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Hello Goddesses and welcome to another episode of dating like a goddess. In this episode, we are gonna talk about the goddess protecting her kids. This episode is especially dedicated to all of you single mom goddesses, and it's been triggered because I always see a pattern going through in all of my groups. So I try to pick something for each episode about something that follows the collective pattern of what's going on with all of my girls.

This week there is something that has triggered me to pick this particular issue. 

One of the ladies in my group said: 

“One of the guys that I am dating asked to see me. I told him no. I couldn't see him because I was with my kids for the long weekend, and he said he wanted to meet my kid.”

She wanted to know what were the rules on this subject.( I'm a rules coach) 

So, what do the rules say about him meeting the kids? 

And this is the thing. Never mind what the rules say.

You're a mom, and you're going to you gotta take care of those kids and In today's climate, we, women, have to be extra careful because this week in the news, it came out that after Ashton Kutcher (and Mila Kunis) wrote a character letter to the court, to support their friend Danny Matterson, who has been convicted. For was it 2 counts of rape and This is a man that says that he wants to protect women and children, and this is what he goes on. You can't trust anyone for what they say. You had to trust them for what they do. And in this case, he has shown us who he is. And as a result of this, I have seen a lot of clips where he was younger, and he was doing all these seventies shows, which is how he knows this other guy. He was constantly acting as a predator. And this is something that all people that are/were child stars have in common.

They all have all these traumas from having worked in an industry where they basically didn't have a normal childhood, and they had access to sex, drugs, and alcohol from a very young age. And, obviously, because they were, like, good-looking kids and privileged, not only did they have access to it, but they felt entitled to have access to women (girls). And I could see there were a lot of clips of Ashton perving on fourteen-year-old girls saying, “Oh, we're just waiting for this one to be eighteen to be the age of consent”. “Oh, this fourteen-year-old, she was so hot”. 

So, basically, all of this stuff used to be okay on TV once upon a time, But now that he's done this, all of these clips are coming out, And, you know, the real self is being discovered. Right? 

So my point with this is because I don't watch all of the news, I don't have a vendetta against Ashton Kutcher, of my god. I can't say the name right on the podcast please forgive me. But these were his actions, and this is a man who says he wants to protect children. He says wants to protect women. And the actions don't do that. Only his words do that. So it's really bad. 

And, also, I have been seeing all these clips I heard that he opened this charity because of Demi Moore and stuff. And that Demi Moore is the one that should be the head of this charity or the face of this charity if anything, but for whatever reason, he took over, and she didn’t; maybe she's just too painful for her because she had issues as well. And the thing is that now they are saying, maybe that's why he ended up with Demi because he wanted to end up in her house with her kids.

Maybe he didn't even want Demi at all. Maybe all he wanted was access to her kids. 

That relationship was very unrulesly. He moved in 3 days after meeting her. From what I hear Demi Moore is quite a vulnerable woman. And, yeah, I don't know what happened there. 

If you told me this 2 weeks ago, I would have said, Nahhhhh 

But now, I believe everything.

Ashton Kutcha is one of the good guys. Portrayed as the good guy. 

Right? 

So with this, I wanna say to you, if you have got kids, do not ever allow the man that you are dating access to any of your kids. 

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This week I am joined by an amazing women's empowerment coach and former brand and PR  strategist Ellie Collister. 'The Modern Female Parent' is her new venture helping female parents and entrepreneurs balance their business aspirations with the realities of life as a modern woman. 

We talked all things business around being a parent and she has an incredible story to share about how to bounce back when life throws you the unexpected. This is the one for you if you are a solo parent who wants to build a life that works around your family, and how. to do it in massive style. Go and find more from Ellie at www.instagram.com/themodernfemaleparent and at www. genetrixstudios.com.

This is the first of a two-part deep dive around abusive relationships. I am joined by the incredible abuse recovery coach Karleigh Lynne and we go in hard on all things abusive relationships. In this first episode, we talk about what abuse looks like, how to spot it, and why it is so hard for mums to leave. This is a very difficult topic surrounded by a culture of silence and shame and it's high time we broke some of the silence.

This episode comes with a trigger warning that we are discussing domestic abuse, including non-consent and various forms of violence. I urge you to give yourself a lot of grace if you are or have been in this situation, but also that you do listen if you can. We talk about the very subtle signs which start so many abusive situations and I recommend this for people who think there may be somthing concerning going on for them, those who have lfet abuse, those still surviving and those who just want to know more about abusive dynamics.

I am so grateful for Karleigh's contributions on this, she is so knowledgeable and open. She also has a free confidence course over at her website (link below).

For more information please go and find Karleigh at:
Instagram.com/karleigh.lynne

Karleighlynne.com/youtube

Karleighlynne.com/worthy (worthy waitlist)

Karleighlynne.com/confidence (free confidence course)

Lots of strength and love xx

We have all been there, wondering whether someone is on the same page, projecting our desires onto a relationship and getting hurt when it's not what we wanted. In this solo episode, I talk about focussing on how someone behaves and not on how you feel about them. 

Taking a step back and some radical responsibility can save you a massive amount of heartache, time, and confusion as a dating mum...let's start dating healthier and happier by focussing on how someone is showing up, not on how we feel about them. 

Master Internal Love First School (M.I.L.F. School) is a podcast for single and dating mums who want to date more consciously and expansively around being a parent. Your host, Julia Kotziamani, is the only love, sex, and relationship coach who works exclusively with single mums. 

Welcome to M.I.L.F. School with Julia Kotziamani, a love, sex, and relationship coach who works exclusively with single mums. This is where we learn to Master Internal Love First!

This is the first episode in this podcast designed to help mums learn how to make time, get dating, find love, and most importantly, learn to love themselves. 

I'll be introducing myself and telling you a little bit about how I got to be a Love, Sex, and Relationship coach who works only with mums. I discuss some of the issues I've encountered being a mum, becoming single, my current relationship, and the ongoing journey. More importantly, I will be telling you all about M.I.LF. School and why it's just that platform we need to start changing the narrative around how we view single mums as a society, and how we as mums feel about ourselves. 

If you'd like to know more about me or my coaching you can find out more here:

www.juliakotziamani.com
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