EP 90: A Self-Worth Conversation with My Mom with Dr. Kumea Shorter-Gooden

I deeply believed that I was unlovable for years and the biggest challenge I had on my journey to embracing my unconditional self-worth was believing that I’m lovable and letting go of the belief that I needed a partner to prove that I was worthy. 

I wonder if you’ve ever struggled with the same thing?

I want you to know that you’re not alone in what can be a sometimes painful journey and that there are things you can do to turn your journey to finding love beautiful and empowered just like mine was in the end. 

Tune in to hear the nitty gritty of my struggles in love and how I triumphantly created my happily ever after. 

IN THIS EPISODE, I TALK ABOUT…

• How my belief that I was unlovable impacted my dating and relationships. 
• My rock bottom experience in my journey to love. 
• How I made internal shifts to finally be ready for the love and partnership I desired. 
• How claiming my worth changed the game. 
• How I’m living my happily ever after. 
• And more! 

This episode is also a bit of a farewell as I pause the podcast indefinitely. As a way to honor ending this chapter of the podcast I would love to hear from you about how the podcast has impacted your life. Please email me at info@dradiagooden.com to share your stories with me. You can also leave a rating or review on Apple podcasts or DM me on Instagram (@dradiagooden) or LinkedIn.

Lastly, if you want to be sure to stay connected, join my email list by signing up for my FREE Guide on Preparing for the Relationship You Want.

Relevant Resources:

FREE Guide: Preparing for the Relationship You Want

https://dradiagooden.com/relationship

New Program: Black Women Claiming Their Worth & Finding Love 

Email me at info@dradiagooden.com to learn more about my new coaching program to help high achieving professional Black women claim their worth and find love. 

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Have you ever been left waiting for what you wanted? Maybe it was waiting for a promotion, waiting for love, waiting for a baby. I think we all go through waiting periods in our lives and if you’re anything like me, it can be hard to wait. 

I want you to know that you’re not alone in your waiting. At some point this summer (I’m not sure exactly when), I got put in a metaphorical waiting room. 

I didn’t know that I was being put in a waiting room and just like my toddler does when we ask her to do something she doesn’t want to do, I went kicking and screaming. 

In this episode of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast, I’m sharing about my experience struggling with and eventually accepting and learning from a waiting period in my life. This episode will help you think constructively about your own times of waiting so that they can be transformative in your life. 

IN THIS EPISODE, I TALK ABOUT…

• What it felt like to be in a metaphorical waiting room.  
• The gifts of waiting.  
• The lessons that I learned from my time of waiting.  
• Questions to ask yourself when you are in a period of waiting. 
• And more! 

Relevant Resources:

Email me at dradia@dradiagooden.com to learn more about my new coaching program to help high achieving professional Black women in their 30s and 40s claim their worth and find love. 

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This has been a hard year for me. Not all bad by any measure but definitely hard. 

I started the year out with big goals and plans for my business and met very few of them. 

My themes for this year were fun and ease and, ironically, I struggled with both of those things. 

I experienced the resurgence of self-worth challenges that I thought I had resolved and was reminded of the ongoing nature of our self-worth journeys. 

In this episode of the Unconditionally Worthy Podcast, I’m sharing this with you because I want to be open and honest about my own self-worth journey, not just where I’ve been (there are many episodes where I’ve shared that) but where I am now and how I’m moving through the challenging periods in my life. 

IN THIS EPISODE, I TALK ABOUT…

• The challenges I navigated this year. 
• How I moved through these challenges. 
• What helped me to ground myself in my unconditional self-worth during challenging times. 
• Pausing the podcast indefinitely. 

Relevant Resources:

Dr. Adia’s Free E-Book: 4 Practices to Connect with Your Unconditional Self-Worth

https://dradiagooden.com/freee-book/

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So many of us struggle with perfectionism. Women in particular are socialized to believe that being perfect makes us worthy. If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent years trying to be perfect in all the ways you could think of (academically, professionally, in friendships, in romantic relationships, etc.). After pursuing perfectionism for long enough we are left exhausted and disconnected from the things that used to bring joy into our life. 

I want to encourage you, one recovering perfectionist to another, that there is another way. That’s exactly what my guest on this episode of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast and I are talking about. I’m joined by Dr. Rebecca Hubbard a licensed clinical psychologist, Kemetic Yoga instructor, former student athlete, and recovering perfectionist.

Listen in as Dr. Rebecca shares about her  own self-worth journey, how she is releasing perfectionism and how both of us are avoiding the traps of pursuing perfection as new moms. 

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…

• The problem with perfectionism.  
• How to slow down and lean into the messy middle of life.
• The miracle of being alive. 
• Lessons from being new moms.
• How therapy helps us to engage in a process of being.  
• and more!

Relevant Resources:

Sign up for Dr. Rebecca’s Newsletter 

www.groundedwellnessllc.com

Dr. Adia’s Free E-Book: 4 Practices to Connect with Your Unconditional Self-Worth

https://dradiagooden.com/freee-book/

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To connect further with Dr. Rebecca Hubbard:

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grounded.wellness.living/

Check out her website: www.groundedwellnessllc.com

To connect further with me:

Visit my website: https://www.dradiagooden.com 

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Intergenerational trauma is something that impacts most of us whether we know it or not. The trauma that our mothers experienced when we were in their wombs impacts us, the trauma that their mothers experienced impacted them and on and on and on. While it can be discouraging to consider the trauma that has impacted so many people in our lineage, it is empowering to know that we can heal intergenerational trauma and to remember the strength that we can draw from our ancestors. Healing intergenerational trauma is about what we do in our own lives to break the cycle and how we change things for future generations. 

In this episode of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast I’m joined by Dr. Mariel Buqué who is a psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and author. 

Listen in as Dr. Mariel shares about how imposter syndrome was a big factor in her own self-worth journey and shares her deep wisdom and practical insights on how we can heal intergenerational trauma. 

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…

• What intergenerational trauma is.  
• How to heal intergenerational trauma.
• Why it’s important to invite in grief. 
• Imposter syndrome.
• Drawing on intergenerational strength.  
• and more!

Relevant Resources:

Sign up for Dr. Mariel Buqué’s newsletter and receive a free guide on 21 Healing Practices

https://www.drmarielbuque.com/newsletter

Dr. Adia’s Free E-Book: 4 Practices to Connect with Your Unconditional Self-Worth

https://dradiagooden.com/freee-book/

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To connect further with Dr. Mariel Buqué and purchase her book:

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.marielbuque/

Check out her website: https://www.drmarielbuque.com/

Buy her forthcoming book: Break the Cycle -  https://sites.prh.com/breakthecyclebook

To connect further with me:

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Have you been trying to avoid failure and disappointment and ended up living on the sidelines of life? Have you been so worried about the opinions of others or caught up in people pleasing that you have become disconnected from the desires of your heart? 

I know these are deep questions but they are so important to wrestle with if we want to claim our worth, design our lives, and start living full out. This is exactly what my guest and I talk about on this episode of Unconditionally Worthy. Jamila Reddy, a transformational coach, intuitive guide, writer, and breath work facilitator is my guest on this week’s episode and I can’t wait for you to listen to our powerful conversation and see the shifts it helps you to make in your life.  

Listen in as we discuss how to design a life that you truly desire, cultivating practices to tolerate disappointment so you can get out on the field of life and play full out, and how breath work helped Jamila move through deep grief. 

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…

• What it means to design your life.  
• How designing your life is an act of claiming your worth.
• Why joy is not optional. 
• How breathwork helped Jamila move through intense grief.
• How to deal with disappointment.  
• and more!

Relevant Resources:

Enroll to the Date Yourself course: 4 Weeks to a Healthy Relationship With You www.unconditionallyworthy.com/dateyourself

Jamila’s Breathwork Course 

https://jamilareddy.me/courses/breathworkandmeditation

Dr. Adia’s Free E-Book: 4 Practices to Connect with Your Unconditional Self-Worth

https://dradiagooden.com/freee-book/

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To connect further with Jamila:

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamilareddy/

Check out her website: https://jamilareddy.me/

To connect further with me:

Visit my website: https://www.dradiagooden.com 

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Do you feel disconnected from yourself? Have you spent so much time and energy doing what other people want that you no longer feel connected to what you truly desire? This is a common experience for so many of us, women in particular. In this episode of the podcast we are going to explore how this happens and show you how to reconnect with yourself. 

In this episode of Unconditionally Worthy, I welcome Mohini Gima who is an educator, facilitator, guide, and speaker. 

Listen in as we discuss how we become disconnected from ourselves and the simple practices that help us to reconnect with ourselves and embody our self-worth. Mohini share’s her story of pursuing a “dream” life and then dismantling the life she had created when she realized that it was misaligned. She shares how she courageously created a life that affirms her worth and fulfills her desires. 

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…

• Mohini’s self-worth journey and how she went from a life that looked great on the outside but felt miserable on the inside to a life that feels good from the inside out. 
• Three signs that you are disconnected from yourself.  
• Five practices to help you reconnect with yourself and embody unconditional self-worth. 
• and more!

Relevant Resources:

Enroll to the Date Yourself course: 4 Weeks to a Healthy Relationship With You: www.unconditionallyworthy.com/dateyourself

Mohini’s Free Guidebook: Voice of Your Womb https://mohinigima.ck.page/voiceofyourwombguidebook

Dr. Adia’s Free E-Book: 4 Practices to Connect with Your Unconditional Self-Worth https://dradiagooden.com/freee-book/

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To connect further with Mohini:

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iammohinigima/

To connect further with me:

Visit my website: https://www.dradiagooden.com 

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Read the show notes and transcript here: https://dradiagooden.com/episodearchive/94

Do you have beliefs about yourself and your life that keep you stuck? Do you find yourself longing to do something bigger with your life or break out of your comfort zone but continually feel pulled back into old habits and patterns? Well, you may be experiencing the effects of limiting beliefs in your life. In this episode of Unconditionally Worthy, I welcome Jennifer Standish, author, and personal transformation expert. Listen in as we have a candid discussion about the most common limiting beliefs, how claiming our worth can dismantle those beliefs, and the importance of giving yourself permission to change your mind. 

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…

• Jennifer’s self-worth journey: the impact of being raised by a narcissistic mother and her own divorce.
• The three most common limiting beliefs: “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t fail” and “I must please everyone. 
• Limiting beliefs both Jennifer and Dr. Adia have navigated. 
• Practical strategies for overcoming limiting beliefs. 
• and more!

Relevant Resources:

Enroll to the Date Yourself course: 4 Weeks to a Healthy Relationship With You: www.unconditionallyworthy.com/dateyourself

Claim your free e-guide: How to Overcome Low Self-Worth & Imposter Syndrome: www.dradiagooden.com/impostersyndrome

Permission Granted: Live Your Life Full of Joy and Peace by Jennifer Standish https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Granted-Live-Your-Peace/dp/1955272662

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Connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferstandish/

To connect further with me:

Visit my website: https://www.dradiagooden.com 

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• Wendy’s self-worth journey: Childhood and community being her biggest influence.
• Jessica’s self-worth journey: The impact of never having a Black teacher to look up to.
• The connection between your relationship with yourself and food.
• Tips for developing body trust and improving your relationship with food.
• What is a socially and culturally responsive approach to food/diet/nutrition?
• The harms of diet culture and nutrition guidelines on Black women and women of color.
• How unhealthy relationships with food can be rooted in slavery or poverty.
• My framework for Black self-compassion.
• and more!

Resources Mentioned:

Enroll to the Date Yourself course: 4 Weeks to a Healthy Relationship With You: www.unconditionallyworthy.com/dateyourself

Claim your free e-guide: How to Overcome Low Self-Worth & Imposter Syndrome: www.dradiagooden.com/impostersyndrome

Listen to The Food Heaven Podcast - How to Cultivate Self-Compassion with Dr. Adia Gooden: https://foodheavenmadeeasy.com/how-to-cultivate-self-compassion-w-adia-gooden

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• Visit their website: https://foodheavenmadeeasy.com
• Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foodheaven

• Visit my website: https://www.dradiagooden.com 
• Connect with me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dradiagooden 
• Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradiagooden 
• Connect with me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adia-gooden-4b26751b 

Watch the full interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/612ZcJeUNaY
Read the show notes and transcript here: https://dradiagooden.com/episodearchive/92

This episode was produced by Crys & Tiana.
Learn more at https://www.crysandtiana.com. 

Do you struggle with public speaking? Do you want to learn how to speak up and feel worthy of using your voice in powerful ways? If so, stop scrolling and click play! In this episode of The Unconditionally Worthy Podcast, I welcome Samara Bay, a Speech Advisor/Coach and Best-Selling Author of “Permission to Speak: How to Change What Power Sounds Like, Starting With You”. Listen in to learn how you can start tapping into the power of your voice and feel worthy before, during, and after a public speaking opportunity.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT…

• Samara’s self-worth journey: Trying to make it as an actress, losing her voice in her 20s, & writing a best-selling book.
• The power of accepting affirmations: How pitching a book affirmed her self-worth.
• Tips on feeling less fearful and more confident in public speaking.
• 7 ways to start owning the power of your voice.
• How to dismantle voice bias and pursue voice justice.
• and more!

Resources Mentioned:

Samara’s 5 Minute Warmup for Public Speaking: https://www.samarabay.com/goodies

The Art of Being Yourself (TEDx Talk) by Caroline McHugh: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=veEQQ-N9xWU

NEW OFFER: Claim your FREE guide, How to Overcome Low Self-Worth & Imposter Syndrome: www.dradiagooden.com/impostersyndrome

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To connect further with Samara Bay:

• Visit her website: https://www.samarabay.com
• Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samarabay

To connect further with me:

• Visit my website: https://www.dradiagooden.com 
• Connect with me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dradiagooden 
• Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradiagooden 
• Connect with me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adia-gooden-4b26751b 

Watch the full interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Xg3AE80PH1M

Read the show notes and transcript here: https://dradiagooden.com/episodearchive/91

This episode was produced by Crys & Tiana.

Learn more at https://www.crysandtiana.com.