EP18: Dealing with Fear, Guilt, Shame & Loneliness for Men

Main Topics: Purpose, Direction, Leadership, Emotions. Father Wound, 4 Masculine Archetypes

 

Alexander is a Men's Transformational Coach, NCS qualified counsellor, Yoga Teacher, Meditation Teacher and founder of ‘The Unmasked Man’.

 

He has sat with hundreds of men all over the world helping them to unmask the man within and to shed light on the unconscious boy. He is deeply passionate and dedicated to guiding men to step into their power and fulfil their potential. Leading through embodiment, Alexander has overcome many struggles on his journey, enabling him to hold space from an empathetic and relatable place. He believes that through true authenticity and vulnerability we can compassionately drop into a better relationship with ourselves and our bodies, creating a loving and grounded approach to self-healing and growth.

 

Leading The Unmasked Man Team, Alexander teaches online and in-person men's trainings, events and retreats throughout the U.K. and Europe.

 

Key topics include: 

⭐️ Balancing The Masculine and Feminine Energy

⭐️ Learning to Feel Our Emotions and The Importance of Releasing Them Regularly

⭐️ How Father Wounds Can Make Us Abdicate Our Leadership 

⭐️ Navigating Your Power By Surrounding Yourself With People Who Challenge You

⭐️ How Integrating Our Shadow Parts Lights The Way to Strong Leadership

⭐️ The Influence of Masculinity Norms on Men’s Emotional Well-being

⭐️ Using The Four Archetypes of Men to Find Direction and Purpose

⭐️ The Negative Impact of Boy Psychology on Men’s Lives

⭐️ Letting Go of the Boy Psychology by Growing Emotional Maturity as A Man

⭐️ The Transformational Effect of Group Work and Having a Community You Can Trust

⭐️ Focusing on Our Purpose in Life Instead of Fearing Other People’s Criticism

⭐️ Connecting to Our Authentic Self by Listening Instead of Reacting 

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

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Connect with Alexander:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/alexander_cottle/ & https://www.instagram.com/the.unmaskedman

https://www.theunmaskedman.co.uk/

 

 

Main Topics: Breakup, Dating, Mindset, Relationship, Personal Growth, Self-Improvement, Healing

 

In this week's Mini Episode, I talk about the topic of breakups and how they can be transformational events in a person's life. 

Henika is the founder of the School of Sensual Arts which invites you to uplift blocks to deeper sensuality and intimacy so that you can experience more connection, aliveness and joy in yourself, your relationships and your life! She does this by creating experiences, community and education based on authentic tantra and yoga philosophy along with a unique blend of art and psychology to offer expression to all the unspoken parts of ourselves which long to be known, heard and accepted. 

 

Henika is a first generation Indian Woman born in England and grew up in a household abundant in the ancient Indian arts and spirituality, with an ex-monk turned artist father. After studying English and French law and experiencing numbness and depression following a series of losses, she left the corporate world and returned to her roots where she spent several years living and studying tools for deeper connection in Asia, learning from incredible guides in India and the Far East. 

 

Upon returning to England, she began her studies in arts therapy and clinical psychotherapy for individuals and couples, and now combines tantra and yoga with western therapeutic guidelines to create safe spaces for transforming numbness and turning the body back online through Tantra Yoga, bodywork, embodiment and art. As an indigenous practitioner, she is also a thought leader on the topic of cultural appropriation of tantra and yoga and provides education on driving more cultural appreciation in the wellness world through her workshops, programmes and social media. Her book SENSUAL will be available for preorder from 29th February 2024!

 

Key topics include: 

⭐  The Origins of Tantra & Why Is Tantra Becoming so Popular

⭐  The Power of Rituals in All Aspects of Our Life 

⭐️  Embodying The Divine Power & Embracing Oneness With The World Around Us

⭐  Cultivating Energy, Healing, Transformation, and Growth Through Our Bodies

⭐️  Unleashing Creativity, Breaking Free from Emotional Blockages 

⭐️  The Link Between Creativity, The Ability To Self Express and Sexual Energy

⭐️  Meditating Through The Five Senses: Bridging The Gap Between Body & World

⭐️  Finding Balance by Unifying The Masculine and Feminine Energy Within Ourselves 

⭐️  The Expectations Society Puts On Men and Their Sexuality

⭐️  The Shame Around The Prostate & The Need for Sexual Liberation for Men

⭐  Mindfulness for Self-Love and Building Intimacy Within

⭐  Releasing Stress, Anxiety and Trapped Emotions Through Sex

 

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 

Connect with Henika:

Order a copy of Henika's book SENSUAL: https://schoolofsensualarts.co.uk/sensualbook

Visit School of Sensual Arts: https://schoolofsensualarts.co.uk/

Follow Henika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/henika.x/

 

Main Topics: Dating, Mindset, Relationship, Values, Emotional Intelligence

 

In this week's mini-episode, I talk about what a conscious woman is, where to meet them and who you need to be and what you need to work on as a man to meet conscious women.

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

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Main Topics: Men, Dating, Relationship, Attachment Style, Avoidant, Anxious/Avoidant Trap, Relationship Success

 

I'm doing a solo episode today inspired by conversations I have in my coaching work on the topic of avoidance in men.

I'm a recovering avoidant, it never completely disappears, it still comes up in my relationship and I still have to learn to be with it, master it, manage it. 

So, in this episode, I will talk about the aspects that have allowed me and the 100's of avoidant men I have worked with to find peace, acceptance, passion and harmony in their relationships.

Key topics include: 

⭐️ Resistance and The Fear of Dependence in Romantic Relationships as an Avoidant Man

⭐️ The Desire for Self-Reliance, Hyper-Independence and the Lone Wolf Mentality

⭐️ Dismissing Ours and Our Partner’s Emotions 

⭐️ Self-Sabotaging When Craving Intimacy But Fearing Commitment 

⭐️ Why Avoidance Causes Relationships to Break Down

⭐️ The Lack of Willingness to Lead the Relationship

⭐️ The Difficulty of Receiving Constructive Feedback in a Relationship

⭐️ Feeling Worry, Anxiety, and Anger From the Fear of Losing of Freedom 

⭐️ The Struggle of Avoidant Men to Express Love, Affection, Desire, and Excitement 

⭐️ The Overgeneralization That All Women Are the Same 

⭐️ Noticing the Signs of Our Avoidance Coming Up and Communicating Ourselves

⭐️How The Avoidant Man Can Create Relationship Success

 

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

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Main Topics: Relationship, Men, Couple, Communication, Intimacy, Experiences, Support

 

Many men that I work with come to me because their relationship is on the brink of breakdown; it has already broken down, or the connection and excitement is waning.

 

So, In this week's mini-episode, I talk about the 15 things you need to do to bring your relationship back on track and to improve it drastically.

 

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

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For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

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Main Topics: Sex, Tantra, Performance Anxiety, Premature Ejaculation, Erectile Dysfunction, Sexual Confidence, Self-Esteem

 

Dominique is a registered nurse, trauma-informed master coach, and certified Tantra educator. She believes that by blending science and spirituality, we can better understand our bodies, respect ourselves, and deepen our connections with our partners. She uses a holistic coaching approach to help harness the power of the body to master self-love, leading to the pure bliss of soulful, connected love. 

 

Dominique delves into the fascinating world of tantra, exploring its impact on intimacy, self-esteem, vulnerability and soulful love making. Her mission is to help embrace pleasure and awareness, and live life fully from a place of magic, love, and abundance.

Key topics include: 

⭐️ Sex, Intimacy and Tantra for Men

⭐️ Vulnerability, Shame and the Misconceptions and Conditionings We Have Around Sex

⭐️ Performance Anxiety and How We Can Deal With Premature Ejaculation or Erectile Dysfunction

⭐️ Creating Leadership Outside of The Bedroom So Men Can Build Confidence and Allow Women To Trust Them

⭐ Shifting from Goal-Oriented Sex to Pleasure-Focused Experience Through Tantra. 

⭐️ Mindfulness and Sexual Well-Being: Cultivating Presence and Awareness for Deeper Intimacy

⭐️ The Impact of Unhealed Trauma on the Ability to Receive Pleasure and Create Deeper Emotional Connection. 

⭐️ Building Emotional Self-Esteem to Build Stronger, Healthier Relationships.

⭐️ What it Takes To Be Multi Orgasmic

⭐️ Learning to Connect to Your Body and Let Go of The Things That Are Holding You Back from Experiencing Pleasure

⭐️ Creating a Soulful Relationship Through Soulful Love Making

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 

Connect with Dominique:

Website - https://yestantra.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/yesdvita/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/YesTantra/a

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/yestantra

Email - hello@yestantra.com

Clubhouse - @YesTantra

 

Main Topics: Dating apps, Dating, Dating Mindset

In this week's mini-episode, I talk about the group of people who are suing some dating apps and why it's not the dating apps' fault.

 

The Art of Deep Connection, Saturday, Feb 24, Covent Garden. An in-person, co-ed day of enriching your understanding and capacity to connect deeply with yourself and the opposite sex so that you can experience your intimate relationship on a level deeper than you have experienced before.:https://www.eventbrite.com/e/801271353187?aff=oddtdtcreator

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 

 

 

Main Topics: Men, Boys, Emotions, Vulnerable, Attunement, Intimacy, Trauma

 

Clementine Morrigan is a writer and public intellectual based in Montréal, Canada. She writes popular and controversial essays about culture, politics, ethics, relationships, sexuality, and trauma. 

 

This part of her life taught her a deep sense of compassion for all human beings, which is central to the work she does today. In those early days she has seen the deep suffering in and around her, but has also seen during her years in A.A. the real possibility to turn your life around. When people are given the resources, compassion and the opportunity to look at themselves without shame, condemnation and with the reassurance that their humanity is seen, people do well in this environment, and they change.

 

Key topics include: 

⭐️ Compassion for People Who Are Traumatized, In Poverty, and in Addiction

⭐️ The Real Support in A.A. From People Facing Similar Challenges to Yours  

⭐️ Our Society’s Dehumanizing View of People On the Streets 

⭐️ Child Abuse and the Lack of Compassion When People Become Dysfunctional Grown-Ups 

⭐️ The Suppressed Vulnerability in Men and the Inability To Communicate Pain Without Anger 

⭐️ The Emotional Disconnection That Young Boys, In Particular, Are Taught By Our Society

⭐️ The Deep Need of Touch in Men’s Lives Outside The Context of Sex

⭐️ The Overwhelming Nature Of Being A Man Who Is Confident and Takes Action in Sex

⭐️ Consent and The Fear of the ‘No’ in Both Sexes

⭐️ The Threat of Sexual Violence

⭐️ The World of Dating and The Fundamental Skill of Attunement With the Other Person

⭐️ The Importance of Questioning Your Beliefs and The Liberation Coming Out of It

 

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 

✅ I have just opened up registration for the upcoming February 2024 cohort of my 12-week programme “Being An Authentic Masculine Man”, AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/PVfveWhvFFeAg1zL6 

 

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

 

👉🏽 "I’m not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

 

👉🏽 “The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn’t tapped into before”

 

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

 

👉🏽 "It’s been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

 

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

 

 

 

The registration link: https://forms.gle/PVfveWhvFFeAg1zL6 

 

Connect with Clementine:

Website: https://www.clementinemorrigan.com/

Books: https://shop.clementinemorrigan.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clementinemorrigan/?hl=en

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/fucking-cancelled/id1549437914

 

Max Trombly, a dedicated Embodied Life, Love, and Relationship coach from vibrant New Orleans, Louisiana, is committed to guiding individuals towards a brighter, empowered future. As a devoted husband and the proud father of two, his mission is to elevate our potential and empower us to live with purpose, passion and depth.

 

Max, a catalyst in transformational coaching, helps clients find clarity and self-leadership, especially during challenging moments. With a track record of success stories, he aids people in discovering purpose, reigniting intimacy, and navigating the complexities of modern dating. 

His expertise stems from a decade of leading a transformational growth organization, uniquely equipping him to facilitate profound self-leadership and transformations. Furthermore, Max's own journey from divorce to deep conscious love positions him as a compassionate guide for those navigating similar challenges. 

 

His goal is to help individuals cultivate deep love through new beliefs, self-responsibility, a new embodied reality and profound awareness.

 

Key topics include: 

⭐️ Conscious and Intentional Dating 

⭐️ Choosing a Partner That Fits Your Lifestyle and Relationship Goals

⭐️ Foundational Relationship Skills to Show Up For Your Partner

⭐️ The Biggest Misconceptions of Being in a Conscious Relationship 

⭐️ Shallow Thoughts and the Never Ending Search For the Perfect Partner 

⭐️ Choosing a Partner That Will Challenge You Into New Territories

⭐️ The Nourishing Power of the Female Energy - Kindness, Compassion and Support

⭐️ How To Create a Relationship From a Place of Depth

⭐️ The Importance of Breath When Facing The Overwhelming Emotions of Life

⭐️ Working On the Big Traumas To Open Up to All Of Your Emotions As a Man

⭐️ The Value of Forgiving Your Parents And The Freedom That Comes With It

⭐️ Creating Clarity On What You Want In Life

 

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ 

For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net 

Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 

✅ I have just opened up registration for the upcoming February 2024 cohort of my 12-week programme “Being An Authentic Masculine Man”, AKA B.A.A.M.M. Register interest here: https://forms.gle/PVfveWhvFFeAg1zL6

 

 

 

🔥What other men said after being on the programme:

 

 

 

👉🏽 "I’m not the same person I was before I entered it. This program has completely changed me"

 

 

 

👉🏽 “The programme helped me to distil and strengthen learnings I had but wasn't yet able to use effectively. It unlocked a core of self-belief and positive energy I hadn’t tapped into before”

 

 

 

👉🏽 "I feel ready to create the life that I want for myself"

 

 

 

👉🏽 "It’s been one of the most valuable, enriching and life-affirming experiences of my life"

 

 

 

👉🏽 "I think this was one of the most profound learnings I have had about the type of life I want."

 

 

 

 The registration link: https://forms.gle/PVfveWhvFFeAg1zL6 

 

Connect with Max Trombly:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/maxtrombly/

Website - https://www.ashiftinbeing.com/

Tik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@maxtrombly