26. Body Acceptance, Better Sex & Loving Yourself Through the Holidays

This week we’re focusing on self-pleasure--all the benefits it provides, how to do it better, some myth-busting and how to incorporate it into your life.

We get into:

- Some of the (many) ways self-pleasure can make you healthier, happier and more in touch with yourself and your sexuality

- Common barriers to solo pleasure and how to get over them

- One of the BIGGEST reasons many people (especially people socialized as women) feel funny/guilty/shameful about self-pleasure

- How solo play can be a liberating and healing practice

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast

Ep. 32: 2 Simple Tips for Enjoying Sex More

Research shows that self-pleasure improves sexual function and satisfaction in women

Ep 12: Your Productivity is Not Your Worth

This week on the podcast, I’m talking with somatic pleasure coach and intimacy educator, Irene Morning about her excellent new book The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy.

This book is a great resource for anyone curious about consensual non-monogamy, navigating the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy or simply looking to grow greater intimacy within their existing relationship(s).

We get into some great topics, including:

- Polyamory as an expansive and healing practice

- How to make navigating from monogamy to non-monogamy easier

- Healing wounds from past trauma that surface in your relationship

- Learning to claim what you want with your partner(s)

- Navigating jealousy

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The Polyamory Paradox

Irene on Instagram

Irene’s website

Receive a complimentary digital copy of The Polyamory Paradox

I promised you a follow to Episode 31 (If You Struggle to Enjoy Sex, You Are Not Broken)—and here it is!

This week I’m sharing two simple and actionable ways to feel more pleasure in your body and enjoy sex more.

One is brain-based. Because Hello, the brain is one of your most important sexual organs!

The other begins with your body. And you can start either one today—no sex toys, furry handcuffs or lingerie required to start feeling more sexually satisfied.

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Emily Nagoski

Ann Nguyen

Jo Portia Mayari

Shrimpteeth

Tyomi Morgan

Portia Brown

Alpha Channeling

The Center for Sex Positive Culture (Seattle)

Bloom Community app

One thing I hear pretty often from people who were socialized as women is some version of:

I don't want to have sex as much as my partner…

I don't actually care about sex that much…

I don't feel that turned on

What's wrong with me???

I want to clear this up once and for all: Nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken.

And in this week's episode we get into some of the reasons you might be feeling like something's wrong with you and why that is 100% not the case.

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

Dr. Laurie Mintz on Instagram

“Why Many Women Enjoy Sex Less Than Men”, a review of the scholarly paper by Conley & Klein

“Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Differences in Sexuality”, research paper by Conley & Klein

On this episode I got to sit down with my friend Allison McManis and talk about what self-compassion is and why it's so important for thriving in relationships and life.

Allison is a coach who works with habitual over-extenders. (Perfectionists, people-pleasers, and overachievers, I'm looking at you! If you fall into this category, today's episode is going to be extra helpful for you.)

Self-compassion and radical self-acceptance, which are huge themes here on the podcast, are a big part of Allison's work, so I was thrilled to have this conversation with her!

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast

Ann Nguyen (women’s empowerment coach)

Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen and Roger Fisher

Allison on Instagram

Allison’s website

Self-trust is absolutely foundational to dating successfully and growing healthy, fulfilling relationships. It's your bedrock for dating, relating and just generally thriving in the world. 

This week we're getting into why self-trust is so important for creating the kind of love you're looking for. How it helps you pass on people, relationships and situations that are not in alignment with you. And call in one's that are. 

We talk about how it helps you prioritize your own needs in relationships instead of abandoning yourself. And I share some simple techniques you can use to grow your own self-trust.

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Non-linear movement with Michaela Boehm

The Wild Woman's Way: Reconnect to Your Body's Wisdom by Michaela Boehm

The Michaela Boehm Podcast

If you set any New Year’s intentions or resolutions around dating and relationships, this week’s episode will help set the foundation for making your intentions reality.

In this episode, I’m sharing one piece of knowledge that’s not talked about nearly enough, but incredibly helpful for creating healthy, fulfilling relationships. It’s been a game-changer for me personally and I have seen it create incredible change for my clients.

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It was my birthday last week! It’s been my tradition for the past 5 birthdays or so to post a picture of myself and my age over on instagram to normalize women getting older and talking about our age. This year I decided to bring the conversation over here to the podcast!

We’re getting into:

- How to get over aging anxiety

- How to own your age without shame

- The big secret no one tells you about getting older (Don’t worry—it’s a good secret!)

- How to kick patriarchy to the curb and create your own narrative in your 30s, 40’s and beyond

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To push back against the toxic messaging we receive around appearance and weight at this time of year, we're diving into:

- What that hyper focusing on your appearance does to your physical and mental health

- How it robs you of pleasure (including sexual pleasure)

- What happens when you start making peace with your body

And I'm sharing some tools for moving towards body acceptance and body love as you navigate the holidays and beyond.

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Ep 1: Body Image Resilience with Lexie Kite of Beauty Redefined

Ep 3: Body Neutrality & Reclaiming Fitness with Bethany C. Meyers

Ep 5: My Body Love Journey: How I Moved from Shame to Gratitude & Celebration

Ep 6: Body Acceptance, Food Freedom & Anti-Blackness in the Wellness Space with Natasha Ngindi

Ep 13: You Are More Than A Body with Dr. Lindsay Kite

Ep 16: Ditching Diet Culture with Caroline Dooner

Ep 25: How to Get Your Sexy Back

More Than a Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite

@beauty_redefined on Instagram

NEDA helpline

The Body Is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

This week we’re talking about how to get your sexy back!

I’ve received a lot of questions on this one topic, so I decided it needed to be its own episode.

In this episode, I’m sharing some thoughts, advice, research and a practice to help you reconnect with your sexual self, if she’s been missing lately.

I get into:

- Four simple things you can do to get your brain interested in sex again

- Some ways to get into your body, connect to your turn-on and start feeling like your sexy self again (including one of my favorite embodiment practices!)

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Thank you and XO!❤️

Olaiya

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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Come As You Are podcast

Emily Nagoski’s website

Phallophile Reviews (sex toy reviews)

SheBop classes and events

Ann Nguyen website and classes

Afrosexology