Do you suspect your partner has narcissistic/selfish tendencies?

If you started a diet or exercise regime in the New Year but now struggle to keep it going, it might be because you didn't understand what was going on for you. It's normal for most of us to struggle with procrastination. But there are reasons for this and it can be stopped! In ​today's podcast​, I'm going to show you how 'failing' can help you.

We'll look at:

• Why you lose control and how to regain it
• The origins of self-control in your brain
• Recognising how stress, tiredness, and distraction stop you taking control
• Retraining your brain to take action
• I'll also share my experiences with impulse buying & how I stop myself

We'll discuss the small steps that add up to a big change.

Citations
Kelly McGonigal - The Willpower Instinct

Another podcast for you: “I don’t want to exercise” - Why Your Brain Lies to You

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Nurturing yourself through the pressures of Christmas. Part of the reason we eat so much at Christmas is that it's so easy to do it. Our whole culture makes it easy for us to do so. However, there are many traditions and habits associated with Christmas that can create pressure and obligations. One way to control your eating during Christmas is to politely decline food that you don't really want.

This is the second of my Christmas podcasts, where I talk about the pressures of Christmas, and guide you through the challenges of festive eating. I also share personal experiences and emphasise the importance of making conscious choices to take care of yourself during this time. 

11.24 - To end the episode, I tell a heart-warming Christmas story: 'What Happened Christmas Eve' by Oliver Herfold.

Get your Christmas Comfort Eating Recovery Checklist, here:  https://underground-confidence-recovery.ck.page/fa3be06a01

Citations
https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/13213

Another related podcast: Why It's So Difficult To Say 'No' To People

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Welcome to the first of three Christmas podcasts, where I talk about the different feelings we have during the holiday season. Today, I focus on how it can be hard to deal with loss during Christmas. It can be tough if someone you love isn't there, if you had a difficult relationship, or if you just feel sad during this time of year. I want to support you and give you permission to feel your grief.

I'll share stories, talk about love and grief, offer tips for taking care of yourself during the holidays, and I'll end with a moving and meaningful Dickensian Christmas story. So, get cosy, find a quiet place, and let's attend to how we can heal.

Citations

Coping with Memories of Grief and Loss at Christmas - Lyn Reed
https://welldoing.org/article/coping-with-memories-grief-loss-christmas
‘It’s Ok that you’re not OK” - Megan Devine
Charles Dickens ' What Christmas is as we Grow Older'
http://www.free-short-stories.org.uk/charles-dickens-what-christmas-is-as-we-grow-older.htm

Another podcast you may like: Coping with GRIEF Or Loss https://www.buzzsprout.com/1397278/9481890-coping-with-grief-or-loss.mp3?download=true

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One of the biggest reasons people seek support from me is the fear of passing on their habits to their children.  According to statistics, children and young people are using food to cope with mental health issues, more than ever before. In this week's podcast, I talk about 5 ways you can help the young person in your care.

Your next podcast

 Are You An EMOTIONAL Eater? Here's How To Find Out: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1397278/9683906-46-are-you-an-emotional-eater-here-s-how-to-find-out.mp3?download=true

Citations

Office for Health and Disparities. Public Health Data. Obesity Profile: https://fingertips.phe.org.uk/profile/national-child-measurement-programme

The Guardian. Young people overeating as they battle lockdown anxiety, says UK study: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/jul/12/young-people-overeating-as-they-battle-lockdown-anxiety-says-uk-study

Mind: Facts and figures about young people and mental health: https://www.mind.org.uk/about-us/our-strategy/doing-more-for-young-people/facts-and-figures-about-young-people-and-mental-health/

NHS: https://www.england.nhs.uk/2022/03/nhs-treating-record-number-of-young-people-for-eating-disorders/

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“Today I talk about the biggest mistakes I made when trying to stop comfort eating and lose weight. I now advise against being too hard on yourself and going on strict diet. “

Shelley says it's really important to be kind to yourself and have self-compassion when trying to recover. She also thinks it's helpful to pay attention to your senses while eating, and be aware of how you feel when you’re choosing what to eat.

Shelley has created a 'Comfort Eating Recovery Starter Kit' with useful resources for people who want help. You can get the kit by clicking on this link: https://underground-confidence-recovery.ck.page/4ced5555aa

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Do you worry too much about what others think of you? This can lead to overeating for comfort. Today, I talk about trying to be perfect and how it can have bad effects, like causing overeating, stress, and feeling really sad. I point out that perfectionists have unrealistic expectations for themselves and explain why. I suggest building up your own self-esteem and judging yourself in a reasonable way.

You might like this podcast next: Imposter Syndrome & Comfort Eating

Citations

• What is eldest daughter syndrome? https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/family-friends/eldest-daughter-syndrome-perfectionist/834442
• Behav Ther. 2020 May;51(3):488-502.doi: 10.1016/j.beth.2019.09.002. Epub 2019 Sep 12. A Neuropsychological Investigation of Perfectionism Anthony Robinson  1 , Amitai Abramovitch  2  https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32402263/
• Behaviour Research and Therapy Volume 40, Issue 7, July 2002, Pages 773-791 Clinical perfectionism: a cognitive–behavioural analysis. Author links open overlay panel Roz Shafran Christopher G. Fairburn https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0005796701000596
• Working with Perfectionism. Nicabm. https://www.nicabm.com/topic/perfectionism/ 

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 Today I talk about money and how our thoughts about money affect us. I mention money problems from the past and ask questions to help you think about your own money beliefs and influences. I conclude that it's important to take care of yourself on the inside.  I also talk about overeating on holiday.

Citations
The Money Panel
The Soul of Money 'Reclaiming the Wealth of Our Inner Resources' - Lynne Twist 

Another podcast to try: Regulating the Autonomic Nervous System - Emotional Eating Recovery

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In this podcast, I talk about how having good relationships can make you feel happy. I also discuss the importance of setting boundaries when you interact with others. The podcast explains how bonding, trust, and connection affect your brain chemicals. I also share stories about dealing with feeling anxious or being rejected by others. Throughout the podcast, you are encouraged to be kind to yourself.

Citations
The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage, by Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D.
Priya Parker

Your next episode:  Why It's So Difficult To Say 'No' To People

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Today, learn how your brain tricks you into avoiding exercise and why it's crucial to overcome this instinct. Understand the neuroscience of movement, uncover the surprising benefits of any form of physical activity, and explore strategies to make exercise enjoyable again. From childhood fears to unexpected swimming adventures, I share personal stories that will inspire you to break free from your exercise limitations.

Citations

The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage, by Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D.

Your next podcast: Do You Know What Your Needs Are? - 2 Min Byte Podcast

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Today, we begin by addressing the common issue of self-disgust. I encourage listeners to challenge negative self-talk. I then dive into the topic of seasonal stress, highlighting signs of troublesome stress levels. The podcast provides practical methods to nurture self-compassion and well-being.

Another podcast for you: Shame & Overeating

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