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What witch, wizard or sorcerer would you want to fuck? It’s Halloween and we’re still not sure if we want to channel our sexual energy for good or for evil. This week we’re not question what our love is or isn’t. Instead, we’re taking you on a journey through space and time to our Pass the Porn event. Nope, no recordings of the porn sounds here, you’ll need to head to our next event for that! What happens when we get a Witch, a Wizard, a Shamanatrix and a Porn Performer on a panel? Tune in to find out!

Featuring:
Sophie Saint Thomas (@thebowiecat)
Sabina Magic (@sabbyshow)
Dia Dynasty (@dia_dynasty)
Devin Person (@personisawake)
Valerie Merced (@precipicemagazine)
Moderated by: The Violet. (@theviolet_bk)

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This weeks' end of episode song is Twin Temple "I Am A Witch."
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This week we're hitting where it hurts…...in the vagina? Sometimes our love involves vaginas, but what happens when that love is...painful? Whose responsibility is it? Do we push through it? Avoid it at all costs? Denial? This week we talk about the often experienced but lesser validated ambiguity that is vaginal pain. Emily from OhNut joins us to share how she stumbled upon her calling and how a pink frosted donut changed her life. Find out why doctors are saying “Fuck Yes” to a solution created by a patient.

For info and to purchase an OhNut: ohnut.co

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This weeks' end of episode song is Sarah Vaughan "Make Yourself Comfortable"
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We have a fabulous time speaking with author & educator Mark Gunning. Mark is the author of I Told You So, the first in the Adventures of William and Thomas Middle Grade series. We talk about the series, and we also take an indepth look at how we can inspire our reluctant readers to develop a love of reading and learning.

Support the podcast by clicking here to purchase I Told You So on Amazon

 

If our love is full of shit, how much confidence does it take to throatfuck that shit in someone’s mouth? Wait….what? You never asked… we answered, and the answer is this weeks’ guest: Mistress Shayla. A charismatic Texas sadist with a heart of gold. Shayla is seasoned in many areas of FemDom but where her heart shines brightest is when someone is covered in her sweet, sweet excrement. How does one get into pooping on people and why? What do her submissives get out of it and what does she enjoy most. Shayla answers the timeless question: after you’ve used someone’s mouth as a toilet, is there anything in life you can’t do? PLUS, we answer listener questions about how to find someone who is into the thing that you’re into!

Follow Mistress Shayla @YesMissShayla on Twitter & Instagram

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This weeks' end of episode song is the fucking Carpenters: "Top of The World" ... because it really is the perfect ending to this perfect episode.
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Success is not always measured by money or material assets.. Some measure success in terms of time. The Roman philosopher Seneca said it well in a letter to Paulinus: It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it. Life is long enough, and it has been given in sufficiently generous measure to allow the accomplishment of the very greatest things if the whole of it is well invested. We will learn in this episode how to envision success with the end in mind. It starts with your why and knowing your true purpose.

In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some butt stuff with a listener email. With so many great nuggets from this weeks episode perhaps the most poignant is: Ask not only what do you want, but what can you offer.

You can find Cyndi's work, digital courses, or contact her for sessions at:
https://cyndidarnell.com/
And follow her instagram: @cyndi_darnell

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This weeks' end of episode song is Qveen Herby "Sade In The 90s"
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This week on Is Our Love we talk to a *fucking* Wizard. Find out how one becomes a fucking wizard and what a real life wizard even does. Devin Person dispels the mystique behind erotic hypnosis and what happens when a hypnosis goes dark. So much of pleasure based sex ed focuses on physical touch, but how can one manipulate the mind as a part of the mind-body experience? Whether you subscribe or not, hypnotism has many interesting parallels to BDSM and sex. PLUS, Stephen and Lola get hypnotized and have (you guessed it)*very* different reactions.

You can find all things Wizard or book sessions with Devin at personisawake.com and hear him on his podcast: THIS PODCAST IS A RITUAL.

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? MANIFEST! isourlovepod@gmail.com

Books mentioned this episode: Mindplay: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman

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This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Aphex Twin "Film." 
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No conversation about sex is complete without talking about the one night stand. So commonplace its earned its own abbreviation: ONS. One-night standspert MOMO (@momosinmieda) joins Stephen and Lola as we break down what constitutes a one night stand. Are one night stands inherently bad & what can be done to improve them? With vivid stories from one night stands past, present, and maybe even the future, Momo and Lola bond over shared ghosts and Stephen gets to the bottom of why cis-dudes are so susceptible to becoming ghosts. PLUS: We tackle fantasy habits in our listener questions.

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This weeks' end of episode song is THE DETROIT COBRAS "Bad Girl" 
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Exploring sex and love is all fine and dandy but where are we doing all this uber progressive sexploration? Safe(r) spaces are crucial to creating sex positive communities (and sex positive humans)... and Robin Scott is creating some of the most fun, progressive events around. This week, Robin shares how a Roman fertility fest of slapping goat flesh on nubile virgins inspired the gamified orgy that became Eutopia Rising. Even if getting filthy with sticky buns at "THE GREAT BROOKLYN BOINK OFF" isn't your scene, we know you're going to take some of Robin's sexual gameducation back to your bedroom. 

EUTOPIA-RISING.ORG - for more info & Robin's upcoming events

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This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, ESG "My Love For You." Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com 

We're finally tackling our first LOVE spectacular! Is there a reason we're inherently attracted to the “wrong” people? How do you date for love vs. date for sport? This week, Stephen takes the wheel as the resident hopeless romantic as we're joined by Bobby, who knows a thing or three about love. Two men discuss falling in and out of love, while resident relationship virgin Lola Jean searches for answers.

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This weeks' end of episode song is Julia Jacklin "Good Guy"
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Is bisexuality a 50/50 split or is it a bit more complicated than that. Join us for all the confusion from the bicurious to the biphobic, we discuss all sides of the Kinsey scale and question if straight is built out of fear, ignorance or a definite identity. Julia Koerwer, MSW, joins us to drop knowledge on bisexuality as a demisexual dating an aromantic. Confused, yet? Experiment and question your identity on this weeks’ episode where we talk about everything from Harry Potter erotica to exploring surprising experiences with the same gender later in one’s sexual life.

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you):
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This weeks' end of episode song is Tacocat "New World" 
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Lola Jean and Stephen make the best of getting stood up by their guest and take things in an unexpected direction: Anal. Well, maybe not so unexpected. From fucking butts, to having their butts fucked, Is Our Love explores first time anal and how that compares to the anal they’re currently having. Whether you’re an anal connoisseur or haven’t spelunked into the great unknown, there’s something for everyone in this episode.

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This weeks' end of episode song is Charles Bradley "Things We Do For Love" Our theme songs are by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com.

It's official: We live in the future & date via robots. In the age of fuckbois and ghosts, Stephen and Lola explore how dating apps have changed both the dating landscape as well as hookup culture. How do we use dating apps and are they a tool for good or evil? Which apps are better for dating versus hooking up? What are the rules of app etiquette? This week the sexperts struggle with love in the time of technology. PLUS Stephen and Lola go full on 'Freaky Friday' with their Bumble flirt game. Ya'know... for sex science. 

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The 'Is Our Love____?' Theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com and this week's end of episode song is one of our classic favs: Connie Francis- 'Love Is Where You Find It'

Boundaries get a bad rap, but what if we told you they’re actually a GREAT thing? Stephen and Lola Jean explore the role of boundaries as it relates to relationships, friendships, sex work and kink. What lessons can be learned from those required to exercise (and realize) their boundaries often? This week, married couple Kayla and Sean help us explore if our love is doomed. It’s the classic story of fetish wrestler meets poster-child poly-boy. Married for a year and together for three, Sean and Kayla are learning on the job using their ability to accept and thrive in their ever changing selves. Learn from our mistakes. Learn from their mistakes. Learn that mistakes can be a fantastic part of the process.

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The 'Is Our Love____?' official theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com
and this week's end of episode song is Xxyyxx - 'Love Isn't Made'

 

We have an absolutely wonderful time speaking with Cartoonist, Illustrator & Author Lincoln Peirce. Lincoln is the creator of the Big Nate comic strip. He tells us about his new graphic novel Max and the Midknights. We also talk about the value of reading comics and graphic novels and about the importance of comics to help reluctant readers.

Click here to find Max & the Midknights on Amazon

Click here to find Jedlie's The Great Maritini on Amazon

Salty and Spice delve into the bad habit of "mansplaining" and how it hurts when prepping. Want to get your female family members on board with prepping? Don't mansplain to them. Here's how.

Go to Beans, Bullets, Bandages & You by clicking HERE!

In this podcast we sit down with David and Lara Elliott (and 8-month old baby Claire). www.davidelliott.com Some of the topics discussed:

• The Creative Healing Arts Center
• September 11th, Collective PTSD, Overcoming Fear, Darkness vs Light
• Creative Obligation and the Call to Action
• Pele, fire, volcanic activity & awakenings
• Personal responsibility and being the change you wish to see in the world
• Consciously choosing to do the hard work to improve the quality of your life
• Finding the opportunity when things fall apart
• Taking the first step and crossing the threshold on the path of healing
• David and Lara's journey of coming together
• Paternal potency during pregnancy and after childbirth as the provider instinct is activated
• David's new book 
• The power of marriage and commitment
• Listening to your inner voice 
• Commitment and helping one another grow individually and in partnership
• Taking new risks despite prior challenges or failures resulting in pain or trauma

In today's episode, we chat about our reader identities as kids, reluctant readers, why and how we kept diaries growing up, our favorite/first books we loved as kids, and so much more! Drop us a line at nothankswerebooked@gmail.com to tell us what you were like as a little reader!

Books mentioned:

• Voyage of the Dawn Treader by C. S. Lewis
• Wives and Daughters by Elizabeth Gaskell
• The Wonder by Emma Donoghue
• Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman
• Echo by Pam Munoz Ryan
• A Gathering of Shadows by V. E. Schwab
• Anne of Green Gables by L. M. Montgomery 
• Peace Like a River by Leif Enger

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