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    Check, please! The etiquette of splitting the tab

    en-usJuly 02, 2024

    Podcast Summary

    • Trump's Trials, Check SplittingTwo distinct but intersecting stories: Trump's legal battles and the challenges of check splitting in the restaurant industry, both requiring careful handling to ensure fairness and satisfaction

      Former President Trump is facing multiple legal trials, making it a complex and evolving story. To help make sense of it all, NPR has launched a new podcast called "Trump's Trials," which breaks down the news from each case and discusses its implications for democracy. Meanwhile, in a different context, Kiki Araneda, a food writer for The Strategist, shared her experiences from the early days of the restaurant industry when splitting the check was a more complicated process. Before the advent of portable credit card machines, servers would use paper and pen to calculate the bill, which could hold up the line and cause awkward moments. Despite the challenges, it's essential to ensure that everyone leaves a dining experience feeling satisfied with how the check was handled.

    • Restaurant bill etiquette, Media consumptionNavigating social complexities like splitting a restaurant bill and staying informed in today's fast-paced world requires grace and fairness, with technology providing convenient solutions and traditional skills adding value.

      Technology has made many aspects of life easier, including dining out and staying informed, but there are still social complexities that need to be navigated. For instance, splitting a restaurant bill can be a source of awkwardness, even with the convenience of modern payment methods. Meanwhile, staying informed in today's fast-paced world can be a challenge, but tools like the NPR app can help cut through the noise and keep you updated on important news. Additionally, the value of traditional skills like foraging and living off the land continues to be appreciated in various cultures. Overall, it's essential to approach these situations with grace and fairness, whether it's handling a restaurant bill or engaging in meaningful conversations through media.

    • Bill SplittingEffective bill splitting involves clear communication and managing expectations beforehand to prevent misunderstandings and ensure fair distribution of funds.

      Splitting a bill in a restaurant involves more than just dividing the cost evenly. It's an art that requires practical, social, financial, and even airline miles considerations. While it may seem simple, communication and managing expectations are crucial. If you're inviting someone out, it's important to clarify who will be paying beforehand to avoid any misunderstandings or discomfort. If you've decided to split the bill, having a conversation about the particulars, such as separate checks or evenly splitting the cost, can prevent chaos once the check arrives. Overall, splitting a bill requires consideration and clear communication to ensure a fair and equal distribution of funds.

    • Dining etiquette with alcoholWhen dining out, communicate openly about who ordered what and ensure a fair distribution of the bill, considering alcohol consumption and additional orders.

      When dining out with friends and dealing with the bill, it's essential to communicate openly about who ordered what and ensure a fair distribution of the bill. This is particularly important when it comes to alcohol consumption. Those who are drinking should be considerate of their non-drinking companions and may need to contribute more towards the tip. If the bill is being split evenly and someone didn't order alcohol or ordered less expensive items, they should speak up and discuss adjusting their share of the bill to make it fair. Effective communication can prevent misunderstandings and potential conflicts. This rule applies not only to alcohol but also to any additional orders, such as desserts or expensive dishes. Remember, it's important to address any perceived unfairness and communicate openly with your dining partners to ensure a positive dining experience for everyone involved.

    • Obtaining consent and separate checksObtaining consent before ordering for a group and requesting separate checks from the server at the beginning of the meal can prevent misunderstandings and financial complications.

      It's important to obtain consent before ordering food or drinks for a group, and to request separate checks from the server at the beginning of the meal for easier bill settlement. This scenario involves a friend ordering appetizers for the table without everyone's agreement, leading to confusion and potential financial responsibility for the individual. To avoid misunderstandings and complications, it's essential to communicate with the group and the server about orders and payment methods upfront. Another key takeaway is that servers are generally accommodating when it comes to separate checks, and this approach can save time and hassle during the meal's conclusion. Lastly, when splitting the bill with multiple credit cards, there is no definitive answer on how many cards are too many, but it's essential to be mindful of the server's ability to manage the transaction efficiently.

    • Managing group payments at restaurantsConsider using two credit cards or settling up as you go for smaller groups. For larger groups or trips, use a payment splitting app to keep track of expenses and prevent disputes.

      Managing group payments at restaurants can be a source of stress and confusion, but there are simple solutions to make the process easier and more efficient. If you're a group of six or more, consider using two credit cards or settling up as you go to avoid asking your server to handle multiple payments. If you prefer to use multiple credit cards, be mindful of the server's workload on busy nights. For larger groups or trips, consider using a payment splitting app like Kitty Split to keep track of expenses and avoid disputes. This can help eliminate the tension that often arises when the bill comes and everyone is unsure of who owes what. Additionally, clear communication and settling up payments promptly can prevent misunderstandings and potential conflicts with restaurant staff.

    • Dining etiquette and paying the checkEstablish beforehand who will pay during dining out and rotate the responsibility to avoid disagreements. Prioritize friendship and enjoyment over financial aspects.

      Arguing over who pays the check during dining out is a common occurrence in various cultures. However, it can be avoided by establishing beforehand who will pay and rotating the responsibility. It's important to remember that small disagreements over money during your 20s may not be a significant issue in the long run. The value of friendship and the enjoyment of dining experiences should be prioritized over the financial aspect. When it comes to splitting the bill, it's essential to remember that it all balances out in the end. Chef and food writer Kiki Arinita shared her personal experience with this issue and emphasized the importance of maintaining a strong bond with friends, rather than focusing on who owes what.

    • Effective communication, splitting billDiscussing payment methods before ordering can prevent misunderstandings and unwanted surprises. Be mindful of those in your party who didn't order as much and considerate of your server. Digital payment methods like Venmo can be a convenient solution for complicated situations. Clear communication and consideration for others can make the dining experience more enjoyable for everyone.

      Effective communication is key when it comes to splitting the bill in a group. Discussing payment methods before ordering can prevent misunderstandings and unwanted surprises. Be mindful of those in your party who didn't order as much and considerate of your server. If the situation becomes complicated, using a digital payment method like Venmo can be a convenient solution. Lastly, settling the bill can be a cherished tradition among friends, making it an honor to cover the cost. Remember, clear communication and consideration for others can make the dining experience more enjoyable for everyone. For more practical tips, listen to LifeKit's episodes on tipping and eating seafood responsibly at npr.org/LifeKit. Stay tuned for our newsletter and follow us on your favorite podcast platform for more LifeKit content. This episode was reported by Malika Gereb, produced by Sylvie Douglas, and hosted by Mario Saguerre. Our team includes Andy Tagle, Claire Marie Schneider, Margaret Sorino, Ted Mabain, and Beth Donovan. Download the NPR app for ad-free, in-depth coverage on local, national, and global news.

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