queer parenting

Today, I have a conversation with my friend Matt Corker about living unapologetically yourself in all areas of your life. 

Matt opens up about his experience being a gay father and husband and how he had to become the queer role model and representation he needed to create a life he really wanted. He shares how he found the man of his dreams by following the 5 date rule for one whole year. We also talk about how vital it is to create healthy family boundaries with heterosexual family members if we want to living full expressed and free. 

Matt and I both have a deep calling to mentor the next generation of LGBQTIA+ humans and create a new future that truly benefits marginalized communities and all of humanity. We discuss the intentional steps we are taking to do this and how you can be a part of this movement with us.

Matt is a proud gay dad to his precious 2-year old Sasha with the love of his life Chad, his husband of 5 years. He’s an inspiring coach and is passionate about helping organizations succeed by developing vision-led leaders. Most recently he was the Chief Operating Officer of Smash + Tess, overseeing their operations, sales, and people teams. Matt holds a MBA from the Copenhagen Business School, is a 200 E-RYT yoga teacher, and is a two time lip-sync battle champion.  

Resources:

• Mark Groves video talking about belonging and authenticity: two universal needs all humans share.
• Lightyear Leadership’s FREE course Power My Future. This course will help you start imagining your future and moving toward it today.
• The two books Matt mentions — Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World and The Diamond Cutter: The Buddha on Managing Your Business and Your Life.
• Connect with Matt on Instagram on @Matt_Corker and learn more about him at mattcorker.com.
• Connect with me @lucca_petrucci on Instagram or TikTok.

This episode was produced by Lucca Petrucci and mixed and mastered by Joel Yoshonis.

Kris returns to give us an update on Baby Beyoncé and what it's like to be a parent. Trans rights are up for debate this election season, and we have John's (Oliver and Stewart) showing their allyship. Is it a bad queer opinion to enjoy your long distance relationship? Susie Carmichael should be the next LGBTQ+ cartoon character.

Shoutouts:
Shana: TransClinique: Uses telemedicine to create a virtual concierge gender affirming clinic that provides convenient, high quality care to Trans and non-binary folks - and they did this adorable video of trans kids and their parents doing Trans affirmations. Follow @transclinique on IG

Shelli: Dani Janae writer, poet, temptress. @figwidow on twitter and @bell.biv.dahoe on IG

Bad Queers is co-hosted by:
Shana Sumers: @shanahasagram
Kris Chesson: @kris.chess

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My guest today is Naomi from Queer Nest Club. Naomi uses she and they pronouns, and is Founder and head Doula of Queer Nest, where she coaches and supports Queer and gender-non-conforming folks and entrepreneurs through one of their biggest life transitions— becoming a parent! Through support, advance preparation, self-advocacy, and abundance, she helps you become the parent of your dreams. On today’s episode Naomi and I talk about how we can prepare for the transition to parenthood including building our community of supports, asking for help, and being authentic. We also touched on some really important concepts such as the impact of hetero-normative stereotypes on queer and non-binary parents, exploring our own values and planning for the postpartum period.  

 You can find Naomi on Instagram at @myqueernest primarily, and @queernestclub
Company Website: https://queernest.co , Queer Nest Club website: https://queernestclub.com

Highlights:

3:29 - Planning for the postpartum period, loving ourselves

5:08 - Gender stereotypes influencing our expectations, gender norms, how the queer community is bombarded with these messages

7:48 - Abundance vs scarcity and lack-mode

9:08 - You CAN have it all but you can’t do it all

11:54 - You need support

13:50 - “I’m not good at asking for help” – Let’s ditch that

15:09 - Learning the skill of asking for help and delegating

21:53 - Parenting in line with our values

25:10 - Perinatal mental health

29:35 - Postpartum shift, becoming a parent

31:02 - Living authentically; what does this mean and how do we do it

38:10 - Preparing for the postpartum period and Parenting with a partner

49:00 - Normalizing how hard parenting is

52:50 - You are not born knowing how to parent

54:25 - Figuring out our values

55:14 - What to explore on a postpartum plan – Naomi’s acronym – NEW PARENTS?

1:05:25 - Being authentically us and an authentic parent

Resources: 

You can find Naomi on Instagram at @myqueernest primarily, and @queernestclub
Company Website: https://queernest.co , Queer Nest Club website: https://queernestclub.com

You can find us at www.perinatalwellbeing.ca on Instagram @perinatalwellbeing_ontario or by email info@perinatalwellbeing.ca

Kat and Val laugh and cry as they tell deeply personal stores and hard earned wisdom about their respective relationships to parenting, children and infertility. Even if you don’t have small humans in your world this episode will strengthen your conviction to engage fully in your life. Our hosts share how they managed to alchemize pain, loss and disappointment into profound beauty, joy and peace. 

*The information in this podcast is for entertainment purposes only*

Find us on Instagram:
Kat and Val Podcast

Val's offerings:
So This is Love Club
Reset Yourself for Love Program
Instagram So This is Love Club

Kat's offerings:
Fat Liberation Art -Fat Mystic Etsy Shop
Instagram Fat_Mystic_Art

Additional resources/definitions referenced in most episodes:
Prentis Hemphill
Vitamin D gummies!!!!!!
Adrienne Maree Brown
Pleasure Activism; The Politics of Feeling Good
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Book by Emily Nagoski
Attached - Book by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller
Understanding Dopamine: Love Hormones And The Brain
Enneagram
The Four Tendencies
Myers Briggs Personality Profiles
Highly Sensitive People (HSP)
Fat Liberation Movement
Lipedema
Exvangelical/deconstructing from Christianity
ADHD

Welcome to the Queer Brown Mamas podcast! In this episode, we talk about the healing work we've done through therapy to break cycles of violence in our family, and, as a result, how we're able to show up for our child differently than how we were raised. 

If you enjoyed this podcast, please write a review and rate us. You can support our podcast by subscribing, following us on Instagram @queerbrownmamas, donating to Venmo: @queerbrownmamas, or spreading the word! Find us at www.queerbrownmamas.com.

Welcome to the Queer Brown Mamas podcast! In this episode, we explore our love story by recounting our first date, falling in love, and the lessons we learned in the first few months of dating. Who doesn't like a good queer love story?! This is part 2 of a 3-part series.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please write a review and rate us. You can support our podcast by subscribing, following us on Instagram @queerbrownmamas, donating to Venmo: @queerbrownmamas, or spreading the word! Find us at www.queerbrownmamas.com.

Welcome to the Queer Brown Mamas podcast! In this episode, we explore our love story by recounting our first date, falling in love, and the lessons we learned in the first few months of dating. Who doesn't like a good queer love story?! This is part 3 of a 3-part series.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please write a review and rate us. You can support our podcast by subscribing, following us on Instagram @queerbrownmamas, donating to Venmo: @queerbrownmamas, or spreading the word! Find us at www.queerbrownmamas.com.

Welcome to the Queer Brown Mamas podcast! This is our introductory episode where we explain why we decided to create this podcast, discuss what we'll explore, and who this podcast is for. 

If you enjoyed this podcast, please write a review and rate us. You can support our podcast by subscribing, following us on Instagram @queerbrownmamas, donating to Venmo: @queerbrownmamas, or spreading the word! Find us at www.queerbrownmamas.com.

Sound Mixer: Santiago
IG: @harmonic_sine
Email: audio_santiago@protonmail.com

Welcome to the Queer Brown Mamas podcast! In this episode, we explore our love story by recounting our first date and the lessons we learned in the first few months of dating. Who doesn't like a good queer love story?! This is part 1 of a 3-part series.

If you enjoyed this podcast, please write a review and rate us. You can support our podcast by subscribing, following us on Instagram @queerbrownmamas, donating to Venmo: @queerbrownmamas, or spreading the word! Find us at www.queerbrownmamas.com.

Sound Mixer: Santiago
IG: @harmonic_sine
Email: audio_santiago@protonmail.com

We explore mindful and queer parenting with Melissa-Ann Nievera-Lozano.  She shares all about her children, her partnership and the thoughtfulness they put into parenting.

On today's episode we sit down with Georgia Noonan, a Registered Labor & Delivery Nurse and soon to be Women's Health Nurse Practitioner, to discuss becoming parents as LGBTIQ individuals, ways to advocate for yourself and your family amidst a broken healthcare system, navigating ART (assisted reproductive technology) and finding the right practitioner for you, as well as an often overlooked yet common condition that plays an important role in fertility.

Georgia is a soon-to-be Women's Health Nurse Practitioner with under four weeks remaining in her graduate program at Frontier Nursing University. Originally on track to be a certified nurse midwife, Georgia is incredibly passionate about all things pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum. She is an advocate for birth justice and empowerment and helping birthing individuals achieve their birth outcomes and avoid the obstetrical violence and trauma she witnessed firsthand as a labor and delivery nurse for six years before returning to grad school to more actively implement the birth and women's healthcare revolution our nation demands. As a queer woman herself, she is both personally and professionally motivated to work with LGBTIQ individuals after graduation and address the rampant health disparities her community faces. The provision of Evidence Based Care and Information is of paramount importance to her and she recently became part of the Evidence Based Birth® instructor and childbirth educator team. In April, she launched her platform Birthing Beings to help connect and provide all of these services and more to clients in need.

You can also find Georgia on LUNA Mother Co's platform teaching our Childbirth Education Course as well as our Preparing For Postpartum Series. To connect with Georgia visit www.Birthing Beings.com or follow her on Instagram

RESOURCES:
Thyroid Health Resources:
https://avivaromm.com/category/energy-adrenals-thyroid/
https://avivaromm.com/book/

Evidence Based Birth:
https://evidencebasedbirth.com/

How to find an LGBTIQ+ provider:
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/find-lgbtq-ally-health-provider#Online-resources-to-help-you-find-an-LGBTQIA-friendly-provider

ADDITIONAL NOTES:
Sarah & Stephanie are the Founders of LUNA Mother Co, the first all-in-one digital platform for motherhood. From their evidence based fitness method, to pelvic floor & core physical therapy programs, parenting classes, & community, LUNA Mother Co has it all. New subscribers, get your first month FREE using the code MOTHERLODE.

Subscribe to The MOTHERLODE Podcast so you never miss an episode, & catch up with us on Instagram! Interested in being on the show or know someone who would be a great fit? Email us online@lunamother.co Like this episode? Leave us a review and let us know your thoughts! 

The mission of Modern Dadhood is to meet and learn from dads whose fatherhood experiences are different than our own. In this episode, guest Stephen Stratton gives us some new perspective and helps us realize the transgender taboo we grew up with doesn't exist in the same way for our kids. If we can bypass the stubborn notion that we might offend someone by asking the wrong question, we might find there’s a ton we have in common simply by being present, engaged dads.


Adam begins Episode 12 by recalling the recent “sweetheart dance” he attended with his kindergarten-aged daughter, and how it differed from their first time attending last year. The guys introduce guest Stephen Stratton, a stay-at-home father of one, who happens to be transgender. Stephen  shares his compelling story from his childhood as a “tomboy” in rural Connecticut, through planning his own family, becoming a father, and raising his son with his partner Josh. Stephen candidly answers questions about his own story, about his son who was assigned female at birth but now chooses “he/him” pronouns, and about how to have a conversation with a transgender person without  being disrespectful, pissing them off, or sounding like a dope. Topics include:

•  Getting past the instinct to avoid people who are different than you
•  Language and questions that are appropriate (or inappropriate) regarding transgenderism
•  Discovering as a teen that the feelings Stephen had been experiencing had a name, and that it was an option he could pursue
•  Stephen’s desire to be a parent, and his personal goals surrounding fatherhood
•  Being a pregnant man (without turning heads!)
•  How a transgender person handles discovering the sex of his baby
•  How to talk to our kids about sex/gender/the transgender community
•  Our children don’t have the same baggage that we have from our childhoods when this was considered much more taboo

The show wraps up with a riveting “So That’s a Thing Now” (spoiler alert... the twin boy toddlers are fighting! When will it stop?) and the guys gush about Marc’s cherished  Hopsulator Trio by BrüMate. Turns out, Modern Dadhood listeners can get 15% off your first order by using the code “DADHOOD”. So use it!

Thanks to Tanner at Portland Pod for hosting and engineering our session with Stephen.
 

Links:

Stephen Stratton's blog
BrüMate (use code DADHOOD at checkout!)
Portland Pod
Red Vault Audio
Caspar Babypants
Spencer Albee
Bubby Lewis

Tamar en Sophie gingen naar de psycholoog in Gent en horen dat ze zijn goedgekeurd. Aanvankelijk zijn ze daar vrolijk over, maar al snel voelt het ook een beetje vies, dat ze dit hebben moeten meemaken. Tamar voelt zich alsof haar ziel in honderd stukjes op bureaus van instituten ligt.

De geluidskwaliteit van deze opname is helaas niet al te best, we gebruikten nieuwe (dure!) handmicrofoons die helaas niet zo goed bleken te werken... We hebben de meest irritante stukjes eruit geknipt, maar hopen op jullie geduld voor de wat minder erge, maar toch nog steeds irritante stukjes die er nog in zitten.

Dit is een verdrietige aflevering. We hebben slecht nieuws gehad.

Verder beantwoorden we luisteraarsvragen over aan de zijlijn staan (Sophie) en het aandurven om ondanks een chronische ziekte een kind te krijgen (Tamar), en delen een aantal luisteraars hun ervaringen.

Verder:

• We noemen ergens IMSI, wat staat voor "Intracytoplasmatisch morfologisch geselecteerde sperma-injectie". We wilden hier een goede bron plaatsen met duidelijke informatie over wat het is en of het werkt, maar die konden we - interessant genoeg - niet vinden. Wel kwamen we wetenschappelijk onderzoek tegen met de conclusie dat het niet effectiever lijkt te zijn dan ICSI.
• Een luisteraar tipte ons over flushing. Op deze pagina van patiëntenorganisatie Freya vind je meer informatie.
• Tamar vertelde over een vrouw die juridisch heeft afgedwongen dat ze thuis hulp krijgt bij het zorgen voor haar kind. Deze vrouw is Reni de Boer en meer over dit proces lees je in dit nieuwsbericht van Iederin.