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In the absence of knowing ourselves, we end up with lives that we don't always want and don't know how we got there. So how do we come to know ourselves?

Join me and my special guest, Portia Carney, for a down-to-earth, candid, fun conversation about discovering who you are, taking responsibility for creating your experiences, and the benefits of feminine energy. She has an MBA, is a manager for a major financial institution, and is a veteran who appears on the reoccuring segment, "Unapologetically Real." We also discuss the importance of #identity, how #childhood shapes experiences and relationships, relationships as a mirror of you, and the courage to be YOU, to be #REAL and to fuflill your #purpose!

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 Kimberly started taking piano lessons at a young age, always

enjoyed music, sang in choirs during junior high and high school, and performed in Performance Arts

Choir Competitions in Charlotte, NC. Kimberly participated in many piano recitals for 8 years and

college piano performances for 2 years. Kimberly finished college at Barton College of Wilson, NC with a

Bachelor of Science degree in Business Management in 2012, with a Minor in Music. Kimberly taught

piano lessons for almost 8 years and has successfully taught students from beginner to

advanced learners. Kimberly has been writing music lyrics since 2014-present and has written over 20

songs, with 8 of them fully recorded in studios. She now spends all of her time concentrating on

songwriting, with plans to start a band by the fall of 2022.

The first 7 songs include these song titles: “ Every Moment”, “It Was Insanity”, “Letting Go”, “Just Want

to Be Free”, “Christmas in Berne”, “Because I Did”, and the latest release of “Going to be Okay”, a

country-gospel song, co-written with Levi Coby. Kimberly writes multi-genre music, starting out mostly

as Americana music, especially faith-based songs, to bring inspiration for healing for many people. Her

music fans compliment her on “beautiful and meaningful lyrics”, and “writing from the heart”. Kimberly is

now crossing over into Country-Gospel music in 2022 and has more new music coming this fall. She has

enjoyed working with music producers from North Carolina, to Atlantic Coast Recording Studio of North

Myrtle Beach, SC, and 3 songs recorded with Hansford Collins studio of Marion, Virginia, with the latest

recordings with Mess to a Message Studio of Sparta, TN. 

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Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“I look back now at every obstacle being an opportunity for me to turn pain into power.” 2:57 

“I’m brave because I’ve overcome multiple challenges.” 4:22

“You are a warrior.  You were born to fight.” 5:31

“Be truthful, not neutral.” 7:44

“Sometimes you have to burn a bridge to find your true calling.” 12:03

“I believe that bravery is like a muscle and everyday you need to commit a random act of bravery.” 13:46

“It’s very easy in our careers and in our relationships to not have perspective.” - Ann @ 22:29

“Continue to practice being brave, continue to find out what you love, and continue to be patient.” 29:36

“It’s okay to be your own best friend and your own company.” 32:59

Guest Bio - From LA Rams Cheerleader to NFL Sideline Reporter, Soap Opera Star to Chief Investigative Reporter on Inside Edition—Lisa is a WARRIOR!!  She has won over 35 national journalism awards and honors for her work.  Lisa details the ups and downs—and how to navigate the minefields she encountered along the way-- in her new book Warrior:  My Path to Being Brave

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Divorce Hacker Intro

0:34 - Introducing Lisa Guerrero

3:26 - Talk to Us About Your Journey

5:49 - Four Keys to Being Brave 

7:52 - Expectation Vs. Reality Throughout Your Journey

9:55 - MB Family Law Commercial

11:00 - Advice for Young Women to Stay Strong Against Misogyny 

12:08 - The Application of Bravery in Divorce

17:23 - Being Vulnerable & Having A Support System

23:29 - Be Better Media Commerical

26:39 - What Advice Would You Give to Young, 8 Year Old Lisa?

29:57 - Advice to A Woman Who Feels Stuck in Her Relationship

31:31 - A Brave Step for the Woman Contemplating Divorce

33:54 - Thank You & Divorce Hacker Closing

For more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/

Links & Where to Find Lisa - 

Autographed copies of WARRIOR: MY PATH TO BEING BRAVE are available at www.LisaGuerrero.com   

Twitter (X) - @4lisaguerrero

IG & Threads - @4lisaguerrero

FB & LinkedIn - Lisa Guerrero

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“I think journaling is an incredibly healing thing that we can undertake.” 4:40

“Deal with things as they are, not as we’d like them to be.” -Ann @ 7:37

“Addiction is really just a disconnection with ourself.” 8:40

“People are doing the best they can with what they know, but it’s our responsibility to know more so you have to keep learning.” 10:34

“The financial part is scary no matter what.” 20:32

“Parenting them through the hard stuff is actually what makes parenting great.” 26:21

“Two houses, they can be different and it can be okay.” 37:49

“You don’t have to be so worried about controlling or losing power in these situations with your children.  They are going to go where the love is.” -Ann @ 40:42

“Don’t make it about yourself.” 42:10

“Let your kids be who they are.” 44:33

Guest Bio - Wendy Jones is the founder of Be Better Media and host of her

own podcast, What I Meant to Say.  As a mother of four, she is

passionate about generational healing--so that we can connect

with each other and create families and communities from a place

of strength. The stories told through her work at Be Better Media

encourage each of us to listen more and judge less on our path to

self-awareness. In her spare time, you will find her at the beach

playing volleyball and enjoying her yoga practice. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Welcome to Divorce Hacker 

0:33 - Introducing Wendy Jones

1:15 - What is Generational Healing?

2:48 - Tools to Implement During Divorce

8:32 - How Addiction Can Impact Generational Healing

13:25 - Support Systems & Therapy

18:03 - Single Motherhood with Four Children

19:02 - MB Family Law Commerical

26:29 - How Are Your Kids Now?

31:39 - People Pleasing Discussion

38:22 - The Art of Letting Go of Control 

44:42 - Social Media & Battling Outside Opinions

45:03 - Be Better Media Commercial

51:48 - Helping Your Kids Find & Connect to Their Passions

57:52 - Three Questions

59:40 - Thank You & Divorce Hacker Closing

For more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/

Links & Where to Find Wendy - 

www.bebettermedia.tv

www.bebetter.life

Facebook - Be Better Media & Wendy Jones

Linkedin - Wendy Jones

Twitter - @bebetterwwj   

IG & Tiktok - @bebettermedia.life

Youtube - @bebettermedia.life1

“It’s so much easier to blame the grownups than to be one.”  If this isn't the truth! Who came up with this whole adulting thing?? It's overrated. 

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When you find yourself a single parent, it can be a really exciting time to forge a new path for you and your family.  Lots of us find ourselves questioning our long-held beliefs about love, sex, and romance, and it can be a great time to make big changes. You may want to explore different types of relationship like polyamory or other forms of non-monogamy/multi-gamy...but how do you start? and will your kids be ok?

I talk to the relationship coach and expert in all things challenging mono-normative mindsets, Roy Graff, on some of the taboos and fears single mums face when they consider opening up to the non-exclusive.
-What is non-monogamy and how can it work?
-What can you expect when you first start challenging your previous value systems?
-How do go about "coming out" to friends, family and co-parents?
-Is it safe and healthy for kids to be around?

This was such a wonderful conversation to have, and I can't thank Roy enough for coming and sharing his wisdom. If you are in a non-monogamous dynamic, are thinking it might be something to explore, or even if you are just curious about how it might work around parenting, this one is for you.

Go and find Roy at www.openrelating.love or on Insta, Facebook, and Twitter @openrelating

1.  Reassure, Legitimize and Validate your childrens feelings

“No matter their ages, explain (to your children) why you’re dating and that no one will ever replace the other parent,” says Dr. Terri Orbuch, professor at Oakland University, author and family therapist. “Tell them they are your first priority and you’ll always be there for them, no matter who you’re dating.”  If kids are resistant or negative, don’t get defensive. Acknowledge feelings, and give extra hugs.

2. No revolving doors of men/women

In my 20's & 30's, I did not do such a great job of not introducing my oldest daughter to various men I was dating but I wished I had.  It is best to wait until you have established a long time relationship with someone new before introducing your kids to him/her.  

Surprisingly, younger kids are “more resilient,” says Dr. Orbuch. For stability and trust, don’t march a bunch of dates before your kids – and if you do, understand that tweens, teens and adolescents are likely to take break-ups harder than little ones.

3. Understand that every kid is different

All children are different when it comes to meeting someone new and considering a childs temperament and developmental age are very important when introducing them to someone new.  You should try and always us the concept of friends.

4. Keep it Fun & Neutral

First, second, even third meetings of a “significant other” and your respective kids should occur in neutral, fun locations – Water Parks, Chuck E. Cheese, parks, Putt-putt golf or movies, any place that doesn't add pressure.

5. Reassess having a romantic sleepover

Depending on the age of the children you may want to really think about having a romantic sleepover.

Especially with teens, while they hear what you say, they are more likely to do what you do, says Dr. Orbuch. Both agree that the significant-other-sleepover is a values call – and both hesitate to give the green light from a clinical perspective before there’s a ring on your finger.

“Adolescents are watching and they’re going to model you. Kids do what parents do,” Dr. Orbuch says. Reserve sleepovers for nights when the kids stay with the other parent.

6.  Discuss with your co-parent before introducing new "friend"

7. No step-discipline, please

“In our houses, parents take the main role; steps (don’t) execute punishments,” says Buscemi, the Rochester Hills author of I Do, Part Two: How to Survive Divorce, Co-Parent Your Kids and Blend Your Families Without Losing Your Mind.

8. Encourage the other parent relationship

“Whether the divorce was good or bad, whether there’s still feelings of resentment or bitterness, be kind to each other,” says Buscemi. “Don’t throw a new love in your ex’s face. Keep respect for your kid in mind.  Research shows that “it’s the exception that parents remarry,” says Dr. Orbuch. “The most difficult thing for kids to understand is they don’t have control over their parents’ relationship.”

9.  Remarriage is a good thing

It’s another adult in the house, another person to love your children, an example of a healthy loving relationship. “If you’re happy and balanced, you’re going to be a better role model,” says Dr. Orbuch.

Even when it comes to the wedding, let kids have a voice. Choosing desserts or clothing or the order in which they’ll walk down the aisle (by age!) allows kids to take ownership of this new marriage and feel like they have a place in it.

Creating Healthy Boundaries in Co-Parenting

What are boundaries?
A quick summary of the boundaries described by Therapist Aid:

• Intellectual: Having respect for one another's thoughts and ideas.
• Emotional: Having respect for one another's feelings.
• Sexual: Having respect for the limitations and desires between sexual partners.
• Material: Having respect for one another's material possessions.
• Time: Having respect for one another's use of time

How you determine your boundaries?
When you feel disrespected, offended, or just plain uncomfortable with the other person's actions, it may be because they have crossed a boundary for you.  No one can understand your boundaries unless you communicate them.  

• A detailed parenting plan 
• Keep your communications only on the children 
• Avoid posting issues on social media
• Don't put your children in the middle

Treat it like a business (boss).  It helps many co-parents to think of the endeavor, like a business relationship.
Other boundaries co-parents, like Michelle from Confessions of Parenting, find helpful for maintaining a successful co-parenting relationship include:

• Never discussing any co-parenting issues during pick-up and drop-off times.
• Let your co-parent know about school functions, extracurricular activities, and special events that involve your children.
• It is okay to have separate activities with your kids–different birthday parties or celebrations of holidays are fine and can help minimize potentially tense situations.

Do I have the right to know what my child is doing while they are visiting their other parent?  The reality is that your ex or co-parent isn’t required to tell you anything about what he or she and the children do unless the court order or visitation agreement specifically requires it.

Set Reasonable Co-Parenting Rules 
First, try communicating with your ex about your concerns. You can’t always believe everything your children tell you.  Send email/text (not in person, if things are too emotional)

Setting Boundaries with a High Conflict Co-Parent

Ending a relationship with a partner who is prone to conflict can be challenging on many levels. If you have children, one of the most significant difficulties will be figuring out how to build a working relationship as co-parents.  

Commit to the Parenting Plan
In a high conflict co-parenting situation, agreeing on a parenting plan will take a good deal of effort. 
Consider Parallel Parenting 
When your co-parent isn't willing to cooperate, and communication is difficult, parallel parenting may be an excellent approach to take. Parallel parenting is co-parenting but with added boundaries. One of these boundaries will be to disconnect from your co-parent on a certain level by not communicating directly with each other.  In parallel parenting, you may find that you implement a rather specific parenting plan.

Tools for Parallel Parenting Communication

Keep Your Personal Life Private 
You must set some emotional boundaries to protect yourself from getting hurt.  One way to keep your emotions in check when it comes to your co-parent is to keep your personal life to yourself. 
Watch Out For Pitfalls
As you do what you can to set boundaries between your co-parent and your personal life, you should also do the same when it comes to the other parent and their life.
Talk to Someone
Getting through a divorce or separation with a high conflict partner isn't something you can easily do on your own. 

Indian Pop Princess, Seysei, is changing the way we see women artists. Through her music she empowers women in all kinds of walks of life.

For the first time, Seysei opens up exclusively to us about some very personal things about her life as a sought-after artist who has many fans and how she balances that with being a powerful single mom who shows her son how to follow his calling by setting a great example for him.

And we also go behind-the-scenes on her new single Infinity!

In this episode we'll also be covering:

- What process does Seysei use for songwriting (9:00)

- How cowriting helps with songwriting (9:30)

- How do people perceive artists (11:30)

- There is a space in this world for your music (13:30)

- Challenges of being a single mom in the music industry (15:15)

- Being your own marketing team (19:00)

- Mastering your craft and being prepared (20:05)

- Being proud of your work (21:00)

- New projects in the works (22:00)

- Story behind Seysei's latest single Infinity (23:30)

- How to start a career from scratch (26:30)

- Start releasing your music as soon as you can (27:09)

- The special meaning of being onstage (28:40)

And many other fun & interesting topics!

Grab your pen and paper, and get ready to take some notes!

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Life as a single parent can be quite tedious. A single parent's duties are not any different, except that you're alone and on your own. Single parenting is so much more than one imagines it to be. You not only have to take care of yourself, but also of the other members of the family, on one person's income.

This week on The Empowering Series, host Zarina Poonawalla, Founder of Abbzoh Expertise Unique, Performance Coach and Motivational Speaker is joined by Neetu Ailsinghani, Vice President - Operations with an Investment Bank. Neetu, a happy single mother, shares her personal experiences of being a single mom, her equation with her 18-year daughter and the challenges she faced while raising her.

Neetu also shares some tips on how to spend more time with your children and some fun anecdotes about her daughter.

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