Podcast summary and Notes on " wonderhell"

From the White House to Wonderhell: Laura Gassner Otting's Journey of Resilient Leadership

Summary

Laura Gassner Otting, TEDx speaker and author of Wonderhell: Why Success Doesn’t Feel like it Should . . . and What to do About it, had an insightful conversation with Alice. Her career has spanned from a pivotal role in Bill Clinton's White House to achieving entrepreneurial heights. Laura and Alice discussed the concept of "Wonderhell," which most CEOs know well, it’s where the exhilaration of success is entwined with the challenges it brings and the feeling of wanting more.

This episode offers a unique opportunity to gain insights from Laura's diverse experiences, shedding light on the complex dynamics of ambition, success, and the resilience required to thrive in leadership roles.

Exploring "Wonderhell"

Laura's journey through the highs of achievement and the lows of pressure showcases the duality at the heart of success. "Wonderhell" is not just about reaching the peak; it's about thriving amidst the challenges and relishing the journey.

Laura shares, "I wrote Wonderhell because I found myself in it.” She reveals, “I was filled with imposter syndrome and anxiety and uncertainty and doubt and envy and exhaustion and burnout. And I was like, it's kind of horrible. Now, I'm stuck with the burden of my potential."

She knew she had to figure it out and the book is the result of that.

Key Insights from this episode:

Embracing Ambition: Laura encourages CEOs to see ambition as a catalyst, not a flaw. It's the fuel that drives us towards greater heights. She states, "Embrace your ambition... It's okay for me to want more, that's totally cool."
Success Beyond Finances: Success isn't just measured in dollars. Laura places immense value on personal relationships and internal fulfillment. She remarks, "I am proudest of the relationships that I built and deepened with my kids, my husband, and my friends."
Emotional Balance: Achieving success brings a spectrum of emotions. Laura's approach is about finding an equilibrium between excitement and the anxieties that come with leadership. She advises, "Get comfortable being uncomfortable... understand that this is not the now; it's actually the new normal."
Strategic Focus and Delegation: As a CEO, Laura highlights the importance of focusing on tasks unique to your skillset and delegating to others to enhance efficiency and satisfaction. Laura elaborates, "The highest and best use of your time is to do what only you can do."

Embracing the Journey

Laura Gassner Otting teaches us that success is more than a destination; it's a continuous process of growth, challenge, and self-discovery. Her journey from the White House to entrepreneurship exemplifies the nuanced nature of leadership and the importance of embracing every part of the journey.

Have you experienced your own version of "Wonderhell"? I’d love to hear from you. Join the discussion in the comments below.

Chapters

08:18 - Valuing Achievements Before Chasing Next Goals

11:47 - Shifting Leadership Mindset to Positivity

14:47 - Leveraging Intentional Focus for Opportunities

18:12 - Prioritizing Culture for Business Success

22:31 - Empowering Teams with Strategic Questions

23:57 - Scaling Insights from '10x is Easier Than 2x'

26:13 - Balancing CEO Ego with Effective Leadership

30:28 - Importance of CEO-Audience Engagement

34:07 - Embracing Ambition and Overcoming Doubts

38:06 - Focusing on Long-term Business Trajectory

42:57 - Balancing Business and Personal Life Priorities

About Guest

Laura’s secret superpower is seeing your greatness and reflecting it back on you, so that you can get “unstuck” — and achieve extraordinary results.

A frequent contributor to Good Morning America, the TODAY Show, Harvard Business Review, and Oprah Daily, Laura is the Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author of three books, Wonderhell, Limitless, and Mission-Driven. Laura’s 30-year resume is defined by her entrepreneurial edge.

She served as a Presidential Appointee in Bill Clinton’s White House, helping shape AmeriCorps; left a leadership role at respected national search firm to expand a tech start-up; and founded, ran, and sold her own global search firm, partnering with the full gamut of mission driven corporate and nonprofit executives.

Laura is turned on by the audacity of The Big Idea and that larger-than-life goal you just can’t seem to shake. She’s an instigator, motivator, and provocateur, and she’s never met a revolution she didn’t like. Just ask her enduringly patient husband, two almost-grown sons, and two troublesome pups with whom she lives outside of Boston, MA.

Social Links

You can learn more about and connect with Laura Gassner Otting in the links below.

Connect with Laura on LinkedIn:

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Check out Laura's website:

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You can learn more about and connect with Alice Heiman in the links below.

Laura's TED talk:

Laura Gassner Otting: Why doesn't success bring happiness? | TED Talk

Wonderhell and Limitless:

Books — Laura Gassner Otting

Connect with Alice on LinkedIn:

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Check out Alice’s website:

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enJanuary 09, 2024

Unleashing Your True Potential: Finding Confidence and Fulfillment with Laura Gassner Otting

Key Takeaways

Unshakable confidence is the key to success and happiness — no compromises!
Ready to find the right ladder? Why you should define your success, align with your calling, and connect your actions to your goals
Remember, personal growth means priorities change
Imposter syndrome is common. You're not alone.
Break the cycle of pretending to be confident. Open up and have real conversations.

In This Episode:

[04:24] Is it worth going to Wonderhell?
[06:32] Tactical steps to go from the wrong ladder to the right ladder
[07:09] Defining success and consonance
[09:41] Prioritizing personal definition of success
[11:02] New levels equal new devils
[11:22] Imposter syndrome and self-perception
[13:20] The looking-glass self-theory
[17:51] Following your passion vs investing in your passion
[18:39] Laura’s biggest flops or face-plants
[19:40] Laura’s story on the importance of being a grown-up business lady
[25:06] Managing burnout and realizing your importance
[31:20] How to build unshakable confidence

Notable Quotes

[05:16] “If what you're pursuing is somebody else's version of success, then the answer's no, it's not worth all of it. But if you're pursuing your own, then actually the stress of the uncertainty, the anxiety, and the envy and all those things are actually not crappy feelings, they're actually signs that we're on the right track because we're living in that discomfort that we know is the only path to growth.” – Laura
[13:00] “Every time we achieve something we haven't achieved before, we find ourselves in a room we've never been in before. And then we think we're impostors because we're like I didn't expect to be here, people are going to find out. But it turns out that everybody else in that room also didn't expect to be there either.” – Laura
[13:32] “We're not who we think we are, we're not who others think we are. We're who we think others think we are.” – Laura
[16:58] “In the end, I think we have to remind ourselves that, you know, we're so afraid not to be perfect, and we're so afraid to fail. But in every one of our moments of growth, it's come out of failure.” – Laura
[22:58] “If you want to get past impostor syndrome, the best way to do that is to teach somebody something that you've already done.” – Laura

Our Guest

Laura Gassner Otting is a Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author, keynote speaker, and Executive Coach. Laura’s debut book, Limitless reached #2 on The Washington Post Bestseller List. She is also the author of Wonderhell which was released in April 2023. With a 30-year entrepreneurial career, including serving in Bill Clinton's White House, Laura has a wealth of expertise. She has appeared on Good Morning America, TODAY Show, Harvard Business Review, and Oprah Daily. Recognized for her ability to see greatness in others, Laura is an instigator, motivator, and provocateur.

Resources and Links

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