Ep. 117: Why Your Marriage DOES Feel Harder After Having Kids

Even when something as devastating as infidelity occurs, there is still hope that you can work towards the best marriage you’ve ever had. In this episode, I share a client’s experience of infidelity, and what we did in the very beginning and throughout this (admittedly messy) process. Prepare for goosebumps as we dive into a heartwarming follow-up over a year later - they're now stronger than ever! This is not just for couples going through infidelity, but anyone wanting to gain insights on how to feel better in their marriage!

Tune in for:

• The crucial first step towards healing after infidelity

• Why things typically get worse before they get better

• What you may find surprising about my work with clients after an infidelity

• How to make amends in a way your partner needs

• Permission to never invalidate yourself when thinking “things could be worse”

• Overcoming the isolating feeling of struggling alone in your relationship battles

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Let’s unravel the mysteries of healthy relationships in our society. Because no one taught us how to have a healthy relationship (or marriage), so it makes sense that so many of us are struggling. Join us as we challenge common misconceptions and uncover the secrets to fostering deeper connections and greater happiness in your marriage.

Tune in to discover:

• The surprising truths about what we perceive as normal in relationships

• Debunking myths surrounding passion in marriage

• True or false: do our partners truly hold the key to fixing our feelings?

• Uncovering the unintended consequences of well-intentioned behaviors

• Navigating the topic of guilting and understanding its impact on relationships

• Dismantling the habit of deflecting responsibility

FREE LIVE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/march-2024-webinar

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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“I don’t know what my needs are in my marriage after having kids, I just know they’re not being met.” Sound familiar?

In this eye-opening episode, I share the (not often talked about) challenges we face after welcoming children into our lives and the profound impact they have on our overall happiness and marital bliss. 

Join me as I explore the hurdles of parenthood and share actionable strategies to strengthen our marriages amidst the chaos.

Let's normalize the inevitable dip in happiness (it's not your fault, nor your partner's!) and open up the conversation. Because the more we discuss these issues, the closer we come to finding solutions.

Tune in for:

• How children can strain your marriage, leading to various challenges

• All the new issues that emerge, from differing parenting styles to financial strain post-kids

• Shifts in identity, desires, and needs after becoming parents

• How the love for your child differs from that for your spouse

• The result of increased transactional conversations

• One amplified new role that potentially adds complexity to marital dynamics

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Welcome to the rollercoaster ride that was our life after welcoming our second child - it was simultaneously easier and more challenging than the first go-round.

Join me in this episode as I share the highs and lows of navigating parenthood round two with an international move and my spouse's deployment thrown into the mix. Find out what worked wonders in our marriage, what didn't quite hit the mark, and the unexpected twists we faced.

Tune in for:

• A game-changing move I made (and would totally repeat if more little ones were on the horizon)

• Our biggest and longest fight during pregnancy (and what I wish we did differently)

• Why I firmly believe there's still time for you and your spouse, even in the chaotic world of parenting

• The exhaustion and mental load that reached levels I didn't think were possible

• How we became better support systems by understanding and meeting each other's needs intentionally

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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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Want the inside scoop on what went down in my marriage after the birth of our first daughter?

In this episode, I’m sharing what we did well in our marriage (which wasn’t much!), what did not go well, and how things changed for me - which contributed to the challenges I experienced in our relationship. 

Even with all the preparations we made and intentional conversations we had prior to our daughter’s birth, we still had difficulties in our marriage. That’s why this episode is vital for anyone who has kids or is planning to have kids someday. Maintaining a strong relationship after kids is possible!

Listen in to hear:

• An insight into my postpartum period and the struggles I experienced

• What led to friction in our marriage after our daughter was born (and why I unfairly blamed my husband for the problems)

• What helped our relationship in those early stages of parenthood

• One wildly helpful exercise to improve the mental load of mothers

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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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Welcome to Married After Kids! I’m kicking things off by sharing personally about the early days of my own marriage, giving you an inside look at what it was like BEFORE kids entered the scene!

We're diving deep into my past relationships, unpacking the nitty-gritty of our marriage pre-kids – the highs, the hurdles, and the heartwarming moments. Get ready to share a laugh over the things we nailed, chat about what I wish we'd known, and discover some golden nuggets that resonate, whether you're navigating parenthood or dreaming about it one day.

Tune in to hear:

• A sneak peek into my previous relationships

• What we mastered in marriage before having kids

• The chats I wish we'd had before diving into parenthood

• What you can glean from this episode to enrich your own marriage

• Prompts to deepen your connection with your spouse

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I have something special to share with you! In this unique episode, I am unveiling a very exciting update. Your support is invaluable and I can't wait to hear your thoughts (and all the feelings that may come up for you!).

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Ever found yourself at odds with your spouse, unable to agree on something important? In this episode, we're exploring what to do WHEN disagreements arise. 

Disagreements are inevitable and can range from small to significant topics. Arming yourself with the knowledge of what to do when they happen, will prepare you for a strong and successful marriage. 

We’re digging into:

• The often-overlooked factor when facing different perspectives

• Strategies for handling situations when you and your partner aren't on the same page

• How to get a deeper understanding of your spouse’s wants and needs (and vice versa)

• Collaborating (and getting creative!) on finding a solution that accommodates both sets of needs - the key to preventing resentment later on!

• Recognizing the moments when it's beneficial to pause the conversation and focus on loving each other

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Struggling with feelings of being unloved and unsupported in your marriage? These emotions can be challenging to navigate, yet they're a common theme among many of my clients. In today's discussion, we dive into the unique challenges faced by military spouses and provide empowering insights to help you strengthen the supportive foundation of your marriage.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The secret element in your marriage you need to make EVERYTHING easier

• Actionable steps to ensure you feel the deep level of support you deserve from your spouse

• How to identify and communicate your needs effectively

• The significance of evaluating your thoughts about your spouse and their level of support

• Ways to prepare for and initiate a conversation with your spouse about the support you need

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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Happy New Year! If you want your relationship to improve this year, run (don’t walk!) straight to this episode. There’s no denying it can be difficult to make changes, and that’s why I’m sharing insights on how you and your partner can continue building a successful marriage and rediscover the “new relationship” energy you had when you first started dating. 

Learn how to implement changes you want to make in your marriage this year to spice things up and make your relationship better than ever. Remember, there’s always room for improvement no matter where you are in your relationship currently. 

We’re exploring:

• How to evaluate your successes and areas for improvement from the last year

• The exact questions my spouse and I ask each other for reflecting on the previous year, along with our candid answers

• My top advice on where to begin once you’ve identified areas for improvement in your marriage

• How to support each other effectively in making changes, even when it’s difficult

• Methods to consistently maintain and check in on your relationship goals for year-round success

For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869