Ep 16: My Favorite Moments of 2020

I used to think that my healing journey needed to look a certain way and have a definite outcome. That eventually--no matter how long it took--I needed to rise out of the ashes like a phoenix then tell the world about it. 

Sitting with the realness of my unpredictable, and sometimes messy healing journey has taught me that there is no model for what healing should look like. You are an original. Your journey will be a unique one. And by releasing the expectations around who you ought to become and by when that needs to happen, perhaps that creates room for some unexpected, imperfect beauty to unfold.

 

In this episode, I share about:

• The ways in which our society creates “models” for who or what we should be

• How those models impact our healing journey

• The liberation that becomes possible through being present with your own journey

• Accessing the unique wisdom that wants to emerge through you

 

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More About Me:

I’m a Resilience Coach, Embodiment Healing Guide, Angel Mama, and Birth Doula. I support women and femmes who’ve gone through different forms of loss in their emotional healing, pregnancy, and giving birth to a more powerful, compassionate, authentic version of themself. Healing is the greatest gift one could give to themself or their family. And it’s an honor and privilege for me to be a form of support on that journey.

 

Ways That I Can Support You on Your Birthing / Rebirth Journey:

• Book a complimentary Clarity Call here: nataleefacey.com/contact
• Send me any questions or reflections you have: hello@nataleefacey.com
• Join my mailing list and receive a free guided meditation: https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0
• And let’s connect on IG if we haven’t already!: @thebirthwarriors

 

Donate:

If you'd like to donate to support families experiencing financial hardship as they seek to access healing sevices, please do so here.

 

With Love,
Natalee

Feeling as though you're suffering in silence is perhaps one of the most common experiences after going through a loss. Silence and solitude might be exactly what you need in the earlier stages of your healing journey. And at some point, the silence or isolation may no longer support your healing. 

 

In this episode, I share:

• When silence and solitude are in service of our healing and 
• When silence and solitude can lead to our decline
• Some simple tips for bringing "movement" and release to your body and being\

And here are the Grief playlists I referenced:

• Good Grief
• 1_Let Me Be
• 2_Finding Peace
• 3_Rise Again

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More About Me:

I’m a Resilience Coach, Embodiment Healing Guide, Angel Mama, and Birth Doula. I support women and femmes who’ve gone through womb-related loss in their emotional healing, pregnancy, and giving birth to a more powerful, compassionate, authentic version of themself. Healing is the greatest gift one could give to themself or their family. And it’s an honor and privilege for me to be a form of support on that journey.

 

Ways That I Can Support You on Your Birthing / Rebirth Journey:

• Learn more about healing inside The Rebirth Community: nataleefacey.com/community
• Book a complimentary Clarity Call here: nataleefacey.com/contact
• Send me any questions or reflections you have: hello@nataleefacey.com
• Join my mailing list and receive a free guided meditation: https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0
• And let’s connect on IG if we haven’t already!: @thebirthwarriors

 

With Love,

Natalee

The "Spiritual Bypass" is often intended to be a reminder that we're spiritual beings having a human experience. It can also be used to dismiss or diminish our very real human experiences, which leads to us holding on to hurt instead of processing and releasing it. 

 

In this episode, I share:

• How the Spiritual Bypass showed up in my experience 
• How it can be harmful if it's showing up in yours 
• Why healing also needs to occur through the body
• And exploring a sense of purpose after a loss 

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More About Me:

I’m a Resilience Coach, Embodiment Healing Guide, Angel Mama, and Birth Doula. I support women and femmes who’ve gone through womb-related loss in their emotional healing, pregnancy, and giving birth to a more powerful, compassionate, authentic version of themself. Healing is the greatest gift one could give to themself or their family. And it’s an honor and privilege for me to be a form of support on that journey.

 

Ways That I Can Support You on Your Birthing / Rebirth Journey:

• Learn more about healing inside The Rebirth Community: nataleefacey.com/community
• Book a complimentary Clarity Call here: nataleefacey.com/contact
• Send me any questions or reflections you have: hello@nataleefacey.com
• Join my mailing list and receive a free guided meditation: https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0
• And let’s connect on IG if we haven’t already!: @thebirthwarriors

 

With Love,

Natalee

Today’s guest is Nicole JeanBaptiste, whom we met in Ep 20 of the podcast on “Honoring the Black Birthing Experience”. Nicole is a full spectrum Birth and Postpartum Doula, Oral Historian, and Social Justice Advocate working towards the liberation of Black and Brown birthing people and Birthworkers.

 

In this episode, we shift our attention to the healers and caretakers of the birthing world: Birthworkers.

 

We explore what it means to move towards birthing justice and liberation through tending to the needs and care of Black and Brown Birthworkers. We also discuss an upcoming retreat Nicole will be co-hosting that supports Black and Brown Birthworkers in their own healing and restoration.

 

Follow the links below to learn more about Nicole, her work, and to support Birthworkers who’d like to attend the retreat:

• Learn More about the retreat: www.sesebirthingfreedom.com/revelrebirth 
• Donate to support Birthworkers in their healing and liberation: https://givebutter.com/RevelRebirth/nicolejeanbaptiste 
• Explore Nicole's Birthing Services, Sésé Birthing Freedom: www.sesebirthingfreedom.com 
• Connect with Nicole on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sese_birthingfreedom
• Learn More about Bx (Re)Birth & Progress Collective: www.bxrebirth.org 

 

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More About Me:

I’m a Resilience Coach, Embodiment Healing Guide, Angel Mama, and Birth Doula. I support women and femmes who’ve gone through womb-related loss in their emotional healing, pregnancy, and giving birth to a more powerful, compassionate, authentic version of themself. Healing is the greatest gift one could give to themself or their family. And it’s an honor and privilege for me to be a form of support on that journey.

 

Ways That I Can Support You on Your Birthing / Rebirth Journey:

• Learn more about healing inside The Rebirth Community: nataleefacey.com/community
• Book a complimentary Clarity Call here: nataleefacey.com/contact
• Send me any questions or reflections you have: hello@nataleefacey.com
• Join my mailing list and receive a free guided meditation: https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0
• And let’s connect on IG if we haven’t already!: @thebirthwarriors

 

With Love,

Natalee

Hi Beloved - Have you been waiting for your comeback? To "uplevel" your life or quickly have another baby to  show that your life after loss is better than before? I share the imbalances in our culture that are at the root of this, how it showed up in my own experience after loss, and why inner healing is necessary. 

If this resonates with you, be sure to share it with someone else who might need to hear it. 

And Here Are Some Resources / Next Steps That Can Support Your Journey:

• Learn more about healing inside The Rebirth Community: nataleefacey.com/community
• Book a complimentary Clarity Call here: nataleefacey.com/contact
• Send me any questions or reflections you have: hello@nataleefacey.com
• Join my mailing list and receive a free guided meditation: https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0
• And let’s connect on IG if we haven’t already!: @thebirthwarriors

 

More About Me:

I’m a Resilience Coach, Embodiment Healing Guide, Angel Mama, and Birth Doula. I support women and femmes like you who’ve gone through womb-related loss in your emotional healing, pregnancy, and giving birth to a more powerful, compassionate, authentic version of yourself. Your healing is the greatest gift you could give to yourself or your family. And it’s an honor and privilege for me to support you on your journey.

I look forward to connecting with you!

With Love,

Natalee

I’m baaack! In this episode, I share the deep journey of release, healing, and rebirth that 2022 brought me on. It was nothing I expected and everything I needed! That journey also created clarity and spaciousness for the rebirth of our online community. Check out the episode to learn more!

 

Support For Your Journey:

• Learn more about this beautiful community offering here: nataleefacey.com/community
• Book a complimentary Clarity Call here: nataleefacey.com/contact
• Send me any questions or reflections you have: hello@nataleefacey.com
• Join my mailing list and receive a free guided meditation: https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0
• And let’s connect on IG if we haven’t already!: @thebirthwarriors

 

More About Me:

I’m a Resilience Coach, Embodiment Healing Guide, Angel Mama, and Birth Doula. I support women and femmes like you who’ve gone through womb-related loss in your emotional healing, pregnancy, and giving birth to a more powerful, compassionate, authentic version of yourself. Your healing is the greatest gift you could give to yourself or your family. It’s an honor and privilege to support you on your journey.

 

Do reach out if you’re feeling called to.

 

With Love,

Natalee

I consider myself a life-long learner, so it means a lot when I say that Compassionate Communication or Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has been one of the single most important practices I’ve learned. As my teacher, Steve Torma, puts it, Compassionate Communication isn’t just a tool for communication but a shift in consciousness. 

 

I’ve referred Compassionate Communication to clients of mine because it becomes a game-changer for ANY conversation or relationship. And today, we have the pleasure of hearing Steve Torma share more about Compassionate Communication and how it can benefit you and your relationships. 

We discuss: 

• What Compassionate Communication or NVC is and some of its many benefits
• What violence looks like in conversations (it’s not just physical!)
• How the “Dominator Culture” we’re socialized in shows up in our self-talk and relationships 
• Why men will likely grieve differently from women
• The patterns/imbalances that may become prevalent in relationships between men and women
• How Compassionate Communication can help create inner peace, as well as bring empathy and healing to relationships 
  
  
  

 

Steve Torma’s Bio: 

Steve (he/him) was born and raised on a family farm in Ashtabula, Ohio, and is a 25-year member of Earthaven Ecovillage. His ancestors are Hungarian and French Canadian.

 

Steve co-founded an intentional community in Ohio in 1980, where he lived until joining Earthaven Ecovillage in 1996. At Earthaven, he co-founded a thriving neighborhood, was president for three years, and has taught Nonviolent Communication for twelve years. In addition to his passion for community, Steve co-managed a natural foods co-op for 10 years, ran his own traveling bookstore business for over 20 years, and now teaches Nonviolent Communication and other relationship and community building skills through The REAL Center, which he co-founded in 2009. 

 

As a lifelong peace, justice, and ecology educator and activist with over 40 years of community living, Steve has sought to integrate personal and social transformation in his own life, in the communities where he lives, and in the larger society. His passion for integral living and thinking has led him to study and experiment with a wide range of spiritualities, psychological systems, and social theories as they relate to creating a more just and sustainable world.

 

Steve has taught Nonviolent Communication for a variety of intentional communities, organizations, and regional gatherings, including Celo Community, The Mountain Retreat Center, Firefly Gathering, Southeast Permaculture Gathering, Organic Growers School, Kinnection Campout, LovEvolution Gathering, Compassion Camp, and many others.

 

Steve’s Website: http://therealcenter.org/

Seve’s Email: steve@therealcenter.org

 

 

The Resources We Reference:

• Book: The Chalice & The Blade by Riane Eisler: https://rianeeisler.com/the-chalice-and-the-blade-our-history-our-future/
  
  
• Books: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenburg (and related books through PuddleDancer Press): https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/shop/ 
  
• The Mankind Project: https://mankindproject.org/
  
  
• NVC Asheville: https://www.nvcasheville.com/ 
  
•  Earthaven Ecovillage: https://www.earthaven.org/
  
  

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If you’re curious as to what support might look like for you on your journey, here are some next steps to explore:

1. Get on the Birth Warrior Mailing List to receive inspiration and resources for your emotional healing. You’ll also be the first to learn about upcoming workshops and Healing Circles. AND you get two bonus gifts lovingly created by me when you sign up!  https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0

 

2. Schedule a Free Consultation Call to get clarity on what next steps can help with your healing and pregnancy journey. This entire journey can be so tough, and you do not have to feel overwhelmed, defeated, or alone. You’ve been through enough, warrior! And you are so much stronger with the right support! Book a complimentary call via this link: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/20min

 

 

3. Book an Emotional Release Session to identify where emotions are being stored in the body and to release them using gentle techniques that are a part of your body's blueprint. Sessions are a paced, meditative experience, with the results being quite profound. You can receive support with any emotions you’re struggling with, including, releasing fears and anxiety, releasing grief, creating a more loving connection with the body, increasing forgiveness and self-forgiveness, etc. 

 

Learn more or book your session here: https://www.nataleefacey.com/emotional-release

LEARN MORE ABOUT ME

>> Learn more about who I am and why I love to do this work at nataleefacey.com 

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>> On Instagram: @thebirthwarriors 

>> Via Email: hello@nataleefacey.com 

If you’re currently pregnant and feel as though you’re holding fear and anxiety in your body, this month’s workshop is for you. Two sessions are being held: the first on Weds, Jul 20 at 7PM ET is for pregnant women/people and the second on Sat, Jul 30 at 1PM ET for pregnant women/people and expectant parents in general (invite your partner!). 

 

In this recording, I share the impact or potential impact of fear and anxiety on your body, your pregnancy, your baby, and your confidence as a parent…and the tools you’ll learn in the workshop to remedy these.  

HERE’S WHAT WE'LL COVER IN THE WORKSHOP:

 

1. Learn practices for reducing the impact of anxiety and fear on the body and baby

 

2. Have your questions answered on navigating pregnancy after loss. These might include:

- anticipating and overcoming triggers

- advocating for yourself, your partner, and your baby during medical care

- building your birthing team

- empowering your partner to support you

- ways to connect with your baby, etc.

 

3. Learn tools to prepare the body, mind, and spirit for an empowered, more easeful birth

 

4. For Dads / Birthing partners: Learn ways to best support your partner during pregnancy and childbirth and overcome specific triggers that might come up for you

BONUS: Make connections with other expectant families who are on a similar journey

 

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If you’re curious about other ways to receive support, here are some next steps to explore:

1. Get on the Birth Warrior Mailing List to receive inspiration and resources for your emotional healing. You’ll also be the first to learn about upcoming workshops and Healing Circles. AND you get two bonus gifts lovingly created by me when you sign up!  https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0

2. Schedule a Free Consultation Call to get clarity on what next steps can help with your healing and pregnancy journey. This entire journey can be so tough, and you do not have to feel overwhelmed, defeated, or alone. You’ve been through enough, warrior! And you are so much stronger with the right support! Book a complimentary call via this link: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/20min

3. Learn More About “Rebirth,” my group course kicking off again later this year. This will support you in diving even deeper into your healing and giving birth to a more powerful you. Learn more about Rebirth Here: https://www.nataleefacey.com/rebirth. And let’s chat to see if the program is a good fit for you: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/rebirth-discovery

LEARN MORE

>> Learn more about who I am and why I love to do this work at nataleefacey.com 

SAY HELLO

>> On Instagram: @thebirthwarriors 

>> Via Email: hello@nataleefacey.com 

In this episode, Rada, a client of mine, reflects on our time working together and the impact that had on her pregnancy journey, inner healing, and her relationships.  

 

She shares:

- Feeling discouraged to try again after her losses even though she wanted to grow her family

- The difference between listening to the podcast and being in a session

- The different tools and practices we used during her IVF, pregnancy, and postpartum journey

- Ways that she’s changed as a result of her inner healing

- How her inner healing has impacted her relationship with her family 

 

Thank you again for sharing your story, Rada!

 

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If you’re curious as to what support might look like for you on your journey, here are some next steps to explore:

 

1. Subscribe to the Birth Warrior Mailing List to receive inspiration and resources for your emotional healing. You’ll also be the first to learn about upcoming workshops and Healing Circles. AND you get two bonus gifts lovingly created by me when you sign up!  https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0

 

2. Attend this Month's Workshop on "Thriving in Your Pregnancy After Loss." This is being offered in 2 sessions: on Weds, July 20th at 7PM - 8:30PM ET for women/femmes who are currently pregnant  and on Sat, July 30th at 1PM - 2:30PM ET for expectant parents. The workshop will provide the tools to release the impact of fear and anxiety on your body and baby, and prepare for an empowering birth. Learn More or RSVP at https://www.nataleefacey.com/events 

 

3. Schedule a Free Consultation Call to get clarity on what next steps can help with your healing and pregnancy journey. This entire journey can be so tough, and you do not have to feel overwhelmed, defeated, or alone. You’ve been through enough, warrior! And you are so much stronger with the right support! Book a complimentary call via this link: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/20min

 

4. Learn More About “Rebirth,” my group course kicking off again later this year. This will support you in diving even deeper into your healing and giving birth to a more powerful you. Learn more about Rebirth Here: https://www.nataleefacey.com/rebirth. And let’s chat to see if the program is a good fit for you: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/rebirth-discovery

LEARN MORE

>> Learn more about who I am and why I love to do this work at nataleefacey.com 

SAY HELLO

>> On Instagram: @thebirthwarriors 

>> Via Email: hello@nataleefacey.com 

I had the pleasure of working with Tia during her pregnancy as her “space-holder,” resource-connector, co-strategist, and emotional healing guide. I’ve been excited to share our follow-up conversation because Tia’s story is such a powerful example of what’s possible when pregnancy and birth are supported by community—family, friends, and professionals who are equally competent as they are caring. 

 

It’s a model that doesn’t simply center the pregnant / birthing person, but also makes them the director of their experience, and at the same time, allows them to feel safe enough, held enough so that they can surrender to the process. 

 

The magic that unfolded in Tia’s birth is typically reserved for fantasies. But it was real and it came after a fair amount of self-advocacy and intentionality. 

 

I also want to acknowledge that when you’ve gone through a loss or fertility challenges, it may feel safer to go with the hospital care we’ve learned to accept as the norm. But if you’ve been finding that unsatisfactory, I hope Tia’s story will spark ideas for the alternatives you have access to regardless of who you choose to be on your birthing team and where you choose to birth.

 

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Tia and I discuss:

- Challenges she experienced receiving care within the hospital model

- The ways she advocated for herself amidst push-back

- Choosing a midwife and homebirth

- Feeling supported by “prayers, friends, and angels” as she welcomed her baby earth-side

 

Links & Resources We Reference:

- Bronx (Re)Birth & Progress: www.instagram.com/bxrebirthcollective 

- Midwife Nubia-Earth Martin: https://birthfromtheearth.vpweb.com/ 

- Birth Doula, Jazzmin Brown: https://www.instagram.com/birthingfarah/ 

Tia’s Bio:

Tia DeShazor works in the performing arts as an actor, writer of musicals, and career coach for artists. She’s also the co-founder of BOLD, an organization for Black Women in the Performing Arts. Originally from Detroit, she currently lives in Harlem with her husband CK Edwards and baby Lexington. Learn more about her at tiadeshazor.com.  

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And if you’d like support in your emotional healing, here are ways I can help:

1. Get on the Birth Warrior Mailing List to receive inspiration and resources for your emotional healing. You’ll also be the first to learn about upcoming workshops and Healing Circles. AND you get two bonus gifts lovingly created by me when you sign up!  https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0

 

2. Work 1:1 with me for your emotional healing or to gently guide you through a conception to childbirth plan for your next pregnancy. Pregnancy after loss or infertility is tough, and you do not have to feel overwhelmed or alone. You’ve been through enough, warrior! And you are so much stronger with the right support! Book a complimentary strategy call with me to help you get clarity for the next phase of your journey: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/20min

 

3. Learn More About “Rebirth,” my group course kicking off again later this year. This will support you in diving even deeper into your healing and giving birth to a more powerful you. Learn more about Rebirth Here: https://www.nataleefacey.com/rebirth. And let’s chat to see if the program is a good fit for you: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/rebirth-discovery

LEARN MORE

>> Learn more about who I am and why I love to do this work at nataleefacey.com 

SAY HELLO

>> On Instagram: @thebirthwarriors 

>> Via Email: hello@nataleefacey.com