106- New Year, Old Me (ft. Toxicity)

No matter how much we try to change or improve ourselves, we may still make mistakes and slip back into old habits. In this episode of Call Her Daddy, the host, Alex Cooper, shares her experience of regressing back into her toxic ways after a period of self-improvement. She admits to being addicted to toxicity and being repulsed by healthy things. The catalyst for this regression was a simple nightstand in a man's bed. The episode also features sponsors David's Bridal, NARS Cosmetics, and Pepsi Wild Cherry, with discount codes for listeners. The overall message is that it's okay to make mistakes, but it's important to recognize them and try to learn from them.

People's past relationships and exes can significantly impact current relationships, even if they were not emotionally invested at the beginning. The speaker in this story discovered her boyfriend's past through his personal belongings and was initially excited by the drama. However, as she grew closer to him, she became troubled by the thought of his ex-girlfriend and wondered if the items she had seen five months ago were still in his nightstand. This experience shows that people's pasts can shape the present, and it's essential to be honest and transparent about them in relationships. Additionally, it's important to remember that everyone has a past and that it's natural to be curious, but it's crucial to respect each other's privacy and trust in the relationship.

Even in a seemingly perfect relationship, there can be moments of hesitation and inner conflict. The speaker, Alex Cooper, shares her experience of being in a relationship with a man who showers her with love and affection, but she still finds herself contemplating infidelity. She justifies her actions by thinking of it as a way to make up for her past mistakes and as a form of manipulation in the relationship. The discussion also touches on the importance of addressing the root causes of hair thinning with Neutrophil's supplements and the effectiveness of Shopify in growing a business.

In relationships, people have different ways of handling discoveries that could potentially lead to conflict. While some may choose to confront their partner directly, others may choose to internalize and avoid confrontation. However, there's a third option, which is to save evidence for a later time when emotions run high and use it as ammunition. This tactic, while effective, can be unhealthy and manipulative, and may be considered gaslighting. It's important to remember that honesty and clear communication are key in maintaining healthy relationships. Additionally, if one intends to snoop, it's crucial to remember to provide a plausible explanation for doing so to avoid raising suspicion.

Sometimes, even when things seem perfect, people may feel the need to stir up conflict for excitement or to test the strength of their relationship. The speaker, in this case, Alex Cooper, found herself in such a situation during a romantic encounter with a man she met at a New Year's Eve party. Despite feeling happy and content, she felt the urge to challenge him by bringing up an issue she discovered in his bedroom. However, her actions led to a negative outcome, leaving her feeling uncomfortable and exposed. This experience served as a reminder to Alex that while conflict can sometimes add spice to a relationship, it's essential to consider the potential consequences and communicate effectively to avoid unnecessary hurt and misunderstandings.

Manipulation, even when used in a more authentic way, can be an effective tool in navigating awkward and embarrassing situations with romantic partners. The speaker in this discussion used tears and a pity party to make the man apologize for his reaction to her antics, ultimately turning the situation around and saving the relationship. However, it's important to note that manipulation can be harmful and should be used with caution. Additionally, being vulnerable and honest, even in embarrassing moments, can lead to deeper connections and understanding in relationships.

Communication and honesty are crucial in relationships. The speaker learned this the hard way when she accidentally revealed her ex-boyfriend's past infidelity to a new interest, leading to a dramatic and unnecessary confrontation. Despite feeling embarrassed and regretting her actions, she respected the man's response and decision to move on. The incident served as a reminder for the importance of being authentic and mindful of one's words and actions, especially in sensitive situations. Additionally, the speaker's move to Los Angeles with her partner, and the potential for new romantic opportunities, highlights the importance of starting fresh and embracing new experiences.

The speaker, Alex, has realized her desire for new experiences and excitement in her romantic life after witnessing her friend's new dating journey. She reflects on her own relationship dynamics and acknowledges the ebb and flow of desires, promising a return to the dating scene for herself. The speaker also addresses listeners with a warning and an invitation to the men of Los Angeles, hinting at her intentions for the year ahead. Additionally, she touches on the topic of silent sufferers and encourages them to express themselves. Overall, the speaker's monologue conveys her excitement for new experiences and her intent to embrace them in the upcoming year.

Relationships require trust and communication. The story shared highlights how following an ex on social media and attending a party without a significant other can erode trust and make a partner feel neglected and unwanted. The boyfriend's actions, such as refollowing his ex and attending a party with a large group of women, may not have been intended to be harmful, but they left the girlfriend feeling disrespected and sad. It's essential to have open conversations about plans and feelings to prevent misunderstandings and hurt. Ultimately, if a partner consistently makes you feel bad about yourself or neglects you, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship. Instead of wasting time watching others' lives on social media, focus on living your own life to the fullest.

Sending nudes or explicit content online can lead to disappointment, embarrassment, and potential harm. The person on the receiving end may not value the trust and intimacy built up in a relationship, and could use the content for their own pleasure or even share it with others. To avoid such situations, it's essential to establish trust and communicate openly with your partner before sharing intimate content. Additionally, consider the power dynamics of the situation – make the other person take the first step in sharing explicit content, as this can help ensure that both parties are on equal footing and that the relationship is built on mutual trust and respect.

Communication and setting expectations in relationships are key. The first story illustrates the importance of women taking the initiative and not being pressured into sending explicit content. The second story highlights the importance of both partners contributing to the relationship, financially and emotionally. It's important for women to express their feelings and needs to their partners, and for men to respect and reciprocate. The advice given is to plan a special date night for the partner, and if the gesture is not returned, to have an open and honest conversation about the importance of equal contribution in the relationship. It's not about societal standards or being spoiled, but about the meaning behind the gestures and the importance of feeling valued and appreciated in a relationship.

Effective communication is key in addressing sexual desires and boundaries in a relationship. The discussion highlights the importance of having a serious conversation during a calm moment, rather than during sexual encounters. The use of derogatory language can be a major turnoff and trigger for past traumas, making it essential to express feelings openly and respectfully. Additionally, it's important to recognize that partners may have different sexual preferences and fantasies, and finding a balance that satisfies both parties is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship. If the issue persists, it may be helpful to seek advice from a therapist or counselor to work through any underlying emotional or psychological challenges.

Communication is key in navigating sexual desires and relationships. If you're not getting what you want in the bedroom, have an open conversation with your partner. And if you're interested in someone but live close by, don't let that hold you back – initiate a COVID-safe interaction to see where things go. For those new to the dating scene, building friend groups and being confident in your approach can make all the difference. Remember, it's important to express your needs and desires honestly and respectfully, while also being open to compromise and understanding your partner's perspective.

During college, focusing on group hangouts can lead to successful social interactions and potential romantic connections. The speaker shares her experience of approaching a group of hockey guys through her outgoing friend, leading to a successful relationship. She emphasizes that one-on-one conversations don't typically happen at parties, but rather during group hangouts. It's essential to be open to socializing and not be afraid to leave a conversation if it's not going well. Rejection can be tough, but it's important to remember that it's not a reflection of personal worth. Sometimes people return to past relationships out of comfort or boredom. Ultimately, college is a time for exploration and learning, and not every interaction will lead to a long-term commitment.

People's desires and relationships can be complex and ever-changing, and it's important to be kind to oneself during these experiences. The speaker in this podcast episode acknowledges the contradictory feelings and behaviors that can come up in romantic relationships, especially during times of isolation like quarantine. She emphasizes that everyone makes mistakes and experiences feelings of regret or longing, but ultimately, these moments don't define who we are. The speaker also encourages listeners to forgive themselves for past mistakes and look forward to new experiences with excitement and positivity. Additionally, she promotes the idea that everyone deserves to find a perfectly fitting relationship, just like how David's Bridal offers perfectly fitting gowns. The episode is presented by David's Bridal, emphasizing the importance of finding a good fit in all areas of life.