Employing Differences, Episode 199: What's my goal?
"If my goal is to change somebody else's behavior, I'm very unlikely to be successful. But if my goal is to make the relationship better and to change what I can change about what's going on with me, and how I'm engaging, and how I'm sharing in various ways; the likelihood that their behavior will change actually goes up."
Karen & Paul discuss one of the paradoxes of relational work.