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    Explore "positive intentions" with insightful episodes like "(Rewind): Don't Like Their Behavior? Use These 3 Simple Tips!", "Love Receiver" and "How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker" from podcasts like ""Love Life with Matthew Hussey", "Everyday Positivity" and "Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris"" and more!

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    (Rewind): Don't Like Their Behavior? Use These 3 Simple Tips!

    (Rewind): Don't Like Their Behavior? Use These 3 Simple Tips!
    If you’ve been in the early dating stages with someone, you may have noticed after a few weeks when you get one of those “uh-oh” moments.

    Maybe they didn't call when they said they would. Or they're a little ignorant about something that’s important to you. Or appeared to take something you did for granted.

    It might not be terrible behavior, but you know it’s behavior you don’t want to be a pattern for the rest of your relationship.

    So how do you handle the conversation without letting your emotions get the better of you? I.e. without reacting in a way that would hurt rather than help the relationship...

    In this week’s episode, I’m going to give 3 steps of exactly how to handle this difficult conversation, so that you can handle it in a productive way when it happens.

    This is how you make them want to be a better person for you...

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    How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker

    How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker

    Most of us talk all day long. We speak to each other, we type at each other, and of course, we talk to ourselves internally. Talking and listening is a key part of what it means to be human and It’s very hard to be a successful person if you can’t communicate your ideas and listen to and understand other people. 


    Today’s guests, Mudita Nisker and Dan Clurman, are here to explain some very simple and easy to understand communication skills that can transform your life. Their new book, Let's Talk: An Essential Guide to Skillful Communication concisely summarizes their teachings and they’re coming on the show today to walk us through some of the key learnings from this book. 


    Over the past thirty years Nisker and Clurman have provided communication training to individuals and organizations in the private, public, government, and nonprofit sectors. They have also led workshops, and trained staff at leading mindfulness centers such as Insight Meditation Society and Spirit Rock Meditation Center. Clurman is a communication coach and professor in the Ageno School of Business at Golden Gate University in San Francisco. Nisker is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. 



    In this episode we talk about:


    • Talking vs. listening
    • Content vs. process 
    • The power of saying nothing at all
    • Reflective listening 
    • The Buddhist concept of Right Speech
    • Content goals vs. relationship goals
    • “I” language
    • Provisional language
    • Stating positive intentions
    • Framing
    • And Flooding vs. chunking



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