Ep. 27: Is Your Competitive Side Holding You Back?: Coaching Katie Kozel

Does no longer needing to fight mean you’ve become boring or uninteresting? 

Can only the fight and grit keep people’s attention in your business? Or can calm be interesting too?

I wasn’t expecting to go here, but we did. On this week’s episode I invited Ashley Kruse, a dear friend and member of Emotional Leadership, to join me for a coaching session. Here’s the thing though - she’s coaching me! And in true Ashley fashion, it was a surprising yet beautiful and really profound coaching session. Join us for this discussion on what comes after the grit, whether I can embrace the good stuff calling me forward, and why at first the idea of not fighting completely messes me up. 

We’re exploring: 

• Why you might be holding back the wave of good that’s ready for you
• Feeling more comfortable with the struggle than with success
• The fear of becoming boring if life starts getting easy
• A new season of Soft Leadership & how I’m leaning in
• What I’m committing to doing moving forward in my own work 
• Details on Emotional Leadership starting soon!
• And more
  
  

Connect with Ashley: 

Website: https://www.embracingtheuncertain.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embracingtheuncertain/

To find out more about The Emotional Leadership Program (starting April 11, 2023!) and all my work, dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/ 

Are you feeling stuck when it comes to your business? 

Maybe you’re feeling uninspired or inconsistent when it comes to showing up? 

Well, you’re not alone, friend. And today’s coaching session might be the breakthrough you’re needing to feel inspired, to get unstuck, and to start showing up consistently with passion!

Today, I’m excited to welcome Karen. She’s an anti-diet dietician and intuitive eating coach who’s hoping today’s session can help propel her forward in her business in regards to strategy, consistency, and connecting with her ideal client. But what starts as a session around her business quickly turns into something different, a direction neither of us was expecting. So, join us today for this quick but powerful session and find out what’s blocking Karen’s creativity and passion. Could it be what’s got you feeling stuck as well? 

We’re exploring: 

• Why Karen feels stuck: Is it the pressure & restraints of consistency or something else?
• What she’s burnt out on: It’s not what she thinks at first! 
• The feeling of not-enoughness that results from comparison & how to counter it
• What happens to me when I stop doing my own practices & where it shows up
• A simple, quick exercise for releasing pent up anger & why releasing it is crucial
• And much more with Karen!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/ 

It’s so common in business & it happens all the time in the coaching world, but NO ONE is talking about it publicly. 

Until NOW! 

Today, Dr. Taryn Weil, the Ultimate Hype Girl, joins me to bravely share about her experience with this very thing. Taryn combines her background in occupational therapy, holistic coaching, nature-based healing, and trauma-informed care to empower creatives and entrepreneurs through life + business coaching. She does this work beautifully, but the growth got away from her. So, join us today for this NECESSARY conversation & come learn the warning signs you can watch out for in your own business. This is a MUST listen! 

We’re exploring: 

• What to do when your overhead becomes SO high, SO fast

• The marketing fallacies that MANY fall for & how YOU can spot them

• Our advice for business owners on how to stay in the game long-term

• Taryn’s experience with starting & growing her business & where she’s at now

• What’s really behind the recent explosion of 100k clients - Is it OK to charge that?

• Honesty with numbers & we’re sharing ours! 

• Plus SO much more!

Connect with Taryn to learn more about her private + group coaching containers and the retreats she offers around the world!
Website: www.drtarynweil.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/drtarynweil

Are you looking to have more of these conversations? Then, please reach out! 

I have a few 1:1 spots available for direct mentorship and we’re now currently enrolling for Emotional Leadership, our year long trauma business awareness certification program. Find out more below!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

What should you do when your client decides to compete with you? 

Or, are you the client and you know it’s time to part ways with your coach? What should you say? 

This can be a hard conversation to have, but it does come with the territory of having relationships. And today, my former & current client, Ellie Barclay, who supports entrepreneurs & founders to harness their genius so they can go ALL in on their life & business, is joining me for this discussion. The two of us had this exact conversation not too long ago when Ellie decided to let me go as her coach. So, tune in to find out how it went! 

We’re exploring: 

• How to know it’s time to part ways with your coach

• What leadership looks like when your client wants to leave (It’s not what you think!)

• Why coaching is SO effective & what it’s designed to amplify

• If it’s OK that clients want to leave? What does it mean? Should you adjust? 

• Who holds more responsibility in the completion conversation to ensure its *clean*?

• What will automatically cause a trauma response within this conversation

• Why Ellie decided to complete & then return to coaching with me

• And much more! 

Connect with Ellie for her 1:1 coaching: https://www.ellie-barclay.com/ or follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/EllieVBarclay 

I have a few spots left for my 1:1 coaching starting in March & I’m currently enrolling for my Emotional Leadership program. Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/ 

As leaders it can be scary to admit a change is necessary. You set out to do something new, announce it publicly, and then feel pressure to stick with it, despite knowing it’s not right. But in life, in business, and in relationships, change is expected. In this week’s episode, I’m pulling from my own life and the recent changes I’ve had to make and I’m letting you in on the details. It’s not easy, but if you set out to stay aligned with your integrity, you just might find that making those hard decisions and having those hard conversations can change your life for the better. It’s all about alignment and change this week. It can be sticky, but it can be so good! So, let’s dive in! 

I’m exploring: 

• How I decided a change in my recent program was necessary and what about the program felt misaligned with my integrity
• The positive outcomes I’ve experienced since making this uncomfortable decision
• If, as a leader, you’re allowed to change direction and what it means if you do
• How the fear of judgment can keep you misaligned in your business and life
• Questions to ask yourself about your alignment
• What to do after you’ve accepted that a change is required

And so much more!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/ 

Have you given thought to what the main components are in successful leadership? What do you really need to bring to the table to be an effective leader? There are a lot of different ideas on what skills you should master, and today I am sharing what I see as the four main things you need to thrive.  In this solo episode, I offer a lot to think about and some questions you can ask yourself about how you can grow your own leadership skills!  

We’re Exploring:

• The one component you need to be successful at the other three
• How therapy models can differ from coaching models and what that key difference accomplishes
• What it really takes to make someone a great teacher, and how you can incorporate these traits into your teaching
• The ways in which ALL leaders are really coaches and why coaching skills are so important
• How facilitation can be used in many areas of both our professional and personal lives
• Using your understanding of trauma responses and others’ emotions to be a better leader
• Why it is so important to always be growing and learning

And so much more!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/ 

Are you wanting more discipline and not quite sure what’s getting in your way?

Finding it hard to get back into those good habits you used to be so consistent with? 

This is SO common and today’s guest knows all about it. 

Join me today for a coaching session with my friend, Benjamin Lapean. He’s a corporate recruiter within the market research industry. He enjoys writing, performing, and gaming in his free time, but he’s struggling to get back into pre-COVID habits like stretching, meditating, and moving his body. We’re taking a look at what might be keeping him from jumping back in, why he’s resisting offers to help, and what he can do to start adding more discipline back into his life. 

We’re exploring: 

• How discipline gives you freedom
• Doing as a way to cope with tension & trauma
• A body work exercise: Using breath work to connect with areas of tension
• Motivation: Are you motivated by external or internal forces? 
• Taking the end goal out of the equation & focussing on the next step ONLY
• Separating self-care from work (They’re different things!)
• And much more with Benjamin!

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

What should you do when your client is pulling back or looking for a way out? Should you let them go? 

What if you’re the client and the container isn’t what you thought it would be and you want out? Should you ghost them? Confront them? 

This is what I’m getting into today: How to show up as a client AND as a leader when it just doesn’t seem to be working out. I recently went through this with a student and in a beautiful turn of events, that’s exactly who’s joining me for this conversation today. Corrie Taylor is the founder of Kanika Therapy: a revolutionary bone and belief trauma release modality, she’s the Alchemical Medicine Woman and Body of Business Embodiment Coach, and she’s a client of mine in the Emotional Leadership Program. Corrie is here to share her story of how and why the program wasn’t working for her and what she did about it that benefited BOTH of us (and our clients!). 

We’re exploring: 

• What to do when clients get triggered & our advice for both sides
• How to face unforeseen logistical & emotional obstacles
• Why you shouldn’t be paying someone you don’t feel safe with
• What’s allowing Corrie’s clients to go deeper than ever before
• Why you can celebrate the rupture & repair
• Questions to ask yourself if you start to feel yourself wanting to retreat
• And much more with Corrie!

Check out the Kanika Modality Training here: www.corrietaylor.com/alchemyacademy

Find Corrie on Instagram here: https://instagram.com/corriejaecollective 

Or join her radically powerful OWN IT group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ownitlikeanempress/?ref=share

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/ 

I'm bringing back another coaching session where we flip the script and I get coached. Today, I’m joined by Rachel “Rae” Halder. Rae is a somatic trauma resolution practitioner with a mystical and energetic approach to healing. She weaves natural elements and sexuality into her unique methods and she’s here today to guide me with my own trauma work. It’s rare for me to feel this comfortable, but something about Rae’s work and her energy excites me. Join us for this deep dive session into the all or nothing mentality, what that brings up for me, and how Rae helps guide me to find the gray area, that middle ground. If you find yourself needing high stress, emergency situations to get work done, let’s get into it! We’re digging into that and much more on today’s episode, let’s get started!

We’re exploring: 

• The feeling of imbalance and instability in the body and the world 
• Patterns that persist when the pressure is on
• The lies we tell ourselves about what makes a person good and successful
• Breaking down the need to “save the world” (does it even need saving?)
• What to do with our fight mode and when we should access it 
• A helpful metaphor for slowing down and tending to what’s needed in the moment 
• And much more!

Find out more about Rae’s work at https://www.assanarae.com/work-with-me/rebirthed-and-rooted/, on IG https://www.instagram.com/erotic.earth.embodiment/ or on FB www.facebook.com/raehalder

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/

How can you step out of the student role and into your leadership while still growing and learning? Are you ready to move past seeking out knowledge only from outside sources and begin to look within? 

This is what I’m diving into today and I’m welcoming Haley Reese to join me and share from her experience on moving past student mode and stepping into her leadership. Haley is a friend and a client and an amazing coach to perfectionist-leaning, overachieving women who have big, bold, and maybe unconventional dreams but are looking to start enjoying their life and break the pattern of overworking their way to burnout. Haley is opening up about her experience within the Emotional Leadership program and you won’t want to miss her beautiful insights on how she’s now able to look within for the answers she’s seeking, acknowledge her skills, and honor ALL that she has to offer. 

We’re exploring:

• What student mode looked like in Haley’s life & business and how perfectionism played into it
• Why burnout isn’t necessary to build the life you want
• How the Emotional Leadership program differs from other certifications & what Haley’s biggest takeaways are 
• Why staying a forever student keeps you in your comfort zone & how to get out
• Learning from a place of desire v. searching for the missing piece (And why it’s a myth!)
• How to weave your big vision & day-to-day life together
• And much more with Haley!

Connect with Haley:

Website: www.haleyreese.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/haley.rg

Instagram: instagram.com/haley.rise

Sign up the Emotional Leadership program here: https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/the-emotional-leadership-certification

Find out more about my work and dive in at https://jenunderwoodleadership.com/ or come shoot me a message on IG! https://www.instagram.com/jenunderwoodleadership/