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Bob Harper is a reality TV legend (trust us, we remember being mesmerized by his hotness in primetime). The globally known fashionista, photographer, author and celebrity trainer starred first as a fitness coach on NBC’s The Biggest Loser and then as a host in the revival of the series. This, in turn, has thrust him to a special kind of stardom. His whole world nearly collapsed four years ago when, while in peak shape, he fell to a gym floor after suffering a heart attack. On this week’s episode of Why Here, Bob shares his near-death experience, explains the evolution of his queer identity and spills the tea on NY vs. LA gays. 

We don't use the term icon loosely. But if singer, actor, activist and author Mx. Justin Vivian Bond (Viv for short) aren’t deserving, then no one we know is. As an NYC entertainment mainstay, their stage performances, sultry vocals and searing humor have kept a generation of New Yorkers in check. On this episode of Why Here, they explain what it was like trying to make people pay attention to pronouns decades ago, share how they intend to "sleigh" Christmas this year and respond to the trans-phobia that persists in the media around us. At the end, Viv’s co-conspirator Herb joins the chat for a fact check. It's effing good ... and funny. Trust us. 

As a child in Afghanistan, Qais Munhazim says their queerness was something they were allowed to embrace. For many other queer and trans Afghans, Qais suggests it's a similar story. Still, the Taliban's recent return to power has left the fates of women, trans and queer people in question. On this week's episode, Qais helps us learn what everyday life holds for LGBTQ+ Afghans, how the world's perception of the country is often tainted and what it's like to move from a queer life in Afghanistan to one in America.  

When Dempsey Jara told her parents she was a girl and not a boy (which she was presumed to be at birth) a light went off in their heads. They could either get behind their young daughter or fight it. They chose the former, and what unfolded is a journey that has literally changed the narrative on how trans kids are perceived in the U.S. and the world (as proved by a lot of media coverage). On the Season 3 opener of Why Here, hosts Benton and Tristan chat with 10-year-old Dempsey and her mother Jaime about National Coming Out Day,  transitioning at a young age,  the anti-trans legislation sweeping the country, unicorns and — yes Benton — musicals.  

Actor, writer and director Colman Domingo has received a GLAAD Award, has starred in some of the most profound films in recent years (If Beale Street Could Talk, Lincoln, Selma, Birth of a Nation) and has played a role alongside Zendaya in HBO’s critically acclaimed Euphoria. On this week’s episode of Why Here, Colman joins us to talk about his passion for telling important stories, his take on kindness, his gardening obsession and he shares what #PRIDE means to him. In short, we’re hooked. You will be too. TRUST. 

It easy to have an extreme crush on Wilson Cruz. Not only is he smart, thoughtful and a shining example of queer pride, he is one of the Grand Marshalls of NYC Pride this year. They’re big shoes to fill, but he takes it all in stride, as he does his role as Dr. Hugh Culber on Paramount+’s Star Trek: Discovery. On this week’s episode of Why Here, Wilson shares his take on queer representation in outer space (and on American TV since the 90s) and he explains what it was like being a young Puerto Rican man exploring Latino culture in California. At the end, Star Trek co-star and former RENT co-star Anthony Rapp joins the chat for a “fact check.” It’s all funny and smart, but WARNING, there are tears too!  

In celebration of Pride month it’d be hard to find a campier, more brilliant light than THE Rufus Wainwright. The legendary queer performer and creator joins Why Here hosts Benton and Tristan to talk Pride, Lil Nas X’, Judy Garland (who he’s once again channeling for an upcoming show ) and he even sings a children’s song for us. 

Life as a quadruple threat is a challenge, but Kat Cunning takes it all in stride. The actor, dancer, vocalist and musician has already graced TV screens (on HBO's The Deuce), concert halls, Broadway stages and many of our playlists (and you may not even know it!). On this week's episode of Why Here, hosts Benton and Tristan go deep with Kat and learn that a three-year-old can actually know exactly what they want to be, how a father's love can mean letting his child leave home at 14 to follow a dream and why growing up knowing you aren't like everyone else can be a superpower. 

Eden Espinosa may have gotten her start singing nearly every Disney princess ballad for Disneyland park-goers, but that was just the beginning. She's now one of the best-known contemporary stage actresses in the world and has had lead roles in iconic shows including RENT and Wicked. On this week's episode of Why Here, hosts Benton and Tristan chat with Eden about her humble Orange County beginnings, her political and social activism, her Mexican American heritage and the admittedly comical recurring nightmares she has from playing a green witch. At the end, Tony award-winning actress and activist Karen Olivo joins the conversation to make sure Eden shared the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. 

Guests on Why Here often get asked what their secrets are. WELL, the tables have turned. On this week's episode, Tristan McAllister turns the mic on himself and lets co-host Benton Whitley embarrass him on the eve of his birthday. Tristan talks about growing up in Alaska, his big gay wedding (and divorce), a chance run-in with Clay Aiken that changed the course of his life and first kisses. In truth, the only way the two stay honest is the addition of contributor Claudine Ko, who sits to run interference and make fun of them whenever they start acting like two effing annoying, queer white dudes. 

Actor and writer Casey Thomas Brown (@shartyparty69) was a big part of our Instagram feeds all through quarantine. From Her Majesty The Queen to Fiona Apple and many more, his comical impressions of well-known people, and those he's conjured up, helped us find humor in a dark time. But he's so much more than an internet meme Queen. He's also a series regular on @Netflix's wildly funny The Kominsky Method and has appeared in various other films and TV shows, including Tell Me a Story, Shameless, Grey’s Anatomy, Law and Order SVU, and Criminal Minds. On this week's episode of Why Here, Casey joins hosts Benton Whitley and Tristan McAllister to talk about finding humor in the middle of a pandemic and if he thinks Queen Elizabeth might have actually watched him play her in that now-famous viral video. 

If you think coming out to your parents is tough, try telling them you have HIV. Even harder, try telling the world. For a decade 31-year-old Luke Ray Kelly kept his HIV diagnosis a secret, only sharing it with loved ones and sexual partners. Then he saw the hit HBOMax show It's A Sin and he realized that by keeping his secret he was complicit in creating the very shame that has stifled a critical and life-saving conversation about HIV and AIDS. On this week’s episode of Why Here, Luke joins hosts Benton Whitley and Tristan McAllister from London to talk about why he decided to go public with his status and #endthestigma. 

What were you doing at the tender age of eight? While most of us were busying ourselves with My Little Pony and Lego sets, Australian-born Jeremy Heimans was focused on things a bit headier. His childhood obsessions were nuclear non-proliferation and global poverty. He even tried to stop Desert Storm (with a fax machine). Nowadays he's a globally known activist and movement builder, whose work has literally touched all of your lives.  On this week's episode of Why Here, Jeremy sits down with hosts Benton Whitley and Tristan McAllister to discuss all of this and how his Lebanese and Jewish heritage has shaped the way he's taken on the biggest racial, social, economic and environmental issues of our time.

Robert Hartwell has our hearts. Truly. After conquering Broadway in his twenties, with leading roles in multiple shows, he turned his attention to arts education. Now, as the founder and CEO of The Broadway Collective, he works tirelessly to help aspiring performers find their voice (and their footing) on stage with workshops online and across the U.S. This week he sits down with Why Here hosts Tristan McAllister and Benton Whitley to talk about Black excellence, a home purchase that went viral and a "spam" email that led to him appearing in a music video with Jay-Z and Pharrell Williams. 

Can you imagine jumping out of an airplane with your nearly 80-year-old mother?  Sian-Pierre Regis can. It was actually his mother Rebecca Danigelis’ idea. She had a few more too, all of which went on the bucket list that Sian-Pierre asked her to make after she was fired from her job and forced out of the apartment she had lived in for nearly four decades. She was devastated. He saw a chance to give her all the things she always dreamed of. The two set out on a journey to discover the world and rediscover one another. He made it into a critically acclaimed film called Duty Free. The two join Tristan and Benton on this week’s episode of Why Here. 

Can you imagine getting up in front of thousands of people to talk about your conservative religious upbringing AND your sexual exploits? Joel Kim Booster can. His humor is unapologetic, honest and intriguing. On this week's episode of Why Here, the Korean-American comedian and writer shares how he tactfully navigates conversations about race and sexuality with humor ... and what his "first time" sounded like. It's a conversation that proves why James Corden, Conan O'Brien and Comedy Central have all invited him to perform, and why shows like Big Mouth put him in their writer's room. At the end, Matt Rogers, Joel's friend and host of Las Culturistas podcast as well as HBO Max's smash hit Haute Dog, joins in for a “fact check."

It's Thanksgiving, that weird holiday that definitely needs a major rewrite. This year's a bit of a wash, but maybe it's a chance to start a new tradition or a new story, especially if you're not sitting at the table where you thought you'd be. To help, Why Here's very own home chef, stuffing expert and food & lifestyle contributor Dan Pelosi joins hosts Benton Whitley and Tristan McAllister to talk turkey, tradition and gratitude. 

There are a lot of adoring fans who'd love to know what London hotel Charlie Carver has been holed up in for nearly four months, in quarantine for his role in the latest Batman feature. Well, that's a secret he won't share, much like any of the details around the role that he and his twin brother Max have in Gotham. But he does share so many other things with hosts Benton Whitley and Tristan McAllister on this week's episode of Why Here.  It's been a big year for Charlie, the openly gay actor and activist who is currently starring in The Boys In The Band and Ratched, on Netflix. They talk all of this, "twinship" and much more. 

While some might say Rosie O'Donnell has a jagged edge, we say her kindness, empathy and fucking incredible sense of humor mean she may very well be the exact sort of person who can help all of us to better see ourselves and our place in this world. On this week's episode of Why Here Rosie joins hosts Benton and Tristan to talk gayness, motherhood, politics, mental health and (yes Benton) Broadway. Oh, and her unlikely friendships with famous convicts! 

Growing up in the shadow of a Trump golf course, when you’re in-fact living in a low-income neighborhood, stokes a special brand of motivation. This is something that NYC city council member Ritchie Torres knows all too well. On this season’s first episode of Why Here he joins hosts Benton & Tristan to talk politics, his run for U.S. congress and his early crushes on WWE wrestlers. Torres is gay, which makes him the first ever openly LGBTQIA official to represent the Bronx. His highly likely win in November makes this Afro-Latino, Bronx-born political star on the rise a sure bet for the future of American politics.