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    118. How to make the most of your 20s pt.1

    enAugust 22, 2023
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    • Navigating the Twenties: Creating a Blueprint for Success and BalanceEmbrace the uncertainties of your twenties, make decisions with excitement not fear, find balance between future goals and present satisfaction, and remember every choice shapes your journey.

      Our twenties are a time of significant life changes and transitions. It is important to create a blueprint or guide for our careers, finances, relationships, personal growth, and overall wellbeing during this decade. While it may feel overwhelming to make the "right" decisions, it's crucial to remember that there is no need to rush or feel behind. It's okay to have worries and confusion, but approaching them with excitement rather than fear can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life. We must strive for a holistic perspective and find a balance between setting ourselves up for future success and enjoying the freedom of this time. It's essential to make choices that feel right and satisfying in the present, while also considering the potential regrets we may have in the future. Ultimately, every decision we make opens new doors and shapes our journey.

    • Navigating Choices and Embracing Mistakes in Our TwentiesLetting go of societal expectations and embracing the uncertainties of life in our twenties can open doors to fulfilling and unexpected journeys.

      Our twenties are filled with choices and opportunities, but they can also be overwhelming. We often feel pressured to make the "right" choices for our future, leading to anxiety and fear of making mistakes. However, the paradox of choice suggests that having too many options can actually paralyze us and reduce our satisfaction with our decisions. It's important to acknowledge that our twenties may not always be glamorous or follow a linear path. We need to let go of preconceived notions of what our lives should look like and allow ourselves to change and make mistakes. Embracing the unpredictability of life can lead to unexpected and fulfilling journeys.

    • Embracing Change and Empowering Our JourneyBy recognizing our power to shape our own lives, focusing on our own happiness and fulfillment, and making deliberate choices, we can create our dream life and pursue a truly fulfilling decade in our twenties.

      We have the power to accept change and make life-altering decisions at any age. We are not passive actors in our own lives, but rather the main characters. It is important to remember that our definition of happiness and success may differ from others, and comparing ourselves to them only leads to dissatisfaction. Instead, we should direct our energy towards what makes us happy and fulfilled, both in the present and future. To create our dream life in our twenties, we need to determine what kind of decade we want, regularly test our ideas, and ask ourselves what truly brings us happiness and fulfillment. Changes in these factors should enable our pursuit of a fulfilling life.

    • Embracing the Seasons of Our Twenties.Rather than following a rigid checklist, our twenties should be viewed as chapters, allowing us to prioritize different aspects and experiences while focusing on the feelings and experiences we want to achieve.

      Our twenties should be seen as a series of seasons rather than a restrictive checklist. Rather than feeling like we have to do everything at once or follow a linear path, we should embrace the idea that we can do everything, just not all at the same time. By viewing our twenties as chapters, we can focus on different aspects and experiences during each season, whether it's figuring things out in university, pursuing our passions, traveling, or focusing on professional development. Instead of creating a rigid timeline, we should visualize what our future could look like and focus on the feelings and experiences we want to achieve. By using visualization as a motivating tool, we can create a flexible path towards our dreams and prioritize the feelings we wish to experience, rather than just checking off milestones.

    • Embracing Risks and New Experiences in Our TwentiesTaking risks and trying new things in our twenties can lead to personal growth, fulfillment, and a more vibrant life.

      In our twenties, we should focus on trying new things and taking risks, even if they feel scary. Waiting for the perfect plan or imagining our future without taking action can lead to regret and a sense of stagnation. Our twenties are a time for collecting experiences and stories that will shape our future. It is during this phase that we are most receptive to new experiences and interests, so we should expose ourselves to novelty and challenge our thinking. Letting life surprise us and pursuing new paths can lead to unexpected fulfillment and happiness. Moving to a new city and pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones can be a catalyst for self-growth and self-awareness. Taking risks and embracing change in our twenties can lead to a more fulfilling and vibrant life.

    • Embrace Risks and Live with No Regrets in Your TwentiesIn our twenties, we have the opportunity to take risks and make mistakes without major consequences. Push past fear, take bounded risks, and pursue passions to enhance our lives and avoid staying in unsatisfying situations.

      We often choose comfort and convenience over challenging ourselves to make our lives better. However, in our twenties, we have the opportunity to make mistakes and take risks without ruining our lives. Everything is temporary, and most decisions can be reversed, except for the ones we never make. It is important to push past our fears and live with the potential "what if" rather than live with the long-term emotional pain of regret. Additionally, there is a distinction between bounded and unbounded risks, where bounded risks have limited downsides but unlimited upsides. Taking bounded risks, such as starting a podcast or pursuing a passion, can enhance our lives without jeopardizing our security. Ultimately, our twenties are the time to take risks and avoid staying in jobs or situations we hate out of obligation.

    • Creating a Life of Joy and FulfillmentDon't settle for an unhappy job; explore new opportunities, develop unique skills, and set achievable goals to create a beautiful future that prioritizes wellbeing and happiness.

      When it comes to creating our dream life, we shouldn't settle for a job that leaves us unhappy, overworked, and unfulfilled. Our time is precious, and dedicating a significant portion of it to a job we don't love is not worth sacrificing our wellbeing and happiness. Instead, we should explore new opportunities and try different things to discover a career that brings us joy and fulfillment. Developing a unique skill can provide security and open doors to new dimensions in our lives beyond our careers. Additionally, setting achievable goals in different areas of our lives, such as professional, personal, financial, health, and soulful, can help us create a foundation for a beautiful future while considering practicalities like the need for money.

    • Embracing authenticity and finding balance in adulthood.Prioritize activities that bring you joy and nourish your soul, embrace patience in achieving goals, and have open conversations about finances in your twenties.

      Setting goals that feed our mental, psychological, and emotional well-being is important, even if they may not seem significant to others. It's essential for us to stay true to ourselves and maintain a sense of wonder and authenticity in adulthood. By focusing on activities or hobbies that bring us joy and elevate the small pleasures in life, we can find balance between fun and responsibility. It's crucial to prioritize experiences that nourish our souls, whether it's pursuing a sport, taking a yoga course, making art for ourselves, or going on trips that excite us. While goals may change and take time to achieve, it's important to resist the pressure of rushing and instead recognize that good things require patience and consistent action. In our twenties, we should embrace this moment and enjoy the journey towards our long-term vision, focusing on sustainable steps while also giving ourselves freedom and flexibility. Additionally, discussing finances in our twenties is valuable, even though it may feel awkward due to the diverse financial positions among friends and colleagues.

    • Redefining Money: Prioritizing Experiences over Material PossessionsShift your mindset towards viewing money as a resource rather than a source of joy or self-worth. Prioritize experiences that nurture the soul and contribute to personal growth over material possessions in your twenties.

      Our relationship with money is often influenced by societal taboos, personal experiences, and childhood perspectives. There is a need to redefine money as a resource and tool rather than a source of joy or self-worth. It is crucial to decenter money from our lives and prioritize experiences over material possessions in our twenties. While financial responsibility and literacy are important, it is equally important to enjoy the freedom and opportunities that come with this period of life. Memories and experiences have long-lasting value compared to material items, and they contribute to personal growth and a richer perspective on life. Therefore, it is worth prioritizing experiences that nurture the soul and allow for personal growth over material possessions.

    • Finding Joy in Your Twenties: Prioritizing Experiences and Financial ResponsibilityFocus on enriching your life through experiences and saving money, rather than relying on material possessions for happiness. Take control of your finances and avoid comparing yourself to others to achieve your desired goals.

      Finding joy in your twenties does not require trendy or designer items. These things may provide temporary happiness, but they often result in clutter and buyer's remorse. Instead, focus on building a rich and fulfilling life through experiences with friends and saving money for the future. It's important to have a dedicated portion of your earnings for fun, but also prioritize saving at least 20% and investing wisely. Avoid falling into the trap of social comparison and spending money to impress others. Remember that money is a tool and not the most important aspect of your identity. Take control of your finances by examining your spending habits and making informed decisions. Ignorance may provide momentary bliss, but it limits your ability to achieve your desired goals.

    • Finding financial balance and happiness in your twentiesPrioritize your spending and align your choices with your vision of happiness, considering where money fits into the picture. This will provide a safety net while still allowing you to enjoy the things you love and navigate the uncertainties of the future.

      Being knowledgeable about your relationship with money and prioritizing your spending can provide a safety net while still allowing you to enjoy the things you love. Money should not be the sole focus or reason for pursuing a certain career or making decisions in your twenties. It's important to choose your hard, whether that means being broke and struggling with money in order to prioritize travel, education, or following your passion, or working a job you may not love to afford a house. Ultimately, it's about aligning your choices with your vision of happiness, considering where money fits into that picture. This reaffirmation can help in navigating the uncertainties and complexities of the future.

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