vaginismus

It’s frustrating but true: sex isn’t a button that we can automatically turn on and off. In fact, “sex” is a catch-all term for arousal, body exploration, play, and erotic collaboration—not simply penetration. So what do you do when you want to get naughty, but your body isn’t on-board?  On today’s Ask Emily show, we’re taking a look at the body’s response to sex, and figuring out what to do when it shuts down. Say you’ve got a gag reflex around oral: does that mean no blowjobs? Nah - I’ve got a trick for that. How about vaginismus, when the vulva clenches so tightly at penetration, that sex is super painful? I’ve got advice! Finally, let’s talk about your partners: is it kosher to use old toys with a new lover? How do you broach the subject? And when you’re newly married, but the sex has serious problems, where do you turn? At the root of good sex is good communication, and on today’s episode, we challenge everyone to articulate their needs, and listen to their partners. Show Notes: Clean your toys with Uvee San Diego Sexual Medicine Dr. Sherry's She-ology Dilators System Jo Lubricants Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, Emily is joined by pelvic floor physical therapist Heather Jeffcoat, author of Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide To The Sex Life You Deserve to talk about the importance of pelvic floor health for everyone. They talk about painful sex issues for women and men, how to know if you have one, and what to do to get past it (hint: it’s actually not Kegels!). Plus, they discuss sex after having children, after menopause, and even help a caller whose girlfriend got some pelvic advice that wasn’t so correct. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Magic Wand, Adam & Eve, Promescent, Fleshlight Follow Emily on social: @sexwithemily Follow Heather on social: @TheLadyPartsPT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.