Ep. 21: The Compulsive Server-Friend: People Pleaser or Well-Rounded Helper?

Getting help for perfectionism, control issues, work addiction, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) isn't easy, but it can be life-changing. Having some idea of what types of treatment are available, and how to best use your time once you get into therapy can make it easier to find you way in, and to make it more effective. This two-part episode includes "What is the Best Psychotherapy for OCPD" and "How Does Therapy for OCPD Actually Work," and offers guidance in your search for help.  If you can put your obsessive and compulsive tendencies into service for change, you can make your life much more fulfilling. 

What if you had been taken over by a part of your personality, a part of your personality that was meant to help you, but had become a tyrant? Join us for an interview with "Obsessive-Compulsive," also known as OCom, as we explore how to make the best use of this driven part of you. Playful, yet at the same time serious, this episode describes an example of parts work, experiential, psychological work that gets past the conflict between reason and feeling that we too often run into when trying to change. 

How comfortable you feel with people can affect whether personality traits such as perfectionism and a need for order and control are used in a healthy or unhealthy way. Join us for an exploration of how these two aspects of personality affect each other, citing research and a case example. 

Guilt complexes can be limiting, disturbing, and suffocating. But they can also keep us out of trouble. Join us for an exploration of how to make your guilt complex more adaptive and less oppressive, while learning one of the newest and most powerful techniques in psychotherapy.  

Ever wonder how you got to be who you are? And what you would need to do to change? The answer is not as simple as it's often made out to be. Join us for this episode of The Healthy Compulsive Project Podcast as we explore the deeper dynamics of personality development. 

The need to turn chaos into order is one of the deepest narratives of the obsessive-compulsive personality. Based on an ancient story found in many of the world's cultures, it can lead to a meaningful life, or a life filled with demands and frustrations. Awareness of this constantly running background program can help us to make better decisions about when to fight and when to let go. 

Self-compassion has now been shown to be very effective in raising self-worth without the dangers that perfectionism can cause. Having compassion for our shortcomings actually helps us to be more effective and more successful. Join us for this episode on how to achieve self-compassion, with both examples and supporting psychological research. 

How you handle anxiety is one of the main factors that determine whether your obsessive-compulsive personality works for you or against you. Most people have some anxiety, some just handle it better than others. You’ve got determination and drive, but if your anxiety drives you rather than your passion driving you, you’re going to be white-knuckling it for a long time. Join me for an exploration of how to handle anxiety and the fears that lie beneath it.

Work can be a nightmare or one of the most satisfying aspects of our lives--depending on our motivation and attitude toward it. If it is a source of mastery and accomplishment for us it can be fulfilling. But if we use it to avoid feelings it will not be satisfying and can even lead us to burnout. 

Even once you've begun to channel your obsessive-compulsive tendencies more constructively, you will be faced with triggers, circumstances that have the potential to make you react in ways you regret. This episode explores just what triggers are, offers examples, and offers tools to help you manage them more wisely.