permissive parenting

In this episode, Amanda Diekman, an eminent advocate for low-demand parenting, discusses her own experiences as an autistic adult, and how it has shaped her parenting style. 

She also explains the core principles of low-demand parenting and emphasizes on building trustful relationships by being creatively supportive to meet the child's distinctive needs. We also look into the parental process of accommodating a child's neurodiversity, experiencing a sense of deep 'why', and their own need within it. 

We talk about:

• [6:40] What is low demand parenting and how did came to adopt it

• [10:35] How she grew low-demand parenting from watching her children

• [11:55] The breakdown that changed things with her middle child

• [17:00] What happens in the nervous system of a PDA

• [19:30] The continuum of resistance when being told what to do

• [23:30] How to handle family demands in parenting

• [29:00] Getting assessed when there are challenges

• [35:30] Handling a hungry kid who won't eat because they're experiencing it as a demand

• [37:40] When dropping the demand for the child creates more of a demand for a parent

• [41:50] The deep ‘why’

• [47:10] Struggling doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong

• [50:55] The difference between low demand parenting and permissive parenting

• [54:40] Advice to her younger parent self

With two Duke degrees, countless academic papers, and a Masters in Theology under her belt, it seemed she was on a steady path. But in 2020, when her child went into severe autistic burnout, and she was diagnosed with PTSD from parenting, everything in her life changed. She reworked her parenting approach and her self-care rhythms based around radical acceptance. From this experience, the low demand approach was born.

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What can we learn about parenting from Blockbuster and Netflix? 

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I’m sure that based on the title of this episode, you may be a little confused about a thing or two.

Blockbuster isn’t the first thing one would think of when trying to navigate the struggles of parenting.

Come along with me while I explain an analogy that ties together fear based parenting, and good old Blockbuster! Think about it this way. What used to happen if you returned a movie to Blockbuster after your allotted rental time? You got charged a late fee right? And I’m guessing it didn’t make you feel great. Now think about what often happens when a child misbehaves or makes a mistake - if they get yelled at and talked down to all the time, it gives them the same negative feelings… 

So what can we do to help our kids understand that they need to be held accountable, but still foster a relationship of love, mutual respect, understanding and connection? We don’t need to get rid of expectations or boundaries by any means. But instead of using the fear of being in trouble as a motivator - we let them know that we are a safe place they can come to.

And when they do mess up, we can trust that they have the strength and resilience to overcome their mistakes. We can have discussions and hold to expectations while still letting them knowwe love, respect and support them. 

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Psychologists say that there are basically only 4 parenting styles - permissive, authoritative, neglectful and authoritarian. 

Which one are you and which one is best?  Tune in this week to find out.

As many countries are still in lockdown or entering a second lockdown, many parents find that staying home with their kids is not an easy job, to say the least. And that's especially true if you're trying to set boundaries all they long. So, naturally, some parents tend to get more and more chill with those boundaries, sometimes to the point of giving them up.

But, is that even a problem? Maybe fewer boundaries are the sane way to go? What's so wrong about being your child's best friend and eliminating the hierarchy?

That's the topic of this episode, as we explore the negative effects of what is known as permissive parenting.

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