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Dr. Vats shares that disciplining can be frustrating if parents are not consistent. Of course, there are exceptions, however, each child must be taught the importance of following these rules.
 
She suggests that we must follow the Pickler philosophy from the U.S. which teaches parents to know when to interfere and when not to by identifying the red (situation where the child is going to hurt himself – DANGER), yellow (a situation where children will need your guidance) and green (a situation where the child is struggling and exploring) behaviors of children. Understanding this will help parents to discipline children with calmness and in an age-appropriate manner.
 
Disciplining starts early so when children are babies they can be shown picture cards to set a routine. For example –pictures of time for a bath, time to eat, etc. If children understand routine and follow a routine – they are better behaved and throw fewer tantrums.

About the Speaker 
An educator, an avant-garde educational activist, a teaching expert, and a parenting guru, Swati Popat Vats makes compassion and empathy with the environment the sole language of integrated learning that she advocates. She is also the Nursery Director for Little Wonders Nursery, Dubai and Joy of Learning Nursery, Sharjah, UAE, and President of Podar Education Network and Early Childhood Association, India.

As a parent, one of your jobs to teach your child to behave. It's a job that takes time and patience. But, it helps to learn the effective and healthy discipline strategies.

Here are some tips from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) on the best ways to help your child learn acceptable behavior as they grow. The AAP recommends positive discipline strategies that effectively teach children to manage their behavior and keep them from harm while promoting healthy development. These include:

- Show and tell. Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. Model behaviors you would like to see in your children.
- Set limits. Have clear and consistent rules your children can follow. Be sure to explain these rules in age-appropriate terms they can understand.
- Give consequences. Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don't behave. For example, tell her that if she does not pick up her toys, you will put them away for the rest of the day. Be prepared to follow through right away. Don't give in by giving them back after a few minutes. But remember, never take away something your child truly needs, such as a meal.
- Hear them out. Listening is important. Let your child finish the story before helping solve the problem. Watch for times when misbehavior has a pattern, like if your child is feeling jealous. Talk with your child about this rather than just giving consequences.
- Give them your attention. The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention—to reinforce good behaviors and discourage others. Remember, all children want their parent's attention.
- Catch them being good. Children need to know when they do something bad--and when they do something good. Notice good behavior and point it out, praising success and good tries. Be specific (for example, "Wow, you did a good job putting that toy away!").
- Know when not to respond. As long as your child isn't doing something dangerous and gets plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring bad behavior can be an effective way of stopping it. Ignoring bad behavior can also teach children the natural consequences of their actions.

It's tough to know how to help an angry child. But some children—despite their small size—seem to have an endless supply of anger buried inside them. They grow frustrated easily. They yell. They might even become aggressive. But, they usually blow up over seemingly minor events. If you're raising a child whose angry outbursts have become a problem, it's important to teach them the skills they need to deal with feelings in a healthy way.
 
Some children have anger issues whereas some don’t. It is essential for parents to understand Eric Erikson & stages of emotional development which says in the initial year's parents must give children attention immediately otherwise children tend to lose connection and faith in human connection and that is why later they start throwing a tantrum. Hence, it is important to understand how to nurture children as per their age.

Additional ideas to help your kid with anger management:
- Teach Your Child About Feelings
- Create an Anger Thermometer
- Develop a Plan to Help Your Child Calm Dow
- Teach Specific Anger Management Techniques
- Make Sure Angry Outbursts Aren't Effective
- Follow Through With Consequences When Necessary
- Avoid Violent Media
 
About the Speaker 
An educator, an avant-garde educational activist, a teaching expert and a parenting guru, Swati Popat Vats makes compassion and an empathy with the environment the sole language of integrated learning that she advocates. She is also the Nursery Director for Little Wonders Nursery, Dubai and Joy Of Learning Nursery, Sharjah, UAE, and President of Podar Education Network and Early Childhood Association, India.

Hi, my name is Ms. Jade and I am a teacher here at the Little Dreamers Nursery. Is listening
something that your child struggles with? Well today I’m here to give you some top tips on
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1. Attention first, get on their level
My first tip is to make sure that you connect with your child prior to asking them a question or giving them a command. To do this its best to get down on their level, make eye contact or
give them a gentle touch on their body. You might want to start by commenting on
something that they are doing (for example- “wow, I like what you’re doing with the blocks,
what did you build?”) then, allow your child to respond before making your request, this way
your child will be much more likely to co-operate.

2. Use fewer words- do and not don’t
Try to keep your interactions on the positive side, using more do’s instead of dont’s.
Negative commands such as “no” and “don’t” can sometimes confuse children as they are
required to then process multiple things instead of one (what should I not be doing? And
what shall I do instead?) So, instead of telling your child “Don’t throw the toys all over the
floor” you could say “Please keep the toys inside the basket”. This way they only have to
listen, process and respond to one thing, therefore your child will be more likely to follow
through with the command.

3. Give them a choice
If your ever stuck in a stand-off with your child and they may be being very persistent about
a particular matter. This next tactic can work wonders in this type of scenario and it’s as
simple as offering your child a choice. For example, “which shoe do you want to put on first?
This one or this one? This allows your child to think that they are the one in control. Children
of all ages have a hard-wired need for power.  When children don’t have opportunities to
exert their power in positive ways such as choosing what clothes to wear or picking what
game to play they tend to exert their power in negative ways, this is where you will see the
challenging behavior.

4. Engage co-operation- say thank you beforehand
All people (children through to adults) thrive from being managed in a positive way. By
saying thank you to your child before you give your instruction your child will understand that
you trust them to follow through with the direction that you are giving, increasing the
likelihood of them actually doing it. So try saying “thank you for cleaning up your toys when
you have finished with them, it makes me so happy”. Try it- it really works!

5. Routine, Routine, Routine
Lastly, as we all know and understand a solid routine is imperative and also ensures that
children are naturally conditioned to what is about to happen. When a child is settled into a
routine they are already expecting that you are about to ask them to tidy up or brush their
teeth or go to bed (especially if you give a warning a few minutes before), whilst this might not work all the time having a routine will help to minimize the likelihood of your child ‘not
listening’ as such, as they are already aware of what’s about to come.

Maryum is very passionate about early years education and enjoys working with senior leaders to plan, develop, direct and establish early years educational facilities in the UAE. She has also continued her further studies in Early Childhood Education, completing her NCFE Cache Level 5 Diploma in Leadership and Management for Children.

Maryum suggests the following tips
1. Where to Begin 
a) Really get to know the child
b) Talk to the child about what they are doing
c) Parallel play with the child

2. Methods used to help a shy child 
a) Read books to your class/at home based on characters that overcame shyness
b) Pair children together or in small groups
c) Spark interaction
d) Praise another child's friendly action in the presence of the shy one
e) Reward friendly behaviors
f) Show empathy and understanding

Maryum was born in England and grew up in South West London, graduating from City University, London with a 1st Class Honours degree in Business Computing Systems. Shortly after graduating she moved to the UAE in 2007 where she took an interest in Early Childhood Education by supporting a new Nursery business start-up in 2012 and taking on the role of Nursery Deputy Manager.

She then pursued her career in early childhood education by moving onto a new nursery group, taking on the role of Nursery Principle in a British Nursery in Dubai for over 8 years. In 2018 she was then offered an incredible and exciting opportunity to join BEST Education Group, in their project to head the first Finnish ECEC nursery in the UAE. Joining Best Education Group as Senior Nursery Development Manager her role involved working with Best Education senior team through stages of each project including academic planning, curriculum development, nursery design and layout, procurement, policies and procedures, marketing, recruitment and training and liaising with ministry officials.

After successfully establishing the first branch of Best Kidz Nurseries licensed by the Ministry of Education as the first nursery under the Finnish Early Childhood Education and Care curriculum in the UAE, Maryum continues to work with Best Education Group to develop and expand the brand and group of nurseries and continue her passion for Finnish Early Years education.

Building a child’s confidence is a very rewarding experience because you almost get to see it as it is happening. It’s really important to give kids thé room to make mistakes and attempt things without becoming discouraged. 
Sharing their enthusiasm when they bring their successful work or creation to show off with pride will help reinforce their confidence in their own ability to find solutions to challenges. It’s really important to resist the urge to step in and fix things or do things for the child. Give them the time to try things, to get it right, and to share and communicate what they know and learn. These are key traits for success in learning and also greatly important for social and emotional development!

Confidence is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give their child. Carl Pickhardt, a psychologist and author of 15 parenting books, says a kid who lacks confidence will be reluctant to try new or challenging things because they're scared of failing or disappointing others.

This can end up holding them back later in life and prevent them from having a successful career. "The enemies of confidence are discouragement and fear," he says. So, as a parent, it's your job to encourage and support your child as they attempt to tackle difficult tasks.

Teaching your kids to be resilient is key to boosting their self-esteem. Self-confidence comes from a sense of competence. A confident child needs a positive and realistic perception of his or her abilities. This arises out of achievements, great and small. Your encouraging words can help develop this confidence, especially when you refer to your child's specific efforts or abilities.

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Every milestone comes with its set of beautiful moments and hardships as well. Here she explains within these stages, ways to keep the parents in control of the situation with appropriate guidance to the children.  

Nouhad Doughan suggests 3 tips:
Tip #1: Stop, Explain , redirect
Tip #2 Empowerment and choices 
Tip #3 Explaining privileges vs rights and what you lose  

About the Speaker

Nouhad Doughan is a Lebanese mother of 3 kids. She has been in Dubai for 10 years. 
She found a passion for early years education when her first daughter was just 1 and after working most of her life in marketing. Nouhad opened her first nursery 5 years ago and now is in the process of opening the 3rd. Every ounce of attention and passion is put into Kids Spot Nursery.