Episode 14: People Pleasing Patterns and Breaking Free

Love is the most profound and intricate emotion known to humanity, it has the power to uplift, inspire, and transform lives. Yet, amidst its brilliance, we often find a shadow lurking in the corners - insecurity. This baffling aspect of human nature has puzzled psychologists, philosophers, and poets alike for centuries. Today, we’ll delve into the underlying reasons behind why people are insecure in love and attempt to shed light on this complex emotional landscape. We will also look at ways in which you can take charge of your thoughts and feelings and combat these insecurities. 

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Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mental health, well-being and relationships podcast is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

In the pursuit of our dreams, fear often acts as a formidable adversary, shackling us with self-doubt and preventing us from taking that leap of faith. This blog delves into the profound impact of fear on our ambitions, supported by research and expert insights. Join us as we explore the psychological barriers that fear erects and unveil strategies to unlock the courage needed to pursue dreams unencumbered.

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https://www.feistymermaids.com/blog

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@FeistyMermaids on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube an TikTok

About Feisty Mermaids:

Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

I probably could have avoided many unsuccessful relationships and marriages if I listened to my intuition! This episode is all about listening to that gut feeling and understanding the science behind our intuition. We will talk about the difference between intuition and fear.

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https://www.feistymermaids.com/blog

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@FeistyMermaids on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube an TikTok

About Feisty Mermaids:

Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

It's been a hectic summer and after a short summer break, I am back! I meant to post this episode around the 4th of July, but the stories are still relevant. The US sought independence from the British (ignore the mistake on the audio where I said the French... I was clearly distracted), the #FreeBritney movement is still strong and she is finally making headway, and my story of how a disastrous divorce left me wondering if there was a price for my freedom - and how much was I going to be willing to pay.

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@FeistyMermaids on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube an TikTok

About Feisty Mermaids:

Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

As I look back in many of my relationships, I realize that I've often mistaken all kinds of different emotions for what I thought was love. How do I know if this is love? I would often ask myself, and the answer is not always that simple. There were needs I needed to met and I simply make the mistake of thinking the meeting of those needs was love.

In this podcast I  will share three stories where I made the mistake of thinking I was in love, when in reality I was meeting a different kind of need.

Website:

https://www.feistymermaids.com/

@FeistyMermaids on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube an TikTok

About Feisty Mermaids:

Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

In this episode I reflect on my daughter's 7th birthday and the dreams we all had at that age. Getting one year older means different things to different people and as I grow old er, I find more wisdom in my experiences. Join me as we think about what a trip around the sun can bring.

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https://www.feistymermaids.com/post/stop-trying-to-please-everyone

Website:

https://www.feistymermaids.com/

About Feisty Mermaids:

Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

In this episode I will explore the way sometimes people make me feel. I've learned it is critical to understand these feelings but to also know I am in control of how I react to these feelings. Research suggests we all have an emotional signature, what is yours? 

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https://www.feistymermaids.com/post/stop-trying-to-please-everyone

Website:

https://www.feistymermaids.com/

About Feisty Mermaids:

Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

After reading the story of a woman being assaulted on her way home by a police officer in London it is clear women are not safe. In this episode Vanessa talks about the prevalence of sexual violence against women and girls and shares the inequality she faces when preparing to meet someone new on a date.

Blog:
https://www.feistymermaids.com/post/stop-trying-to-please-everyone

Website:
https://www.feistymermaids.com/

About Feisty Mermaids:
Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

One of the biggest discoveries I made was to understand my patterns of wanting to please others. I had built my life wanting to make sure everyone in my life was happy. I hated it when people were mad at me and I often internalized other people’s feelings as something I had caused and was responsible for fixing. I felt depleted, like no matter how much I gave, it was never good enough.
In this podcast I  will walk you through a people pleaser checklist and help you break patterns.

Blog:
https://www.feistymermaids.com/post/stop-trying-to-please-everyone

Website:
https://www.feistymermaids.com/

About Feisty Mermaids:
Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.

At some point it is easy to start forgetting your dreams and approach life in a pragmatic and practical way. I didn't want to live a life with regrets and get to the end of my life knowing I could have done so much more. I knew I needed to start the journey towards finding my purpose. It's taken me three years, but I've developed these 7 steps on how to find your purpose, read more and listen to the best self-help podcast 

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https://www.feistymermaids.com/post/dying-without-a-purpose

Website:
https://www.feistymermaids.com/

About Feisty Mermaids:
Mermaids embody the qualities we hold inside and are sometimes too afraid to show. They are feminine, brave, adventurous, sensual and have uncanny wisdom and intuition. Feisty Mermaids is a podcast and blog with stories of inspiration, relationships and community. Vanessa May shares her journey and those of her featured guests, in hopes you will feel inspired to take on the world even when you are too exhausted to find north.

Life is about lessons, belonging and authenticity. This mermaid lifestyle blog, podcast and mermaid leggings outfit clothing store is about knowing there is growth in every encounter, having the courage to live life on your own terms, creating a path where there isn't one, and knowing you are limitless.