vulnerability hangover

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In the episode we cover: affirmations Vs gaslighting yourself, withholding joy as a form of self punishment, the Magic in self responsibility, healthy control, how to notice if you're holding shame, the Light in responsibility, practical tools for getting out of your head, realistic methods to reconnect to yourself, getting past your walls to connect to people, and more. I had so much fun answering these, I hope you got some value from this episode! 

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I always want to share with you the new things I have learned and this week I learned about a vulnerability hangover through first hand experience.  As always, I walk you through what this means, what it felt like, and things I did (good and not-so-good) to deal with it. 

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Hello So Deep Peeps!  

Welcome to That’s So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Vulnerability - Part 2: Why Do We Armor Up? How Can We Show Up Authentically and Find Communities Where We Belong? (based on work by Brene Brown).

 Some deep things we cover:

1. Fitting In vs. Belonging: When you fit in, you change yourself to enter the community.  When you belong, you show up as you are and are embraced by the community.
2. Vulnerability in Parenting vs. Authoritarian Parenting: Phyllis is experimenting with parenting by being a human next to her kids by being vulnerable with boundaries.
3. Phyllis wonders if the armor that she used as a child still serves her as an adult.
4. Masculine and Feminine Norms: According to Brene Brown, a shame trigger for masculine norms is weakness and for feminine norms it is imperfection.
5. How does perfection show up for Julie and Phyllis?
6. Phyllis discusses how insecurity causes her to armor up.
7. Julie discusses why she armors up when it comes to her partnership.
8. Self Talk: Do you engage in guilt talk or shame talk?  Which one is better?
9. A Mantra to Combat Imperfection: Brene Brown uses this one and Phyllis has adopted it too: “I don’t want to be right.  I wanna get it right.”
10. How do we create inclusive spaces so people can be a part of the conversation?

 Take-aways:

1. What Armor Can We Do Away With That No Longer Serves Us?  
2. Where Does Perfection Show Up in Our Lives?

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Resources and articles we referenced in the episode:

1. Vulnerable Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster
2. Taken for Granted: Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't (transcript) | TED
3. Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't - Taken for Granted | Podcast on Spotify

Hello So Deep Peeps!  

Welcome to That’s So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Vulnerability - Part 1: What it is and What it isn’t (based on work by Brene Brown)

 Some deep things we cover:

1. TW: Phyllis and Julie share some raw thoughts and feelings after the school shooting in Uvalde.  Please take care of yourselves and skip the first 8 minutes of the podcast if you need some space to process. 
2. There is No Courage Without Vulnerability: Brene Brown defines “vulnerability” as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.
3. Vulnerability in the Workplace: Being invulnerable at work can hamper connection with coworkers and yet being overly vulnerable can hijack productivity.  Vulnerability can be appropriate in a work setting with the right boundaries.  
4. Vulnerability Without Boundaries is Not Vulnerability.
5. The Messy House: Sometimes when we are overwhelmed we are a bit like a messy house.  We overshare because we don’t have a good grasp on our “stuff” so it can spill out onto people. 
6. The Mask: What is the mask we put on to protect ourselves instead of showing up as our authentic selves? 
7. You Don’t Need to Cry to be Vulnerable
8. The Color Spectrum of Authenticity: If we imagine ourselves as a color, showing up as our authentic selves can mean showing up in a different shade depending on the relationship and the moment.  

 Take-aways:

Vulnerability = Sharing with Boundaries + Intention of Connection
Remember that vulnerability is not emotional dumping or oversharing.  Before you share something personal figure out your intention.  Is what you’re about to share something that will help build a stronger connection with your friend?  And is this relationship an appropriate one to share at this level of depth?  

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Yours in Becoming, 

Phyllis & Julie

Resources and articles we referenced in the episode:

1. "Vulnerable"  - Merriam-Webster
2. Taken for Granted: Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't (transcript) | TED
3. Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't - Taken for Granted

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Researcher Brené Brown coined the term "vulnerability hangover" for those times when you feel like you shared too much. We’ve got a breathing exercise to ease that overshare aftershock.

LINKS

• 'Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability' | TED Talk.
• 'Have You Ever Experienced a “Vulnerability Hangover”?' Medium.com.
• Brene Brown on Instagram @brenebrown.
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CREDITS
Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88.
Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloy.
Executive Producer: Elise Cooper.
Editor: Adrian Walton.

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Every Sunday we revisit one of our favourite tips and tricks from the week. In this episode we refresh you with some handy hints to avoid feeling overwhelmed from baring all.

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Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88

Content: Amy Molloy @amy_molloy

Executive Producer: Elise Cooper

Editors: Elise Cooper, Hannah Bowman, Shetu Bimpong

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Have you ever experienced that sickening feeling in your stomach after you’ve poured your heart out over social media, to your friends or in your workplace? Dr Brené Brown has called this a vulnerability hangover. Yea, makes sense! Soothe that unpleasant sensation with a short and effective breathing technique.

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Credits

Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88

Content: Amy Molloy @amy_molloy

Executive Producer: Elise Cooper

Editors: Elise Cooper, Hannah Bowman, Shetu Bimpong

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