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    #5: SPENDING GUILT: 3 Tips to Overcome Guilty Spending

    enNovember 03, 2021

    Podcast Summary

    • Mindful spending and intentional shoppingFocusing on high-quality, neutral pieces can lead to a more fulfilling and less guilt-ridden shopping experience

      Mindful spending and intentional shopping can lead to reducing feelings of spending guilt. In this episode of the Money with Katie Podcast, Katie shares her experience of shopping for a capsule wardrobe, which led her to reflect on her past shopping habits. Previously, she shopped for entertainment and looked for deals, leading to clutter and unnecessary purchases. But this time, she focused on buying high-quality, neutral pieces made of real fabrics, without looking at price tags. This shift in mindset allowed her to feel good about her purchases and reduce the anxiety associated with clutter. It's a reminder that being intentional with our spending can lead to a more fulfilling and less guilt-ridden relationship with shopping.

    • Emotions and feelings towards money don't align with realityEmotions towards money can be irrational and not reflect current financial situation, leading to guilt and extreme financial responsibility, impacting quality of life negatively.

      Emotions and feelings towards money don't always align with reality. The speaker shares an experience of feeling guilty about spending $900 on purchases, despite the good deal and having more money than before. This guilt stemmed from internalized beliefs about spending being inherently irresponsible, despite the objective financial situation. This illustrates how emotions and feelings towards money can be irrational and not reflect the current reality. The speaker also highlights how financial responsibility can become an extreme, leading to a worse quality of life. It's essential to recognize and challenge irrational emotions towards money and strive for a balanced approach to spending and saving.

    • Recognizing and addressing money storiesUnderstanding and addressing childhood experiences and internal beliefs that influence our relationship with money can help us spend intentionally and joyfully, fostering a healthy financial lifestyle.

      While learning how to save money is important, it's equally essential to learn how to spend it in a joyful and intentional way. However, some people, like the speaker, may have a hard time spending due to internalized beliefs that spending money is wrong. This can lead to an unhealthy relationship with money, where wealth feels like it's owning the person rather than the other way around. The speaker's spending guilt stemmed from childhood experiences, where her mother's decision to stay home with her led to a shift in family finances and instilled a value of frugality. It's crucial to recognize and address these money stories to maintain a healthy relationship with money and spend in a way that brings joy and enriches our lives.

    • Childhood experiences shape adult attitudes towards moneyOur upbringing influences our relationship with spending as adults. Reframing spending as an investment can help us justify intentional purchases and reduce guilt.

      Our childhood experiences and the financial habits we observe in our families can significantly influence our attitudes towards money and spending as adults. The speaker shared a personal story about how her parents' frugal lifestyle and savings habits instilled in her a strong aversion to spending. However, she is now trying to reframe her perspective on spending by viewing it as an investment in herself or other things that bring value to her life. This approach helps her justify intentional spending decisions and makes the act of spending less guilt-inducing. This insight can be useful for anyone looking to challenge limiting money beliefs and develop a healthier relationship with spending.

    • Learn to spend wisely now for future happinessSpend wisely using tools, don't hoard, avoid sacrificing enjoyment for too long, learn from parents' mistakes

      It's essential to learn how to spend money wisely and comfortably now, as you're training your brain for the future. While it's crucial to save and invest for retirement, being too strict with spending can create a challenging habit to break. The speaker emphasizes the importance of using tools like the Copilot app to manage spending and learn healthy financial habits. Remember, money is a currency meant for spending, and not hoarding it too tightly can help ensure financial independence and happiness in the future. The speaker shares a personal example of her parents, who saved diligently for retirement but now struggle to spend their nest egg due to decades of frugality. By learning to spend wisely now, you'll be better prepared for the future and avoid sacrificing enjoyment for too long.

    • Find a balance between saving and spendingDon't miss out on present joys by excessively saving for an uncertain future, strive for a healthy balance.

      While saving for retirement is important, it's equally crucial to know how to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Many people, even in retirement, continue to save excessively, missing out on opportunities to spend on things that bring them joy. It's essential to remember that life is precious and unpredictable. We're not guaranteed tomorrow, so it's important to find a balance between saving and spending. Don't sacrifice your present for an uncertain future. Instead, make sure you're living a fulfilling life today while also planning for the future. Additionally, envisioning your eventual demise might seem morbid, but it can help remind us to make the most of our time and resources today. So, strive for a healthy balance between saving and spending, and don't miss out on experiences and joys in the present because you're too focused on the future.

    • Strike a balance between saving and spendingConsider a flexible budgeting approach to balance saving and spending for overall happiness and financial independence

      While saving and investing are important aspects of financial independence, it's equally important to enjoy the present. Sometimes, focusing too much on saving can lead to missing out on experiences and pleasures that add to our overall happiness and well-being. The speaker suggests considering a more flexible budgeting approach, such as rounding up your spending allowance to a reasonable amount that still allows for some discretionary spending. This way, you can ensure you're not denying yourself small joys while working towards your long-term financial goals. Remember, financial independence is not just about the numbers, but also about the freedom and happiness it brings. So, strike a balance between saving and spending, and don't lose sight of the forest for the trees.

    • Balance saving and enjoying lifeConsider spending an investment in happiness, recognize importance of spending, live in the present, and give yourself wiggle room to enjoy life without significantly impacting long-term goals.

      It's essential to find a balance between saving and enjoying life. It might be worth taking a little longer to reach financial goals if it means living a more enjoyable life in the present. Here are some practical tips to help achieve this: 1. Reframe your perspective on spending: Instead of viewing it as a drain on your finances, consider it an investment in your happiness and well-being. 2. Recognize the importance of spending: Oversaving can be detrimental, as it may limit your ability to enjoy your hard-earned money. 3. Live in the present: Remember that you may not be around forever, so it's essential to allocate some of your income to experiences and enjoyment in the present. 4. Give yourself some wiggle room: Adding a small amount to your monthly budget can make a significant difference in your overall quality of life without significantly impacting your long-term financial goals. By keeping these tips in mind, you can strike a balance between saving for the future and enjoying the present. Remember, life is not just about the destination, but also about the journey. So go out and treat yourself to something nice today!

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