Logo
    Search

    Podcast Summary

    • Understanding Anxiety as a HabitAnxiety forms a habit loop, which can be disrupted by mapping it out, disenchanting anxiety-driven behaviors, and offering the brain a better alternative through curiosity.

      Anxiety is not just a feeling or a disorder, but a habit that can lead to other maladaptive behaviors. Dr. Judson Brewer, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist, argues that understanding anxiety as a habit can help in effectively treating it. He explains how anxiety forms a habit loop, and suggests hacking it by mapping it out, disenchanting anxiety-driven behaviors, and offering the brain a better alternative by getting curious about anxiety. This approach, which is outlined in his book "Unwinding Anxiety," can also be applied to depression and anger. Dr. Brewer's personal experience with anxiety led him to specialize in anxiety and addiction disorders as a psychiatrist. Despite the limitations of medication, he became interested in habit change and addiction research, which led him to develop a program for anxiety using the same principles. The program, called "Unwinding Anxiety," has shown promising results, with a 67% reduction in clinically validated anxiety scores.

    • Understanding Anxiety as a HabitAnxiety is a complex feeling involving physical sensations and mental behaviors. It can be defined as a feeling of nervousness or unease about an uncertain future event. Anxiety triggers worrying as a behavior, which reinforces the anxiety. Mindfulness practices are more effective than medications in managing anxiety.

      Anxiety is a complex experience that involves both physical sensations and mental behaviors. Anxiety can be defined as a feeling of nervousness or unease about an uncertain future event. It's closely related to fear and worrying, but they are not the same. Anxiety can trigger the mental behavior of worrying, which in turn can reinforce the anxiety. To form any habit, there needs to be a trigger, a behavior, and a reward. In the case of anxiety, the trigger is the feeling of anxiety, the behavior is worrying, and the reward is the sense of control or the belief that we're doing something, even if we're not. Anxiety can be caused by various things, and sometimes it becomes a habit that persists regardless of the situation. Understanding anxiety as a habit can help us break the cycle and find more effective ways to manage it. The study mentioned earlier showed that mindfulness practices can be much more effective than medications, with a number needed to treat of 1.6 compared to 5.2 for medications.

    • The Deluge of Information Causes Uncertainty and AnxietyThe constant influx of information, both accurate and inaccurate, creates a state of uncertainty, leading to anxiety. The digital world exacerbates this issue by making it harder to distinguish truth from falsehood.

      The increase in anxiety among Americans and Westerners can be attributed to the high levels of uncertainty caused by various factors such as the pandemic, economics, and digital information overload. Our brains are wired to reduce uncertainty by seeking information, but the deluge of information, both accurate and inaccurate, creates a constant state of uncertainty, leading to anxiety. This anxiety can manifest in various ways, including worrying, distracting oneself with social media or food, and other unhelpful coping mechanisms. The digital world, with its constant influx of information and misinformation, adds to this anxiety habit loop, making it harder for individuals to distinguish truth from falsehood and adding to their overall sense of uncertainty.

    • Understanding Anxiety Habit LoopIdentifying the trigger, behavior, and result of anxiety habit loop provides insight and control, essential for managing anxiety effectively.

      While it may be tempting to try and substitute unwanted behaviors during moments of anxiety with something more adaptive, such as push-ups, the root cause of anxiety often remains unaddressed. This can lead to the need for more and more of the substitution behavior, rather than alleviating the anxiety. Instead, it's crucial to identify and understand the anxiety habit loop by mapping out the trigger, behavior, and result. This process can provide insight into the mind's patterns and help decrease anxiety, even before implementing any new strategies. The brain dislikes uncertainty, so gaining clarity on the anxiety habit loop can bring a sense of control and understanding, making it an essential first step in managing anxiety.

    • Mapping out the habit loop of anxietyIdentifying and understanding the habit loop of anxiety can help reduce uncertainty and anxiety by shedding light on the process and retraining the brain through mindful observation and updating reward values.

      Understanding the habit loop of anxiety and mapping it out can help reduce uncertainty and anxiety by shedding light on the process. A therapist might use a simple tool, like drawing arrows between the trigger, behavior, and result, to help a patient see the connection. This process encourages a mindful, objective approach, rather than self-judgment. After identifying the habit loop, the next step is to update the brain's reward value by "disenchanting" anxious actions. Our brains learn by setting reward values and forgetting the details, so by understanding the details of anxious behaviors and their lack of reward, we can retrain our brains and reduce anxiety.

    • Our brains learn and repeat behaviors based on past rewardsRecognizing that unhealthy habits aren't as rewarding as we think can help us shift towards healthier options by updating the reward value through awareness and attention.

      Our brains are wired to maximize rewards, including calorie intake, based on past experiences. This reward value system drives our habits, and we don't change them unless we update the reward value through awareness and attention. For instance, if we discover a new cake shop and find it has the best cake ever, we'll keep going back due to a positive prediction error. Conversely, if the cake is terrible, we'll avoid it due to a negative prediction error. This learning process applies to all behaviors, including unhealthy eating habits or worrying. When we pay attention to the direct experience of these behaviors, we may realize they're not as rewarding as we thought. For example, worrying doesn't actually keep us safe or solve problems, and overeating can lead to negative health consequences. By recognizing these truths, we can become disenchanted with these habits and shift our behavior towards healthier options. This process, as demonstrated by the E app, can take as few as 10-15 instances of paying attention to create a negative reward value.

    • Reflecting on negative behaviors to find intrinsically rewarding alternativesReflecting on negative behaviors and their rewards can help us naturally let go of them and choose healthier alternatives, creating a 'bigger, better offer' for our brains.

      Becoming aware of the negative results of our behaviors can help us naturally become disenchanted with them, making it easier to stop engaging in them without relying on force or willpower. This reflection process allows us to compare the reward value of the old behavior to a new, more rewarding alternative, which our brains are more likely to choose. This approach, known as creating a "bigger, better offer," can help us address the root cause of anxiety and other unwanted behaviors by replacing them with intrinsically rewarding alternatives. Instead of pushing away anxiety with unhealthy coping mechanisms, we can embrace curiosity and explore the underlying causes to find healthier solutions.

    • Turn towards anxiety with curiosityCuriosity helps conquer fear, observe emotions without judgment, and widen eyes to take in more info, inducing a feeling of curiosity

      Instead of running from anxiety, we should turn towards it with curiosity. Curiosity, as James Stevens put it, can conquer fear even more than bravery. By focusing on our direct experience and observing our sensations and emotions without judgment, we can learn to be with anxiety and heal. Our eyes play a role in this process as they naturally widen when we're curious, allowing us to take in more information. If we're not feeling curious, we can use a simple hack by opening our eyes wide to induce the feeling of curiosity. In essence, curiosity is a powerful tool that can help us navigate anxiety and foster a new way of being.

    • Explore anxiety through curiosity instead of dwelling on causesShift focus from anxiety reasons to present moment feelings, recognize negative consequences, and offer curiosity as a new alternative

      Instead of focusing on the reasons behind our anxiety, we should shift our attention to the present moment and explore our feelings through curiosity. This practice, referred to as a "curiosity mantra," can help us move from our thinking brain to our feeling body, allowing us to fully experience and understand our anxiety without getting stuck in habitual worry loops. First, identify your anxiety habit loops by being mindful of your thoughts and actions when you feel anxious. Next, disenchant the anxiety behavior by recognizing the negative consequences it brings. Finally, offer your brain a new, more appealing alternative through curiosity. It's important to note that this approach doesn't involve delving into past experiences or childhood traumas to explain the cause of anxiety. While these experiences may be significant, they don't directly contribute to behavior change. Instead, focus on the present and the current rewards and consequences of your anxiety behavior.

    • Understanding Habit Loops: Anxiety, Addiction, Depression, and AngerRecognizing patterns of anxiety, addiction, depression, and anger as habit loops allows us to disrupt them and make positive changes through mindfulness and skillful responses.

      Our behaviors, including anxiety, addiction, depression, and anger, can be understood as habit loops. By recognizing these patterns and bringing awareness to them, we can begin to disrupt them and make positive changes. For instance, with anxiety, we can learn to accept things we cannot change and focus on what we can. Similarly, for depression, we can stop ruminating on past mistakes and instead bring mindfulness to the present. Anger, too, can be seen as a habit with a trigger, response, and reward. By questioning the reward of anger and seeking more skillful ways to address frustrations, we can break the anger habit. Programs like mindfulness-based cognitive therapy have been shown to be effective in addressing these issues, and they all involve the same basic principle: understanding and changing habitual patterns of thought and behavior.

    • Managing Anxiety and Negative EmotionsPractice mindfulness to manage anxiety and negative emotions. Letting go of anger can free up energy for positive change.

      Holding onto anger and negative emotions can be an inefficient use of our energy. Dr. Judson Brewer, the author of "Unwinding Anxiety," suggests asking ourselves what we're gaining from the anger to help us let go and find alternative ways to approach situations. To learn more about his work, visit his website at drjud.com, or check out the show notes at awhim.is/anxietyhabit. Remember, releasing anger can free up energy to find solutions and improve overall well-being. Dr. Brewer emphasized the importance of mindfulness practices, such as meditation, to help manage anxiety and negative emotions. He also introduced the concept of habit-stacking, which involves pairing a new habit with an existing one to make it easier to adopt. These techniques can be found in his book and the apps he mentioned. The A1 Podcast, hosted by Brett McKay, offers ad-free episodes on Stitcher Premium. Visit Stitcher Premium.com and use code MANLY for a free month trial. Be sure to leave a review on your preferred podcast platform and share the show with others to support the continued production of this valuable resource. In essence, the conversation with Dr. Brewer highlighted the importance of mindfulness practices in managing anxiety and negative emotions, and the benefits of letting go of anger to free up energy for positive change.

    Recent Episodes from The Art of Manliness

    The Fascinating Differences Between Male and Female Friendships

    The Fascinating Differences Between Male and Female Friendships

    Friendships are a central part of the lives of both men and women. But from personal observation, you've probably noticed that the dynamics of male and female friendships aren't always the same. You may not, however, have been able to articulate what those differences are or have known what's behind them.

    While there's still a lot of facets of friendship that haven't yet been researched, Dr. Jaimie Krems, who runs UCLA's Social Minds Lab, has a lot of interesting insights about what we do know about how and why men and women approach friendship differently. Today on the show, she explains why men and women form friendships and the differences in the size and nature of their social circles, how long their friendships last, and what they look for in friends. We also discuss why men have a greater tolerance for their friends' flaws than women do, why men and women would want to be friends with each other, and how each sex experiences friendship jealousy.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Jaimie Krems

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 26, 2024

    Systems and Tools for Stealing Back Hours of Productivity

    Systems and Tools for Stealing Back Hours of Productivity

    Businesses and individuals often feel overwhelmed and stretched — that they can't get done all the work they need to. The solution they frequently turn to is finding a new app to use or hiring more employees to spread the load.

    But my guest would say that you can steal back hours of productive time simply by using the tools and teams you have now, if you learn to use them in a more efficient way.

    Nick Sonnenberg is the founder and CEO of Leverage, an efficiency consulting business and the author of Come Up for Air: How Teams Can Leverage Systems and Tools to Stop Drowning in Work. Today on the show, Nick explains how people spend almost 60% of their time doing work about work, and why hiring more people can actually make the problem worse rather than better. He then shares his "CPR Business Efficiency Framework," and how making changes in how you communicate, plan, and manage resources can open up hours of time. We talk about how to organize your communication channels so your work day isn't taken up by what Nick calls "The Scavenger Hunt," one of the most underutilized tools for taming your inbox, how to stop wasting time on meetings, and tiny changes that will add up to many hours saved each year. Along the way, we talk about how some of these tactics can save you time in your personal life as well.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Nick Sonnenberg

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 24, 2024

    EPISODE #1,000! Rules for the Modern Man

    EPISODE #1,000! Rules for the Modern Man

    Fifteen years and more than 200 million downloads later, this episode marks the 1,000th installment of the Art of Manliness podcast! It begins with a bit of a retrospective on the podcast and then segues into an interview with one of the show's earliest guests: Walker Lamond, author of Rules for My Unborn Son. Walker and I revisit the origins of the book and the early days of the internet and have a fun discussion of which of his rules have become obsolete and which remain evergreen. Tune in and enjoy!

    A big thanks to our listeners for helping us reach this cool milestone. The support is deeply appreciated!

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 19, 2024

    The Epic Adventures of America’s Forgotten Mountain Man

    The Epic Adventures of America’s Forgotten Mountain Man

    Plenty of famous explorers and frontiersmen emerged from America's periods of expansion and exploration, and today the likes of Daniel Boone, Kit Carson, and Davy Crockett remain household names.

    You're probably not familiar, but should be, with the name of another prominent pioneer: Jedediah Smith. Smith was a hunter, trapper, writer, cartographer, mountain man, and explorer who notched a lot of firsts: He was the first to lead a documented exploration from the Salt Lake frontier to the Colorado River and was part of the first parties of U.S. citizens to cross the Mojave Desert, the Sierra Nevada, and the Great Basin Desert. Having survived three attacks by Native Americans and one mauling by a grizzly bear, Smith's explorations became resources for those who followed after and led to the use of the South Pass as the dominant route across the Continental Divide for pioneers on the Oregon Trail.

    In the new book he co-authored, Throne of Grace: A Mountain Man, an Epic Adventure, and the Bloody Conquest of the American West, my guest, Bob Drury, uses the oft-forgotten Smith as a guide to an oft-forgotten period in American history. Today on the show, Bob paints a picture of a volatile American landscape in which trappers and Native Americans collided and clashed in the early decades of the 19th century. We discuss how the Lewis and Clark expedition created a lust for adventure among young men, how the humble beaver played an outsized role in settling the Western frontier, and how warfare changed amongst Native American tribes with the introduction of the horse. Along the way, Bob shows us how the life of Jed Smith intersected with all these historic trends and shares the epic exploits that he and other mountain men took part in while exploring and mapping the American West.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 17, 2024

    Dad's Essential Role in Making Kids Awesome

    Dad's Essential Role in Making Kids Awesome

    As compared to mothers, fathers are sometimes thought of as a secondary, almost superfluous, parent.

    But my guest says that fathers actually saved the human race, and continue to do so today.

    Anna Machin is an evolutionary anthropologist, a pioneer of fatherhood science, and the author of Life Of Dad. Today on the show, we talk about the role of fathers in human history and how their main role continues to be teaching kids the skills they need to take risks, become independent, and navigate the world beyond their family. We also talk about the physiological changes that happen when a man becomes a father and how dads are just as biologically primed as mothers to parent. In the second half of our conversation, we talk about the experience of being a dad. Anna shares how long it typically takes a man to bond with a baby and transition into the role of fatherhood, how roughhousing is key in building that bond as well as developing your child's resilience, and how your personality and background will affect your parenting. We end our conversation with the difference in how the relationship between Mom and Dad affects how they parent, and the implications of that for building a strong family.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Anna Machin

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 12, 2024

    The Laws of Connection — The Scientific Secrets of Building Stronger Relationships

    The Laws of Connection — The Scientific Secrets of Building Stronger Relationships

    Everyone has heard about the incredible benefits that come to mind, body, and spirit from having strong relationships. The quality of our social ties has a huge impact on our physical and mental health and our overall feeling of flourishing.

    Yet many people still struggle to create these strong relationships in their lives, and often figure that things like weakening communities and digital technology are to blame.

    But my guest says that the barriers to establishing bonds with others may actually be more psychological than physical, and he shares research-backed tips for breaking through them in his new book, The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network. Today on the show, David discusses how we can feel lonely even when we're surrounded by people if we don't have what he calls a "shared reality." We then discuss ways to build that shared reality with others. We talk about why frenemies are so bad for you, how to overcome the "liking gap," why you might want to interrupt someone to connect with them, the need to be aware of the novelty penalty in conversations, why you should stop telling white lies, and much more.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With David Robson

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 10, 2024

    Remembering D-Day 80 Years Later

    Remembering D-Day 80 Years Later

    On D-Day, June 6, 1944, 160,000 troops participated in the invasion of Normandy. Today just a few thousand of these veterans are still alive, with the youngest in their late nineties. As their voices, and those of the million combatants and leaders who swept into motion across Europe 80 years ago, fall silent and pass from living history, Garrett Graff has captured and compiled them in a new book: When the Sea Came Alive: An Oral History of D-Day.

    Drawing on his project of sifting through and synthesizing 5,000 oral histories, today Garrett takes us back to what was arguably the most consequential day in modern history and helps unpack the truly epic sweep of the operation, which was hard to fathom even then, and has become even more difficult to grasp with the passage of time. We talk about how unbelievably involved the planning process for D-Day was, stories you may never have heard before, a couple of the myths around D-Day, and the sacrificial heroism born of this event that continues to live on.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Garrett Graff

    Black and white image of soldiers during D-Day with the title
    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 05, 2024

    Why You're So Bad at Giving and Receiving Compliments (And How to Fix That)

    Why You're So Bad at Giving and Receiving Compliments (And How to Fix That)

    Over a decade ago, I remember reading a story that stuck with me. I think it was connected to the famous Harvard Study on Adult Development that studied a group of men across their lifetimes, but I can no longer find the reference. A much-beloved doctor, upon his retirement, was given a notebook filled with letters of praise and appreciation from his patients. After he received it, he put it up in his attic, and never opened it or read the letters.

    I've often thought of this story since I first heard it, wondering about what motivated the doctor's behavior, and the larger question of why praise is typically welcomed and makes us feel good, but can also make people feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.

    In today's episode, I take a stab at answering this question with Christopher Littlefield, a speaker and consultant who specializes in employee appreciation. But first, we talk about the power of recognition, why we can be so stingy in giving compliments, how compliments can go wrong, and how we can offer them more effectively. We then turn to why getting compliments can make you cringe, how people deflect them and how this deflection affects relationships, and how to get better at receiving compliments graciously.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Christopher Littlefield

    The Art of Manliness
    enJune 03, 2024

    A Guide to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

    A Guide to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

    This year marks the 50th anniversary of the publication of the book Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig. It's a peculiar book, especially for a bestseller. Not a lot of it is actually about zen or motorcycle maintenance, it combines a travelogue, a father/son story, and philosophical musings, and the structure of its narration makes it hard to follow. Thus, it's the kind of book people often buy, start, and then put down without finishing.

    That's initially what happened to Mark Richardson, an author and automotive journalist who was born in the UK but has lived most of his life in Canada. But when the book finally clicked for Mark, he was so inspired by it that he actually undertook Pirsig's motorcycle pilgrimage himself. Mark shares that story in Zen and Now, which intersperses stories from his own road trip with an exploration of Pirsig's life and famous book.

    If you've wanted to read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, but haven't been able to get into it, today Mark will offer an introduction to what it's all about. We discuss Pirsig's ideas on the metaphysics of quality and our relationship to technology, and how he tried to combine the ethos of Eastern and Western thought into a unified philosophy of living. We also get into why Mark wanted to recreate Pirsig's road trip, the joys of traveling by motorcycle, and what Mark learned along the way.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Mark Richardson

    The Art of Manliness
    enMay 29, 2024

    Tactics and Mindset Shifts for Making the Most of Life

    Tactics and Mindset Shifts for Making the Most of Life

    Note: This is a rebroadcast

    Matthew Dicks wears a lot of hats. Among other things, he’s a storyteller, communications consultant, writer, and schoolteacher. In order to excel in his professional life, as well as do what he loves in his personal life, he’s developed a set of strategies that help him be more creative and productive, and can be used by anyone who wants to start making the most of life.

    Matt writes about these tactics and mindset shifts in his latest book Someday Is Today: 22 Simple, Actionable Ways to Propel Your Creative Life, and he shares some of them with us today on the show, including why you need to think in minutes, be an eagle rather than a mouse, practice deliberate incuriosity, and always do your best to act like a decent human being. Along the way, Matt and I talk about why you should floss in the shower and how restaurants that make guacamole at your table are a great example of the folly of making a thing, a thing.

    Resources Related to the Podcast

    Connect With Matthew Dicks


     

    The Art of Manliness
    enMay 27, 2024

    Related Episodes

    Jacob Nordby on Self Love and Dealing With Uncertainty

    Jacob Nordby on Self Love and Dealing With Uncertainty
    How does uncertainty affect our creative capacity? Why do we become more narrow and rigid when things feel outside of our control? On this episode of the podcast, author Jacob Nordby and Angela Levesque touch on a variety of topics ranging from curiosity to creativity to self-love. Jacob shares a very personal story that illustrates our ability to find calm amidst a storm and how simply taking a moment to breathe can change everything.

    Timestamp

    Divine spectacle 2:20
    Jacob Nordby 8:18
    It's Worth Your Time 1:12:05

    Links

    Blessed Are the Weird: A Manifesto for Creatives https://blessedaretheweird.com/the-book/

    About the Guest

    Jacob Nordby is the author of The Divine Arsonist: A Tale of Awakening and Blessed Are the Weird – A Manifesto for Creatives. His words have been translated into many languages and shared around the world. He leads the Creative UnBootcamp course for students around the world and offers transformational group retreats and individual creative guidance sessions. His third book, The Creative Cure, is set to release by Hierophant Publishing on February 16, 2021, with a foreword by Julia Cameron. Meet him at www.jacobnordby.com

    The 1 Habit All Highly Effective People Live By & How To Implement It In Your Life

    The 1 Habit All Highly Effective People Live By & How To Implement It In Your Life

    There’s a simple thing Jay Shetty believes holds the secret to flourishing in these challenging days - curiosity. If there is anything that can keep us healthy and afloat, it is curiosity. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay shares five reasons to cultivate curiosity


    Feeling unmotivated or not inspired? Curiosity is the golden ticket to creativity and success. Watch the full episode for tips on how to build curiosity and use it to its maximum potential.Text Jay Shetty 310-997-4177


    A Word From Our Sponsors:


    Jump over to https://athleticgreens.com/purpose and claim my special offer today - 20 FREE travel packs valued at $79 with your first purchase


    Start your Free Trial at https://www.TheGreatCoursesPLUS.com/JAY

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Delores

    Delores

    Dolores Huerta is the one of the most important civil rights leaders in history. Dolores possesses an indomitable spirit, she is a fearless advocate on behalf of farm workers, women's rights and the environment. Huerta has been awarded every honor under the sun, including the Presidential Medal of Freedom, and yet at 90 she continues to walk shoulder-to-shoulder with farmworkers early in the morning to make sure their needs are taken care of before her own. Dolores is truly selfless. We talk about Earth Day’s 50th anniversary and just when you thought you knew everything about Dolores, she uncovers her love of Burning Man.

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.