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    Explore " shame spiral" with insightful episodes like "Let's Take a Look at Codependency.", "Part 2: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.", "Part 1: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.", "Let's Talk About Healing Our Shame." and "Toxic Things I Did & Thought to Keep a Relationship from Ending." from podcasts like ""We Heal Together", "We Heal Together", "We Heal Together", "We Heal Together" and "We Heal Together"" and more!

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    Let's Take a Look at Codependency.

    Let's Take a Look at Codependency.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    We Heal Together
    enOctober 05, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Part 2: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Part 2: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

    General

    1. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

    Sex Education

    1. https://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/sex-education/how-sex-education-funded
    2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gender-and-schooling/201812/funding-abstinence-the-war-sex-ed
    3. https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/138/2/e20161348.full.pdf
    4. https://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/public-health-now/news/high-school-sex-ed-may-prevent-sexual-assault-college
    5. https://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/j.2379-3988.2010.tb00065.x
    6. https://www.guttmacher.org/news-release/2006/premarital-sex-nearly-universal-among-americans-and-has-been-decades

     

    Sex Talk

    1. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/
    2. https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/
    3. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
    4. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.
    5. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/41/81/4181fd5b-b359-480d-8f91-6f9fffda6cb3/nationalpoll_09-14_v2_1_1.pdf
    6. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/05/21/what-happens-to-our-girls-when-we-dont-talk-about-sex/

    Policing Clothing

    1. https://www.coasthighschool.com/apps/pages/index.jsp?uREC_ID=687686&type=d&pREC_ID=1127290
    2. Letter by mom to Notre Dame re Leggings: https://ndsmcobserver.com/2019/03/the-legging-problem/
    3. https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/news/a21667/united-airlines-girl-leggings-shaming/
    4. https://time.com/36997/when-enforcing-school-dress-codes-turns-into-slut-shaming/
    5. https://jezebel.com/lets-reinvent-the-dont-be-a-slut-school-dress-code-509077807
    6. https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/virtue_signaling
    7. https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/

    Orgasm Gap

    1. https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/orgasm-gap-why-it-exists-what-women-can-do-about-ncna983311

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    We Heal Together
    enSeptember 21, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    self acceptance

    Part 1: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Part 1: Let’s Talk About Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

    Sexual Shame

    1. https://familysolutionsok.com/breaking-bad-parenting-legacy-sexual-shame/
    2. https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2014/02/linking-sexual-shame-and-addiction/

    Virginity

    1. The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti
    2. The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy
    3. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/
    4. https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/

    Slut shame

    1. https://feminisminindia.com/2017/04/07/slut-shaming-friend-zone-objectification/
    2. https://www.verywellfamily.com/the-effects-of-slut-shaming-on-teen-girls-460586
    3. https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/

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    RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN

    We Heal Together
    enSeptember 14, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    sex
    personal development
    brene brown

    Let's Talk About Healing Our Shame.

    Let's Talk About Healing Our Shame.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

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    RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN

     

    We Heal Together
    enSeptember 07, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Toxic Things I Did & Thought to Keep a Relationship from Ending.

    Toxic Things I Did & Thought to Keep a Relationship from Ending.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS
    1. Article referenced when I talked about Codependency https://www.mindpathcare.com/blog/codependent-behavior-what-it-is-how-to-spot-it-and-what-to-do-about-it/

    We Heal Together
    enAugust 31, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    How to Break Free of Toxic Relationship Patterns.

    How to Break Free of Toxic Relationship Patterns.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    HOW TO BREAK OUT OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS

    1. Heal all the parts of you (including the part of you that stayed or wanted to stay).
    2. Find a licensed counselor/therapist: Check out Open Path if you are in the US & money is an issue [https://openpathcollective.org/].
    3. Explore childhood wounds.
    4. Make a list of warning signs/red flags for future relationships.
    5. Be gentle with yourself.
    6. Read books to help you understand your issues better [i.e., I realized I struggle with codependency issues, so the following books helped me: “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie” & “Facing Codependence” by Pia Mellody”]
    7. Buy a workbook for self-esteem [i.e., I bought “the Self Esteem Workbook” by Glenn R. Schiraldi”]
    8. Accept help from your support system and friends.
    9. Focus on living in the present.
    10. Practice positive self-talk.
    11. Write out a list of dealbreakers that you will stick to in the future.
    12. Assess what your boundaries are [see below for examples].
    13. Go no contact with your ex.
    14. Fully acknowledge you have a pattern of being in toxic relationships.
    15. Explore what relationships were modeled to you as a child.
    16. Think about a friend or family member’s relationship that you respect.  Take notes [i.e., try to find a new “model” for a healthy relationship].
    17. Give yourself time to heal.  Do not date until you are healed.
    18. Form new friendships + build a social network.
    19. Reconnect with any family + friends that you drifted from during your toxic relationship
    20. Develop hobbies + interests.
    21. Learn how to trust your gut/intuition in relationships.
    22. Consider seeing a psychiatrist for underlying issues (i.e., depression).
    23. Go outside more + go for walks.
    24. Don’t be afraid to tell your story.
    25. Cut out people from your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
    26. Get some sunlight + go outside.
    27. Aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep per night.
    28. Take care of basic hygiene (brush your teeth, take a shower, etc.).
    29. Get rid of any reminders of your ex.
    30. Accept reality + abandon the fantasy.

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    CORDELIA’S BOUNDARIES:

    1. I will not sleep with someone who calls me names.
    2. I will not reach out to someone who abandoned me.
    3. I will not take back someone who cheated.
    4. I will not have conversations with anyone if I feel desperate.
    We Heal Together
    enAugust 24, 2020
    mental health
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown

    Let's Talk About What Abuse Looks Like in Relationships.

    Let's Talk About What Abuse Looks Like in Relationships.

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.

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    CITATIONS
    1. TYPES OF ABUSE - https://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/

    2. WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE? - https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional-abuse-really-means/

    3. SIGNS OF MENTAL/EMOTIONAL ABUSE - https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse

    4. DEFINITION OF SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/5547/silent-treatment-abuse/

    5. SILENT TREATMENT - https://www.psychopathfree.com/articles/silent-treatment-covert-abuse.262/

     

    RESOURCES TO GET HELP

    1. Follow @codependentrecovery on Instagram for more tips.

    2. https://www.thehotline.org/: Available 24/7 for chat & calls [1-800-787-3224) for women, men, and LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence. They also offer safety planning.

    3. https://coda.org/ - runs online support groups for people struggling with Codependency.
    4. www.domesticshelters.org – helps you locate shelters and resources.They also have some online support groups.

    5. https://openpathcollective.org/ - a great resource for finding an affordable counselor

    6. https://www.womenslaw.org/ - can look up laws by state

    7. https://translifeline.org/ - Crisis hotline surviving transgender people (1-877-565-8860)

    8. https://www.rainn.org/ - Available 24/7 for chats & calls [1-800-656-4673] for sexual assault survivors.

    9. https://1in6.org/ - Available 24/7 chat for men who are survivors of sexual assault.  Also offer weekly support group online meetings

    10. https://hotpeachpages.net/ - For non-US residents, this site directs you to services for domestic abuse internationally.

    11. https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/safety-planning-covid19/ -  For help with safety planning.

    12. https://www.loveisrespect.org/ - Supports youth and young adults in ending dating violence. The website includes planning resources, legal help, educator toolkits, and more—[Can also call 1-800-331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522].
    13. https://www.strongheartshelpline.org/ - StrongHearts Native Helpline is a safe domestic, dating, and sexual violence helpline for American Indians and Alaska Natives, offering culturally-appropriate support and advocacy daily from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CT. Anonymous and confidential. [1-844-762-8483]

    14. https://www.nwnetwork.org/ - The Northwest Network works to end abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities. It strives to support and empower all survivors through education and advocacy. [1-206-568-7777]

    15. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. [1-800-273-8255]

    16. https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 - Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melanie Beattie [useful book for recognizing some areas that may need work & may be keeping you in the relationship]

    17. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1626255938/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_LcsqFbV12KY81 - The Self-Esteem Workbook (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by Glenn R. Schiraldi Ph.D. [useful workbook that helps with your self-esteem]

    We Heal Together
    enAugust 22, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    Introduction: What's This Podcast All About?

    Introduction: What's This Podcast All About?

    Podcast Info

    • A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
    • Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
    • Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking here
    • Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery
    • Want to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.

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    WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

    • Want access to free resources? Click here
    • Need help finding a therapist? Click here
    • Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
      • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    • Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
    • Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
    • Interested in any other affiliate links? Click here
      • Note: affiliate links mean Cordelia earns a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
    We Heal Together
    enAugust 22, 2020
    self improvement
    self help
    personal development
    brene brown
    red flags

    S1E31: 31| Own Your Story

    S1E31: 31| Own Your Story

    Rebecca Hopkins talks to us about her training in the Brene Brown’s Daring Way approach and her role as a coach. She shares her knowledge about shame and guilt and how we overcome these experiences by knowing our own triggers and sharing with someone who has earned the right to hear our story. Many of us are walking through the world carrying stories that make us feel unlovable. We discuss worthiness and authenticity and the need to create space to listen to others and empathise with them by just being there. There are so many topics discussed in this fascinating chat including empathy, grief, compassion and letting go of judgment. Rebecca is also an advocate for body safety and she shares amazing tips for parents to encourage body safety and body awareness in their children and how important this is in preventing sexual abuse. Rebecca shares her own personal grief story around infertility and gives us strategies for managing grief using Brene Brown’s Rising Strong method. She also discusses her battle with anorexia and bulimia as a young woman and explores the need for self compassion to overcome her struggles with body image and eating disorders. We discuss body love and we both share our struggles with this concept. From this in-depth and moving discussion we focus on how coaching can be a really powerful tool to create change. This is an intense, moving and courageous discussion where Rebecca shares her wisdom and personal experiences with us and I believe that many people will benefit from this amazing podcast.  Rebecca reminds us that “you have to go through the heart of what is painful to find a deep and unshakable peace.”

    Contact Rebecca Hopkins: www.livebraveworkshops.com

    Hong Kong Confidential Details

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    Hong Kong Confidential
    enMarch 30, 2018
    grief
    brene brown
    coaching
    vulnerability
    shame
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