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    Break Out Of Your Breakup Blues

    enJuly 26, 2024
    What emotions are common after a breakup?
    How can one prioritize pleasure post-breakup?
    Why is communication important in relationships?
    What resources can help with relaxation and libido?
    How can couples discuss sexual desires effectively?

    Podcast Summary

    • Breakup emotions and coping strategiesAllow yourself to feel and grieve during a breakup, prioritize pleasure, and consider seeking resources for urinary health and relaxation to aid in the healing process.

      It's natural to experience a range of emotions after a breakup, and allowing yourself to feel and grieve is an essential part of the healing process. All of us have the potential to be great lovers, but our conditioning and past experiences can make us feel shut down or boring in bed. To cope with a breakup, prioritize your pleasure and consider seeking resources like Just Thrive's UT 123 for urinary health or Vaya's THC gummies for relaxation and libido enhancement. Remember, a breakup is like a mini death, and it's important to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself time and space to heal. Additionally, consider trying new experiences and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist to help you move forward.

    • Breakup healingReach out for support, avoid toxic energy, practice self-care, write down issues, cut ties, follow no contact rule, and practice self-love for healing after a breakup.

      Going through a breakup can be a challenging and painful experience, but it's important to remember that it's normal to feel bad and that these feelings won't last forever. Reach out to your support network of friends and family, avoid toxic energy suckers, practice self-care, and write down the things that bothered you about your ex to help you move on. Be ruthless in cutting ties with your ex, including unfollowing them on social media and getting rid of their stuff. Remember, you cannot be friends with your ex right away, and it's important to follow the no contact rule for at least 30, 60, or 90 days. Lastly, practice self-love and self-care through masturbation and finding new erogenous zones. These steps can help you heal and move forward after a breakup.

    • Self-love and healing after a breakupExploring your body through self-love, orgasms, and communication with new partners can help heal from a breakup and prepare for new relationships.

      Self-love and exploring your body after a breakup can help you heal and prepare for new relationships. Orgasms release feel-good hormones and can help you detach from your ex. Rebound sex with the right intentions can be transformative, but honest communication with new partners is important. Everyone heals at their own pace, so be patient with yourself and focus on self-care. For those struggling with orgasms, it's important to remember that it's normal and can take time to get to know your body. Communication with partners and using tools like lube can help. Layla's Enigma Double Sonic vibrator can help target the a spot for powerful orgasms and is a great investment for self-exploration.

    • Vulva PleasuringFocus on sensitive touch outside the vagina, especially on the clitoris. Use toys, lube, and explore senses for enhanced pleasure. Be patient and build-up, as it may take longer for women to reach orgasm. Set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships.

      When it comes to pleasuring a vulva owner, it's essential to focus on light, sensitive touch outside the vagina, primarily on the clitoris. Keeping the mind engaged and exploring all senses, including using toys and lube, can enhance the experience. Patience and a build-up are crucial, as it may take longer for women to reach orgasm. In relationships, setting boundaries and not taking on more than one should is important, especially when leaving a toxic situation. It's okay to prioritize self-care and well-being, even if it feels difficult or uncomfortable at first.

    • Intimate communicationOpen communication about intimate needs and desires is crucial for building a stronger connection in relationships, and should be approached in a non-confrontational and non-shaming way.

      Open communication is key in relationships, especially when it comes to discussing intimate needs and desires. The conversation should be approached in a non-confrontational and non-shaming way, ideally in a comfortable setting outside the bedroom. It's important to remember that both partners may have been conditioned to feel shame or embarrassment around discussing sex, so it may take time and effort to create a safe and open space for the conversation. By having ongoing, non-judgmental conversations about sex, couples can build a stronger connection and better understand each other's needs, leading to a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.

    • Effective communication in sexual relationshipsEffective communication and understanding are essential for improving sexual relationships. Approach differences with care and openness, apologize, assume good intentions, and build a strong foundation through mutual respect. Learn about each other's bodies through exploration and open dialogue.

      Effective communication and understanding are key to improving sexual relationships. People may have different desires and approaches, and it's essential to approach these differences with care and openness. Apologizing, assuming good intentions, and starting from a place of mutual respect can help build a strong foundation for exploring each other's needs and desires. For specific challenges, like Jake's question about giving better oral sex, learning about your partner's body through mutual masturbation and exploration can be helpful. Remember, everyone deserves to feel confident and satisfied in their sexual relationships, and open dialogue and patience are crucial in achieving that goal.

    • Creating a safe space for oral sex explorationCommunication, lube, and taking it slow are essential when exploring oral sex techniques. Encourage partner's self-exploration, prioritize their pleasure, and invest in a fun and safe experience.

      While exploring different techniques for giving oral sex can be helpful, the most important thing is to create a safe and empowering environment for your partner to explore their own body and overcome any discomfort or shame they may have around masturbation. Communication, using lube, and taking it slow are key. Remember, everyone's body is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. Encourage your partner to learn about their own body and prioritize their pleasure. And don't forget to have fun! As mentioned, you can start with simple steps like using a mirror or trying different positions. If you're feeling lost, there are resources available online, such as blogs and articles, and even a hotline where you can ask questions anonymously. So take the time to invest in your partner's pleasure and your own, and remember, communication and consent are key.

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