers get pointed. Feelings get hurt. Doors get slammed. Psychologist and sex therapist David Ley, PhD believes pornography gets the blame because it is the “big, sexy, shiny object” that grabs the focus when a relationship is feeling bumpy. Ley says pornography is really just a symptom of other underlying issues that are not being discussed. In fact, he says pornography can be a great resource that can introduce novelty and new ideas to a couple’s sexy life if it’s viewed together. He and Ali also talk about why men seem to use it so much, the importance of communication and, hot tip, there is feminist porn out there.

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes)

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Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure

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The Top Ethical Porn Sites that Are Inclusive and Empowering (Glamour UK)

Common Sense About the Effects of Pornography (Psychology Today)

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Episode 141 - What's this ethical thing? - In this episode of the sexy Swinger, Kink, BDSM podcast, Kinky Frame of Mind, Don and Syn talk about their weekends. Syn went to Denver with BT and they had lots of fun. Don and Lady Kroft went to OKC and say Rob Little and then they taught a rope intensive. Then this weeks topic is about ethical nonmonogamy, what is ethics, who decides what is ethical? Don talks about a post he put on a Facebook group about would you support a club if you knew the owner was shady or unethical? So Don and Syn discuss why they use the term consensual nonmonogamy.  

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How does jealousy show up in non-monogamous relationships? What are some key factors that might challenge and even change our attitude towards jealousy? How can we embrace, process and learn from our jealousy?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton to talk about her research on jealousy specifically with non-monogamous relationships in mind. Dr. Hamilton sums up her research with a quote from Maya Angelou, “Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.”

To learn more about Dr. Joli Hamilton
Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, NPR, and The Atlantic. 

She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required

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Want the 5-step jealousy framework from Joli's research? Grab your e-book here: http://www.ListenToJoli.com
www.JoliQuiz.com is a great way to check in with how ready you are to explore opening up a previously closed relationship 

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What is compersion? What are the factors that promote compersion and the factors that hinder it? Does it have a place outside of non-monogamy.

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing compersion. Effy and Jacqueline reflect on their personal journeys with compersion, and share the highs and lows of trying to embody this most elusive feeling.

Free Session for Curious Fox Listeners: If you are interested in learning more about Marie's work, you can get a free 30-minute exploratory session by visiting bit.ly/curiousaboutcompersion

To learn more about Marie
Dr. Marie Thouin is the founder of Love InSight, a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coaching practice where she helps people of all backgrounds and relationship styles create vibrant & intentional love lives. She is also a leading scholar and researcher on the topic of compersion in consensually non-monogamous relationships. She shares her research on her website, www.whatiscompersion.com.

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Polyamorous therapist and author Kate Loree chats with Karen about her new comprehensive book “Open Deeply,” about consensual nonmonogamy, and how to work through the bad feelings that can damage good relationships.

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• Kate Loree - Sex-positive psychotherapist
• Open Deeply and other sex-positive book recs
• Open Deeply podcast - hosted by Kate Loree and Sunny Megatron

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Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation and to download her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication.

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Alison Ash PhD is a sex and intimacy coach, educator, and creator of many sex positive workshops including her upcoming, very popular Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse. This dialogue was stunningly rich and informative for both of us. We freely converse about sex positivity and how consent skills make it possible to skillfully and joyfully give and receive pleasure, flirt and seduce, have more intimacy, and better understand monogamous and non-monogamous relationships. We also discuss how the lingering pain and shame from sexual trauma impedes healthy sexuality and what systemic healing and resolution of sexual trauma entails. Alison clearly explicates the difference between pornography and erotica, and the deleterious effects of widespread porn use by teens, adults and couples. This episode is a romp through a diverse landscape of contexts and practices in which sex positivity is being experienced and enjoyed. 

Alison Ash PhD is a sex and intimacy coach, educator and creator of many sex positive workshops including her upcoming Masterclass. She coaches individuals and couples in sex positivity. Her book Gender Ambiguity in the Workplace: Trans and Genderqueer Discrimination was published in 2018. In addition to her private practice she is a Stanford University lecturer in the Wellness Education program teaching Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills to both undergraduate and graduate students. 

Her website is https://www.turnon.love/

Karen speaks with author and Teen Vogue columnist Nona Willis Aronowitz about her new hybrid memoir, "Bad Sex," about the history of free love, feminism, and her own journeys in nonmonogamy and beyond.

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• Nona Willis Aronowitz
• Buy “Bad Sex” - Plus more recs on our Bookshop page!
• Essay - Against Chill
• Essay - On Heteropessimism

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Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation and to download her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication.

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In this episode, I talk with my life partner, bass player in my band Bhakti Explosion, and the father of my children, John Hoelle. We explore "Higher Love" and the keys to a successful romantic relationship, and how our relationship of over 15 years has expanded to include polyamory.

John is a family lawyer and relationship coach, and he hosts a group  seminar supporting a new paradigm of unbounded intimate partnerships.  More details at consciousfamilyfirm.com/lovefreefromfear

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As relationships evolve so do individual ways of personal expression in a partnership(s) and in intimate connections. Join Andrea and her Guest, Jessica Esfandiary, Podcast Host of  Open Late, shares her personal story of how she and her husband opened their relationship to others emotionally and sexually. Learn how this freedom helped Jessica learn more about herself by embracing what was true for her personal fulfillment. While this lifestyle is not for everyone and takes a great deal of communication and honesty within a marriage, let's explore ideas that take us beyond the limits of what we've been taught in mainstream culture.

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What does scientific research tell us about relationship satisfaction in non-monogamy? What can monogamous folks learn from the research done on non-monogamous relationships? How do monogamy and non-monogamy differ when it comes to relationship satisfaction, mate retention, and conflict resolution?   

Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best and the worst strategies for navigating consensually non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Mogilski’s research - the first one of its kind conducted with diversity in the data as a priority - identifies nine empirically supported strategies that result in higher relationship quality and sexual satisfaction in non-monogamous relationships.

Our guide in this exploration is Dr. Justin Mogilski 
Justin K. Mogilski earned his Ph.D. in evolutionary psychology in 2017 from Oakland University. He is an assistant professor at the University of South Carolina, Salkehatchie. He researches how evolution has shaped brain computation to adaptively guide the decisions that people make to initiate, maintain, and dissolve intimate relationships. He has published in evolutionary, social, personality, and sexual psychology journals on topics spanning mate poaching, infidelity, cross-gender friendship, consensual non-monogamy, intimate partner conflict, moral decision-making, morphometric cues of partner attractiveness, and multivariate statistical analyses of human mate preference.

You can learn more about Dr. Mogilski:
Twitter @justin_mogilski
Facebook lab page facebook.com/MogilskiLab

If you’d like to participate in Dr. Mogilski’s international study of how people maintain multiple, concurrent intimate partners (e.g., polyamory, swinging, open relationships), you can do so by clicking on the link below. Anyone can participate if they're 18 years or older and have at least one current intimate partner. You do not need to be (or have experience) in a non-monogamous relationship. The link leads to Qualtrics. Funding and ethics approval statements can be found via the link.
Link: https://uofsc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_7QI9ok5A8AGjMfY

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When is the right time to start a polyamory convo with a long-term partner? Panelists respond to a listener who’s on the fence about opening up a monogamous relationship.

In this episode:

• Tazima Parris - Sex Coach
• Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex & gender rebels
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Surrogate Partner and Intimacy Coach

Further Listening:

• S2E43: Polyamory Q&A
• S2E6: What Open Relationships Can Teach Everyone

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Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works iwith couples to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.

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