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    92. “I make $33,000/month. He makes $3,500. When is he going to step it up?” (Part 2)

    enApril 25, 2023

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    • Communicating About Finances in RelationshipsEffective communication about finances is essential in relationships to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings. Understand financial differences and have open conversations to make informed decisions together.

      Effective communication about finances is crucial in relationships. The speaker shared his experience of hosting events where many attendees had unanswered financial questions that could have been addressed through his book, "I Will Teach You TO Be Rich." He emphasized the importance of understanding financial differences and having open conversations to avoid potential conflicts. The discussion also featured a couple, Nicole and Jordan, who had financial disparities and disagreements that escalated into a serious argument. The speaker encouraged them to communicate honestly and consider their long-term goals to make informed decisions for their future together. Overall, the importance of open and honest communication about finances cannot be overstated in maintaining healthy relationships.

    • Misunderstanding about financial equality causes stressEffective communication and recognizing personal financial stressors are key to building a strong financial partnership

      Open and honest communication about financial goals and values is crucial in a relationship. The discussion revealed that there was a misunderstanding between the couple regarding financial equality, leading to stress and tension. It's essential to acknowledge that there are various ways to contribute to a relationship beyond just financial contributions. Effective communication can help prevent assumptions and misunderstandings, leading to a healthier and more sustainable financial partnership. Additionally, recognizing and addressing personal financial stressors is essential for building a strong foundation in a relationship.

    • Handling Money and Stress in RelationshipsEffective communication and a positive attitude towards money are essential for reducing stress and fostering healthy relationships. Utilizing helpful resources like Viator can save time and streamline travel planning.

      Money and stress are common experiences, but the way individuals handle these emotions can greatly impact their relationships. The conversation between the speaker and Jordan illustrates the importance of sensitivity and open communication when discussing financial matters. The speaker regrets the interrogative tone of their conversation and wishes they had asked Jordan about his feelings instead. Additionally, the speaker shares their positive experiences with Viator, a platform for booking travel experiences. They emphasize the convenience, flexibility, and support offered by the app, which saves them time and hassle. Reflecting on their past experiences with money, the speaker acknowledges that their $30,000 credit card debt was not a positive relationship with money. They emphasize the importance of being able to do the things that bring joy and meaning to one's life as a key aspect of a positive relationship with money. In summary, effective communication and a positive attitude towards money are essential for reducing stress and fostering healthy relationships. Utilizing helpful resources like Viator can also streamline travel planning and save time.

    • Growing up with different financial mindsetsUnderstanding various backgrounds shapes attitudes towards money and financial habits. Recognize and communicate effectively to foster a healthy approach to managing personal finances.

      While some people grow up with a focus on saving, investing, and planning for the future, others may experience stress and tension surrounding money. Nicole shares that her upbringing involved careful planning and goal-setting for education, while Jordan recalls a more relaxed approach to family finances. These different perspectives can shape individuals' attitudes towards money and their financial habits. It's essential to recognize and understand these differences to foster effective communication and create a healthy approach to managing personal finances.

    • Our upbringing shapes our financial mindsetUnderstanding the influence of upbringing on money habits and addressing small differences can improve relationships and overall well-being

      Our upbringing significantly influences how we view and handle money. Nicole, who grew up with open discussions about money, approaches it differently than Jordan, who did not. This can create challenges when blending two different financial mindsets. Additionally, small differences in lifestyle preferences, like temperature, can lead to larger issues if not addressed. For instance, Jordan and Nicole's sleeping habits may seem insignificant, but investing in a solution like the 8 Sleep pod cover can lead to better overall sleep quality. Similarly, the care and attention put into creating high-quality products, like Peak Tea, can bring a sense of luxury and mindfulness into everyday life. By recognizing and valuing the impact of our upbringing and prioritizing small improvements, we can enhance our relationships and overall well-being.

    • Assumptions about income can hinder financial progressSetting realistic and achievable financial goals, while maintaining a savings account for unexpected expenses, can help individuals move forward despite income uncertainty.

      Making assumptions about money and income can prevent individuals from moving forward in their lives. The uncertainty and variability of income can make it difficult to determine exact numbers, but setting conservative and realistic financial goals can help. For example, a couple discussed the need for both partners to make a combined income of at least $500,000 per year to achieve their desired lifestyle, but the uncertainty of one partner's income made it difficult to determine an exact number. It was suggested that they pick a number they are confident in and start working towards it, while also maintaining a savings account for unexpected expenses. It was also emphasized that clear communication about financial expectations and goals is important in a relationship. Additionally, it was noted that current income levels should be considered when setting financial goals, and that individuals should aim for realistic and achievable income increases.

    • Assessing Business Honestly for GrowthHonestly evaluate business, consider new solutions, and weigh long-term costs of business expenses.

      It's important to be honest with yourself about the current state of your business and whether it's capable of reaching your goals. If it's not, it may be necessary to find a new approach or even pivot to something new. This can be a tough realization, but it's essential for growth and success. The conversation between Jordan and the speaker illustrates this point, as Jordan has been trying to make his business work for several years without success. The speaker encourages him to be decisive and consider new solutions, such as automation or a customized business system like NetSuite. Another important consideration is the cost of certain business services, like financial advice. While a percentage-based fee may seem small, it can compound over time and significantly impact your profits. A better option may be a flat fee, which can provide more predictability and cost savings in the long run. Overall, the key takeaway is to assess your business honestly, be open to new solutions, and consider the long-term costs of various business expenses.

    • Effective financial planning reduces stress and improves lifestylesFacet Wealth offers affordable, accessible financial planning services with a special offer for new annual members, emphasizing the importance of proactive financial conversations in relationships.

      Effective financial planning is essential for reducing stress and achieving desired lifestyles. Facet Wealth, a financial planning service, offers affordable and accessible services through a flat fee membership. They're currently offering an exclusive deal for new annual members, waiving the $250 enrollment fee and giving $500 into the account when investing $5,000 within the first 90 days. The discussion also emphasized the importance of going on the offensive in financial matters, rather than playing defense and putting off important conversations. A couple, Jordan and Nicole, shared their struggles with finances and the impact it has on their relationship. They expressed a desire for more open and exciting conversations about finances and planning for the future. Jordan shared his efforts to invest time into himself and be more open to receiving these conversations positively. They both acknowledged the importance of this issue, rating it a 10 out of 10 for Jordan. The conversation highlighted the potential existential impact of financial issues on relationships and the importance of addressing them proactively.

    • Seeking help for relationship issuesCommunication and action are key in addressing relationship problems. Consider reaching out for support and exploring different options to move forward.

      Effective communication and taking action are crucial in addressing relationship issues. In the discussion, Nicole and Jordan acknowledged the need for change in their relationship but were unsure of the specific steps to take. The therapist suggested seeking help from a therapist, coach, or going on a relationship retreat. These options were met with initial resistance but eventually led to more concrete plans. It's important to remember that relationships require effort and open communication. If you find yourself stuck, consider reaching out for support and exploring different options to move forward. Nicole's request for Jordan to manage his stress better was a fair ask, but it required a proactive response. By discussing options and committing to taking action, both parties can work towards a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.

    • Money Differences in RelationshipsMisaligned values and past experiences can hinder effective communication and connection in relationships, but seeking help and open communication can lead to understanding and growth.

      Communication issues in relationships can often stem from deeper, underlying differences in how each partner perceives and values money. In the case of Nicole and Jordan, their contrasting upbringings and attitudes towards money created a significant barrier to effective communication and connection in their relationship. Despite having a substantial income, Nicole felt trapped by her inability to afford a couples retreat, while Jordan, who grew up without open discussions about money, struggled to prioritize the issue. However, recognizing the potential consequences of not addressing their underlying feelings and beliefs, they decided to seek help through therapy, relationship coaching, and honest communication. Ultimately, the couple learned that the importance of their relationship outweighed their initial objections and that by shifting their focus from defense to offense, they could build a stronger, more connected future together.

    • Open communication and appreciation in relationshipsExpress feelings, prioritize relationship, acknowledge sacrifices, and appreciate each other's efforts for a successful personal and professional relationship.

      Open communication and appreciation are key to a successful relationship, both personal and professional. In the discussed conversation between Jordan and Nicole, they acknowledged the importance of expressing feelings, especially during money conversations, and the need for mutual appreciation for each other's sacrifices. They also agreed to prioritize their relationship by planning a couples retreat and focusing on their individual goals, such as opening an orthodontic practice or growing their respective businesses. Jordan realized the impact of his father's mindset on his own attitudes towards money and expressed his need for appreciation. This conversation served as a reminder for both individuals to prioritize open communication, mutual respect, and appreciation in their relationship.

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